Making my profile intriguing as possible

Hey FunCouple - start your own thread (so that your advice doesn't get confused with that given to the OP) and we'll be happy to help.

I think our needs help as will. We are less than a year into it and time for an updates profile. Thank you

I don't disagree with you, OP. Because, yeah, that interested in the details of someone's cock means you need to meet. And yet. There is a range of reasons for wanting to see a dick pic and some of them might make sense to you. So, maybe consider that.

I have a friend who isn't a swinger. She uses Tinder and won't meet a guy unless she's seen his dick. Apparently it's the act of being willing to do what she asks in exactly the way she tells them to do it that is important to her. She could care less about their cocks. Anecdotes aren't data, but she insists this way she meets quality men who have the traits that work for her.

Maaaannnnnnn.....

I flat out don't care if you think I have a big dick or not. To me, you are that intrigued to see it, let's schedule a meet. You will have all access to sit next to me, feel me up and see if I'm worth it. I probably be hard during drink because the woman will be stunning.

I don't like the assumption. I hate the expectation. I just want to vibe with the right people. I am confident you won't be disappointed. I wont send it even if it was asked. That to me is childish especially if on their profile they say, chemistry a must - blah blah blah lol

Thank you for attending my TED talk.

As I posted earlier today on another forum - sarcasm font isn't supported on SLS!

I try to stay out of trouble but sometimes I just can't help myself.

"No woman has ever told my husband: 'Fuck me with that perfectly adequate Jewish cock.'"

It seems a little rude, but I can if you want. Late September or early October, maybe? ;-)

I will never understand the dick pic phenomenon. Penetration is the easiest route to orgasm for me, but I have no earthly use for a dick pic. I can't fuck it, a picture tells me nothing about skill level of the man attached, and I'm often baffled as to its purpose. Am I supposed to give you a trophy because you have a cock that I've now seen, even though I haven't asked to? Applaud? What is it for.

Yeah, I've asked, but never gotten a satisfactory answer.

Anyway, yeah, there's a definite fetish for black men with large dicks. I'm not sure what that's about either, but I'm not here for it.

I am not a huge fan of dick pics.

But... I'm also the kind of girl who can have an orgasm by letting the wind blow on my nipples or humping the bathroom sink. Dick size isn't very important to me. I'm totally fine with my husband's 6" Hebrew National.

But, as a black guy... well there are some women who have a thing. No woman has ever told my husband: "Fuck me with that perfectly adequate Jewish cock."

But black guys... There will be women who are into the fetish of a black guy with a large penis. There are also men who like to project their inadequacies onto black men as well. I can't believe I'm saying this, but it may not be a bad idea to have a few dick pics in your private section if you are as big as a Comcast remote. If you're not, don't do it. And don't show them to couples unless they very specifically ask for it.

@PhoebertAndWife - you are starting to make me feel that's the way to go....HAHAHAHA

Almost believed you.

I'm not sure why all of you that provided advice forgot to tell him to post 30 close up cock shots from 30 different angles...

Because we all know that any guy can get the girl if he overwhelms her with dick pics!

Hahah quite frankly idk why us guys want women to see their clocks via pictures. It is a phenomenon that I myself don't understand. I know I've come across profiles that has a prerequisite of size etc but I also believe in the element of surprise. Take it from me - I don't know my size and I don't care for it. I know I can please and thats what i expect to do. I also am not going to boast about my "skills". If the chemistry is right, I'm sure you will find out.

Anyway...Molly thank you for the kind words! I do want to be successful but I also want to be genuine. I appreciate all of your help!

Happy swinging!

Oh, nobody forgot. I think it's that at least some of us want him to succeed. :-p

I'm not sure why all of you that provided advice forgot to tell him to post 30 close up cock shots from 30 different angles...............

Your default photo might be my favorite photo of a guy ever. You have a great smile and it's going to get people opening up your profile to check you out.

So, let's fix some of the continuing issues and make your profile as inviting as your photo, hmmmm.

It's almost grammar or punctuation rather than content, which is great and an easy fix:

• dinner OR drinks

-I enjoy pleasing more than being pleased

• love receiving equally

Then the last three lines belong in Additional comments, which you need, because it's blank now and shouldn't be. Do you really want women to think you don't finish things? ;-)

• articulate and love to impress

• good food, hanging with

• love to attend house parties and clubs

• I was picked up by a couple

• a part of threesomes

• My life is private...discretion.

