Hey Just looking for advice.

Thanks again all. I’m working on it.

Hey Marine - a loud Philly yoooooo to the leatherneck with sunglasses in MI; thank you for your service, and the chance to review your profile and to offer some advice.

The ladies before me beat your trees - I’m in agreement entirely with them - and now I’m here for Field Day.

After a blink of my eyes at the top half of your profile, three things stand out; unwelcoming black sunglasses, an age limit that's as low as it goes, and a tag line that I’ve only heard from mid-western white-guys “Kinky ladies hit me up.” Let’s say good initiative, bad judgement on all three.

The eyes are the window to the soul. We know it, and so did William Shakespeare back in the day. I see your eyes in one picture, with a woman by your side, and you can edit her out, and use that one as a profile pic. That pic's more welcoming, less ominous and less brooding-male-cool then every other one in your collection. Others I'm sure will comment on pictures.

Still on the top of your page, an age limit at 18 brings with-it admiration, disdain, and the need for me to break it down Barney style about sex and SLS. There’s a world of difference between hooking up with a vanilla 18 year old and hooking up on SLS with someone who says they’re 18 and in the lifestyle (LS). On SLS, it unlikely they’re 18, unlikely they’re female, and it's unlikely at all that SLS will be your connection to 18 y.o’s. Your audience on SLS are 30-40-50 somethings and within that population you'll find all the sex you can handle.

The bottom half of your profile isn’t present and accounted for. 125 words and a one line sentence in three of four main categories says skating - let’s get your beef in there. (From the forum Better Profiles / Best Profile Practices to Follow.) “"I find it appealing when I’m greeted by 2-3 paragraphs per section and 1-3 sentences in each paragraph; roughly 350-500 words in an overall profile. More words or less are noticeable and each marks the difference between too much to think about versus nothing worth reading."“

The largest conflict with your profile is it’s duel nature (Nothing about you, this is only about your profile words) My mind connects your screen name with the ideals of always faithful, always loyal, and phrases like "Let’s talk fantasies in person.” and "Send a bird, and we’ll figure out a better way to chat” come at me like ginormous creepster bombs. “I’m average to tall” and “In and out of the bedroom” count me in with njnybiwfemme "gives the impression you threw it together in mere minutes.”

No-one here's suggesting Ninja Juice, only consistency and more discipline. Take off the sunglasses, show us the Marine you are, give us some beef and fill us with stories about the people you want to meet. And make sure we know you're safe and secure by following some bottom-line security stuff yourself, like <<first meetings in public places are important>> or << meeting me for coffee or a breakfast is a good start to the day. Whether we click or not, there’s a full day ahead>> or <<When I meet couples I like to phone verify first so I know who I’m meeting.>> or <<I’m up for meeting the old fashion way, face to face and in a public place.>> Project your inner “Semper Fidelis”, and others will feel it.

Thanks for the chance to review and I hope I helped.

Hi Marine. First, you could help yourself out if you would make post in this thread from your couples profile as well. That way people could weigh in on both without having to go hunting. Other than that, I'm hoping you know how this works, because otherwise it can feel unpleasantly like you're being attacked. The intent is benign, I promise. As in, I want you to get laid.

So, first, your photos. You have multiple copies of your default (or SLS has introduced a stutter in your gallery) and there is an inexplicable photo of you and a woman. Well, inexplicable based on your profile, anyway. That one, as cute as it is, should probably go in a private gallery so that people only see it after you have enough of a positive response that it's worthwhile explaining your situation. I mean, I'd explain it at the outset, but you haven't so I'm operating as if there's a reason for the omission. Other than that, you might want to rethink the selfies with you looking down at the camera. It's not a flattering angle.

You are 43 and your age range is 18 to 45. That means every woman over 35 who has even a little self respect will look at your profile, roll her eyes and move on to the next man. Are you uncomfortable with your current age? Feel like you'd be trading down with a 48 year old woman? That's the impression your age range gives. At the very least, change your lower range to 25. Not only are there very few 18 year olds who swing, none of them would be deterred by being too young for you, so you won't be losing anything.

In Looking For, on going fun is a meaningless term. Seriously, who are you looking for and what are you looking for from them. Do you want friends? A social life? A fuck buddy? Also, there are actually very few single women on sites like this, so by expressing very limited interest in couples, you're looking at a harder task than you might realize. Anyway, say more here and do your best to be appealing in some way.

Description doesn't need quite as much work. But it does need some. What does it mean to be very clean? Are you differentiating yourself from dirty people? I know that sounds sarcastic and it kinda is, but it's not at you, more the impression that it gives to talk about cleanliness on a swingers site. Don't bother with "Don't be shy," which is a really tired cliché, plus it won't work. Women aren't going to email you in droves. You might get one or two a month and that's if you have a killer profile with great photos. Other than that, just lose the lol. This isn't a text message, it's a marketing piece and your primary way of attracting interest.

Fantasies - No, let's not. Put together one or two sentences about your experiences and a quick pass on one or more of your fantasies.

Additional comments - Again, women aren't going to be contacting you. You will have to do the work. Also, the whole better way to chat thing will lose you at least half your audience. When I stick with SLS mails, nobody sends me a fucking dick pick, Guess what happens with other options. Yeah, there are exceptions, but most of us try to avoid being skeeved by yet another guy who thinks his dick is so special that he just has to send a photo. Again, yes, sarcastic, but not at you. Anyway, it's a red flag and you'd be better off just sucking it up and checking your SLS account on the regular. You can set it up so that you get notifications in email.

Good luck. I hope you get a lot of opinions and make some changes.

Looking for profile critique, and advice. Just trying to up my/our game. Couples profile is Happyfreakyswingingcouple.

Thanks to all in advance.