FredTammy, I remember being really impressed by the way you incorporated just what you needed out of all the advice you received. That's kind of how the process is meant to work. I also remember thinking how gracious and flexible you were and that you'd be exactly what the right playmates would be looking for. I know it's not easy being vulnerable and asking for a critique.
GGMM I completely agree. And yourself and Velma as well as others have helped me greatly with my profile which I feel is a work in progress. Even as we learn what we should and should not have in our profile, one piece of advise still stands out to me. One person told me to look at our own profile as if we were opening up another couples profile and read it. after looking at the profile reading it and looking at the pictures, stop and ask yourself, would you reach out to this couple? made a world of difference in how we read the profiles of others, as well as changes we make and are still making to ours.
I think I need a special kind of fluffer, someone who would cut/paste my responses to people who block me because they don't like what I have to say. I wonder what I could offer in trade? ;-)
I suspect the OP has departed these shores, but in case some other new fish runs across this thread and is terrified to ask for a profile review, here's the deal, at least from my vantage point.
Almost all of my work life has been spent in customer service, sales and marketing, so basically addressing and overcoming objections. I've spent the past 20 years advising non-profits in how to increase their reach in their communities and how to maximize their donations through thoughtful donor development. Analyzing what might be roadblocks in people's profiles uses the same skill set, albeit for different aims.
So, why am I invested in removing those roadblocks? Because I think the world would be a vastly better place if people got the kind and amount of sex they wanted and a lot of times what gets in the way is the ability to communicate clearly about their desires and their strengths, while avoiding airing their unthinking self-sabotage or social malfunctions.
And why am I being mean to people on the internet? That's also pretty simple, because first of all I'm not being mean. I'm being blunt and I'm channeling all the objections that people might or might not be articulating as they shake their heads and close your profile, never to contact you or meet you for coffee. You're just another "no," you know? But remove the detritus and spiff up your photos and unless they have a note telling themselves you're a no, they might rediscover your profile and be excited about meeting you. I'm not sure how many meetings it takes to find compatible playmates, but meeting is a good first step. It doesn't matter how seemingly harsh my critique might be, it does not come with disapproval or dislike. It's jJust a blunt assessment of what I see in what you wrote, and I'm assessing from the vantage point of your target market.
Want to know what happens when I read a profile of someone who contacts me? Nearly all are an immediate no and I don't even think about why. They're just a "no." I don't disapprove of them, I'm not critical of them, they're just not for me and I send them a polite note and rarely think of them again. I think that may be a pretty common approach.
When you come for a profile review though, you want to know why people are saying nope and closing your profile. So, a lot of times, the answer is going to sound harsh, because there is a critical eye being brought to the process, for your benefit and because you asked for it. And at the end, if you're smart, you take what you hear and do what seems right to you, ignoring some things, adapting others, and fully adopting a few.
There is a difference between having thick skin and responding to body shaming and being called Liars. have a nice day
Just because you asked for no further comments is exactly why I am commenting.
A while back I also asked for some advice on our profile and was given some very good advice similar to what I saw here. So lat me point this out. I could give you the best advise in the world to have the couples, singles whatever beating your door down, however I don't feel you would listen to ANY of it, since you were given advise a while ago as well and chose to ignore that as well. When someone asks if their profile reads pompous or egotistical, it is easy you don's need an answer from anyone else you already know it is. When we re-wrote ours my wife and I both sat down and added parts to it till we both agreed on what we posted. Yours reads more like a single man wrote it who happens to be married.
Best of luck to you in whatever you are looking for, and you can take all of the advice given for whatever you decide to read out of it.
just so we're clear, please do not respond to this thread or any of our threads on this page. the premise is fun, the people responding make it not.
Since we are human, the things written about something that's supposed to be fun are unacceptable to us.
Since there is no delete function on these threads, just please read and do not respond.
Thank you,
ali and erik
I think the pictures you have are okay for now. If you two really do race, you should throw up a few finish line pictures. Just blur your bib numbers as well.
As we are both public figures, face pictures and the like are on request only. We apologize we can’t be more open, yet, but discretion allows us to keep our jobs and our kids from any kind of harassment that may occur.
You are not as important as you think you are. I guarantee it. I would take out this explanation out. Most people keep their face pics in the private section, you really don't need an explanation. That line above makes you seem really douchy.
He's won a few marathons and is an Ironman triathlete.
Now you've reached Rich Roll level douchiness. Okay, what do to about his line? We're triathletes - I mainly do sprint distances although my husband does Iron-distance events. So I get it, you're proud of you accomplishments So hearing "won a few marathons" is kind of fishy to me because you don't look like Eliud Kipchog or and it's hard to believe that you "won a few." It's flippant, like winning was as easy as like picking up a few packs of gum from the impulse rack at CVS. I also find it weird that you claim to be a triathlete and don't have a picture of your bike - hell. I had a picture of me IN BED WITH MY BIKE. So you may have won a few marathons and did an Ironman or two, but this language sounds a little fishy for someone who races as well.
What would David Goggins do? Maybe just change this to "He's a marathoner and triathlete."
She – Would love to have a DP experience
Smart girl.
The second would be finding a way to allow her to squirt.
I don't believe this line either. This sounds like it was written by the man. Just about any woman here can testify to the un-sexyness of a man fingering you like they are trying to poke a hole in a layer of Saran wrap. No woman wants this. Also note that every woman I know who squirts finds it to be the biggest pain in the ass. Only men seem to like it, but that's probably because they don't have to do the laundry.
I would take this out. Goal-oriented sex is usually a bad idea and this line will bring out the weirdos and their fingers and just result in a bruised ego and vagina for your wife.
That's about it for now. I would rewrite and repost.