And other than that, unless I missed a comma somewhere, I think you're good.

My guy! I appreciate the compliment.

I've match with girls with no personality and lack of intellect. It wasn't stimulating enough conversationally to continue. It is raining here in NYC but surely I will take your advice regarding the pics this weekend when I am free.

Again, much appreciated.

way i dress.

Capitalize the I

You are seriously one handsome guy-I don’t understand why you’re not on Tinder getting more ass than a rump roast.

Get a picture of you at the beach or a pool as soon as you can. I also think you should get a picture of you playing baseball. You don’t even have to play baseball-just dress up in your uniform and have a friend take a picture of you in the batting cage like you’re about to swing.

If anyone interested in reading my updated profile, I would appreciate it.

It has been crazy with work so I haven't uploaded picture recommended by users helping me.

I appreciate any and all feedbacks.

This will be a hit-n-run review since it's been a crazy day. It looks like you've already made some changes - I'm not seeing some of the things that others have mentioned.

Definitely kill the two mirror selfies - immediately if not sooner. I'm not sure you really need four face pics so would probably delete the one in the black shirt with white earbud cord hanging and maybe delete the one in the suit. I know that only leaves you with three or four pictures but you're going to get some of you doing fun stuff - right? And another of you dressed nicely would be good as well.

Are you composing this on your phone? You are not sounding terribly articulate right now - it is almost like you're throwing words together without a care for sentence structure. Sit down at a computer and open a word processor and compose your text. Save it and come back tomorrow and see what needs editing. Read each sentence out loud and see if it makes sense. Then once you're happy with everything run a spell check and grammar check to catch what you missed. Only then should you copy & paste it to SLS.

Looking For sounds like the sound bite that clubs use to describe their clientele - the word select really isn't helpful. Are you looking for one time encounters, ongoing FWB relationships, something in between or all of the above - give us a clue! Description is what I think of when MsMolly refers to a word salad. Not terribly well thought out and just tossed together. Please use complete sentences and vary your sentence structure - all lists is not terribly appealing. I'm not sure where what you have in Fantasies belongs - maybe in Description. And Additional Comments probably would work in Fantasies if your sentences made sense.

Take your time with the next rewrite and I think you'll get closer to what you need to attract who you're looking for.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Sincerely to all - I appreciate the feedback! I re-read my profile responses and redid. Even I said "WTF" haha my stupidity to rushing through something rather than taking the time. I will consider all of your takes and implement it ASAP. Like i said i redid my profile response. Hopefully, it is better than the last.

About pictures - boy do I hate them haha even family pictures i try to be the camera man. Hate to be the center of attention but would be weird if I didnt have any at all. I am looking to adding more pictures with me doing an activity - maybe shooting a ball or something. Anyways, I appreciate it and i hope your guys review will only heighten my profile.

Hi. You've had the disclaimer, so I won't repeat it, but I will emphasize that our intentions are benign.

I actually really like all but two of your photos. Those two mirror shots can go and the sooner the better. Maybe substitute a photo or two of you doing something interesting, possibly with your shirt off for Mrs. C. And enlist a friend to take a bunch of photos so you can pick the best.

I'll get to how to do your profile in a moment, but first, as one of those older women, a statement of interest like you have here (differently worded, perhaps) would overcome my qualms about the age difference. There is a qualitative difference between those who are neutral about a woman's age and those who actively seek older women and I think it will work in your favor more often than not.

Onto your profile and it ain't gonna be fun.

Your tagline is not only confusing, it unfortunately references the #MeToo movement. Not good, so go for something else. Short and clever is your best approach, but short and serviceable will do.

In Looking For, it's about others. I mean, sure, it's meant to be a direct statement of what you're looking for, but centered enough around those you're looking for that people can see themselves. With what you have now, I'd only keep one sentence, the one about having a thing for someone much older, but rephrase it to say you've always had a thing for older women, including those much older. That way, you easily capture the 40-70 year olds without insulting the 40 year olds, who won't be thinking of themselves as older. If that makes sense.

So, leaving out reinvention, what you desire and your aims, you need to add more content. So say more about who you're looking for. If you wouldn't turn down a hot 25 year old, then say women before further refining it to include an interest in older to much older women. And then say something about what you're looking for. If it's a series of one nighters, that's great. So is a FWB thing. But do say something about the what.

