Honest profile feedback

Thanks again to everyone for the great tips and opinions. All very good advice and taken in the vain in which it was given...to help us create a better profile. Sometimes the harshest criticism is the best kind, so no offense taken whatsoever.

We have made a few adjustments to our profile (currently still pending) and plan to take new photos and re-work some of the existing photos over the weekend. Once the "new and hopefully improved" profile is up we'd love additional comments and suggestions. It's certainly a work in progress!

I know I didn't give the full disclaimer and I'm sorry for it. I only had as much time as it took my stylist to mix up my color, because although she knows I have an "alternative" lifestyle and that there are people in my life other than my significant other, I'd rather not do the full disclosure thing in a salon.

I also omitted the part where I suggest you collect opinions, make whatever changes sound good and then come back for a review. That part's kind of important too.

MsMolly didn't give you her full disclaimer and I'm not so eloquent but just remember that everything said is about your profile, not you personally.

Your profile gives the impression that it's all about you except for one fleeting sentence buried in the middle about wanting interesting, playful and fun couples.

So you need to think about who you're looking for (what kind of ladies & couples) and what you'd like to do with them (one-time encounters, on-going FWB relationships or something else) and put that in Looking For. You have the start of Description if you move some of what's in Looking For but you should eliminate anything already in your stats (like age) or that shows in pictures (petite, curvy, amazing smile). Expand on the your vanilla interests - you want to let others find things in common to encourage them to meet you. Fantasies is where you want to emphasize what you've enjoyed about swinging and what you'd like to try. And Additional Comments is your last chance to make a positive impression.

As MsMolly noted your toggles show no interest in single gentlemen so you can delete the bit about them - if you change your mind in the future just open your toggles and mention them in Looking For.

Velma is right about obscuring your faces - your default picture isn't obscured so why bother with the rest (the sunglasses aren't obscuring much). The method you used isn't terribly annoying to me but you need to do all or none. Your pictures aren't horrid but a few more fully dressed pictures would be good - either how you'd show up for a first meet or out doing something fun.

Good luck !

~Phoebert's Wife

Yup. ;)

"Lastly, you aren't a young 49."

Said the 97 year old young lady... ;-)

Hi. It's a quickie from me too. I'm going to say things that might seem mean. They aren't meant that way and the intent is constructive.

First, Looking For is the section meant to be about others. Yours has no indication you're looking for anyone. Move what you have to Description and use this section to say who you're looking for and what, focusing very directly on others.

Do not leave any sections blank, because you're just wasting an opportunity to connect.

You have single men blocked, so you needn't talk to them, which will save you from ending on a negative note. Yes, expressing no interest is a block, despite what SLS says.

Lastly, you aren't a young 49. You merely feel younger than your preconceived notions of what being 49 means. That, coupled with your asymmetrical age range indicates you're not entirely comfortable with your ages and I'd be raising my eyebrows if you contacted me.

And that's all I have time for.

Good luck.

Thanks for the feedback! We did kind of throw things together with what we had available and better photos were already high on the list of things we need to add...your thoughts confirm that. Will definitely check out your pics for inspiration.

I granted you access to a private gallery to show you the kind of pictures you should have.

I really don’t have a lot of time right now, so I will try to look back at your profile later.

First of all either hide your faces or show them.
None of this half and half shit.

Second, I don’t like the tool you used to cover your faces. The pattern is distracting. Make it black, white or a blur.

Third, I think most of your pictures are selfies. You need 5 core pictures and all have to be full-body.

Take a look at the gallery I opened for you and follow that advice.

New here and looking to put our best foot forward. Would appreciate any and all honest reviews of our profile. The good, the bad and the ugly...so to speak. Especially interested in any information that may be missing or potentially confusing, but all constructive criticism is welcome! Thanks in advance for taking the time.