In Description, you have the basic components already, particularly if you weave in the stuff you've stuck in Additional comments, but again you need more. Also, I don't need to know you hate describing yourself. Or, if I know that, then the first question, because I'm evil like that, would be to have you tell me about yourself. So, it's either useless information or it's far too useful, so leave it out. You can also leave out the part where you say you have a great smile. Your photos are clear about that and it's better to let them do the talking about your smile.

In addition to your list of traits - maybe compress, maybe expand, but do use complete sentences - tell us something about you. Not just who you are, but what you like to do. What gets you out of bed in the morning? What is an interesting detail? I get not wanting to talk about yourself, but this is the place to give enough that others are intrigued.

Fantasies looks like you threw random words up. Do a little thinking and then write it out in complete sentences. Also, MMF is not the same thing as MFM, which is what I think you want there, given your lack of curiosity.

Additional comments, since you'll be using what's there now elsewhere, needs something. Best if you can be charming and end on a positive note.

Hope that helps. Good luck! And I also hope you keep coming back to check your changes.

Standard disclaimer: All the comments you'll hear come from a supportive place from people who really want you to succeed. Unfortunately the comments may come across as harsh, but truths can sometimes sting a little. Think of it like medicine...it may taste a little bitter and be hard to swallow, but ultimately they'll make things better.

For the first time I'm going to recommend a shirtless pic. You've got plenty of pics showing you're well-dressed and handsome, so lose the obvious selfies. One face shot, one suit shot should be enough. Get a pic at the pool, beach, spa, rock climbing, volleyball, basketball...something with context beyond the classic shirtless bathroom selfie. Velma will say more about this, trust her, she knows what she's doing.

Unfortunately you're not coming across as articulate as your pictures might suggest you to be. It's rare for me to say this, but you should start over completely.

Why? Your tagline makes no sense. I can't even recommend how to fix it because it makes so little sense Mrs. C would click to the next profile immediately and she is naturally attracted to intelligent men of color.

There's self-deprecating lines ("hate describing myself", "at least I believe I am"), the "re-inventing myself" line doesn't send a message of stability, and we get it...you want an older woman. The whole thing seems disjointed and will likely turn off anyone who is truly seeking an intelligent, articulate single male.

Here's my suggestion on how to start over: Put together a two-minute elevator speech about yourself. Imagine you're all alone with the cougar of your dreams, but you've only got the time it takes to get to her floor to sell yourself as someone she'd like to get a drink with and possibly get naked with.

What's the point of this exercise? Here's another first (quoting Eminem here), but no one has ever said it better: "You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow. This opportunity comes once in a lifetime" You'd be entertaining/witty/attention-grabbing. You wouldn't waste time saying the same thing twice. You'd make sure every word counts. You'd prioritize what you wanted to say to make sure the important things were said in case she gets to her floor early.

Start there, then get back to us with the updated profile.

Normally, I don't like selfies, but you're a handsome guy and look like a model. So I would leave the pictures alone. Maybe head to the beach this summer and take one picture in a swimsuit - just have someone else take it so I know you have a life.

Your profile is meh... I would help you with it if GGMM doesn't come along, but I have a meeting soon and have to get going.

This line:

Older women my preference

As an "older" woman, this makes me uncomfortable. I don't like the idea of "teaching" a younger man or being some boy's fantasy.

In general, you aren't just competing with every other guy out there, you are also competing with our husbands. Are you more interesting than my husband? My husband has been on four continents and two wars. He's a marathon runner and triathlete. He started four businesses. He speaks three languages.

What have you got to offer as a single man that can compete with that? I often give single men this advice: in order to be a ladies man, you have to be a man's man first. Learn how to shoot a gun. Build a fire. Fly a plane. Fix a car. Cook 5 good meals. Dig for dinosaur bones. Work as a rescue worker with the Cajun Navy.

Already do those things? Tell me about it, in your words on your profile.

Hello,
New to the site but I haven't been able to talk let alone attract anyone from the site. I try to be unique about my approach by not jumping to the obvious, complimenting with respect and kindness. Profiles I've always seem by rudeness, aggressiveness and lack of awareness. Any bit of advice will help!
Thanks in advance.