Totally agree with VelmaAndShaggy
The one exception I make is for the train track pic. It's cute. But overall, I find myself agree'ing with what they're saying.
I would include one other thing. You can't help that you're young. You CAN help acting like you're young.
Once again - it's all about the profile not you personally. And I'm with the others in not liking your profile.
A profile is part resume and part advertisement. It needs to be positive and enticing to attract other swingers. Poor spelling and grammar does not help win you a job, sell a product or arrange a playdate. The care and effort you put into crafting your profile is one way to demonstrate you will expend the same careful effort as a potential playmate.
You cannot control others so don't waste valuable real estate trying - besides it generally pisses other adults off. I don't put up with my 40 year old kids telling me how to act or what to do - and they have more life experience than you and are much more tactful than your profile text.
Don't waste additional real estate repeating information that is in your stats or shows in your pictures (so delete most of Description). Do tell us how you have fun and what you like to do and want to try - leave out all the things you don't want to do (or rephrase in a positive manner).
MsMolly and CatchyNickname have given you great advice - read it again and pretend I said it also.
Velma's DEBauCH system for the core pictures in your public profile is great. In addition to her specific advice remember to smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies. Selfies are rarely flattering and if there are many I always wonder if you have friends. Most anyone will be glad to take a picture for you - often they'll take several to make sure you get a good one.
Please do let us know when you've updated your profile and it has been approved - we'll be happy to help refine if necessary.
Good luck and have fun!
~Phoebert's Wife
Disclaimer: What we are going to say is about your profile, not you. Don't take it personal. It's meant to help.
Where to start...over. Start over. That's serious, sincere advice.
Your profile is a collection of grammatical errors, contradictions and a whole lot of capslocked NOPE. It screams "He's on a mammoth hunt" as Velma would say. There really isn't a line in there I'd keep. Srsly.
Read through the other threads and you'll get a good idea of what goes in each section. Read a BUNCH of them...minimum 20, and you'd be better off with 50. Take notes, both on what should be in each section and things you liked about other peoples profiles. You'll find what a Mammoth Hunt is during that homework so we'll know if you actually did it or not.
Next, get on an actual computer (not a phone or tablet), use a word processing program (like Word) and compose your profile. Spell check it. Correct the grammatical errors, then put it in a new profile and come back.
That's a small part of why you're not getting responses...your profile as it stands feeds the narrative that you lack the maturity to be here. Whether you do or not is irrelevant. The more significant reason that you're not getting responses is that, at your age, most folks will dismiss you because you're young enough to be their children if they're at the upper end of your age range. Your writing is like their children's. Your attitude is like their children's. Your pictures look like their children. The thought of fucking their children is do creepy that they're not going to respond to your overtures or initiate contact themselves.
How do you fix it? First, write a profile that would get you an "A" in a College English Honors class. Second, take the pictures that Velma suggested. Third, between the two of them find a way to communicate that you're mature, confident, committed _adults_ that are in this together. I admit I'm not sure how you do that since you couldn't meet for a drink in our state because one of you is too young to do so legally, but that's your best route forward.
Hi. I really hope you read some of the other threads in this section and are prepared for how blunt the advice can be. It can feel really intrusive and even mean, particularly if the commenter doesn't like your profile, which I don't. Please read everything with the lens that the aim is to highlight the things that are getting in your way of your attaining your goals.
So, first, photos. You're not in your 80s, so it shouldn't be a problem figuring out how to turn your photos so they're right side up. Other than that, get rid of duplicates (I really don't need heart palpitations twice from seeing someone on train tracks) and be way more judicious about how the two of you look in photos. Not every angle is flattering to every person.
For the rest, from your tagline to the last line, your profile is full of spelling and grammar errors and makes a much worse impression than it needs to. So, my first suggestion is to not compose or edit your profile from your phone and my second is to use the spelling and grammar programs that would help.
As far as content is concerned, you sound like a bunch of cranky old people, full of cliches and negativity. You're already way behind the curve because of your ages - it's unusual to find anyone under 35 who swings -so don't make it worse with a recycled profile full of drek.
And particularly don't call yourselves "fun" if you can't demonstrate it.
I'm out of time and can't stick around to give you more specific advice other than this:
Looking For is meant to be about other people. It's not a place where all your don'ts go to die.
Description shouldn't duplicate anything that is already evident in your photos or toggles. Instead, talk about yourselves as people, including your interests.
Fantasies - Age is more than a number, when most of the people on this site are more than old enough to be your parents.
Additional comments needs to end on a high note.
Good luck. Collect other advice and make changes. Then come back for a review.
I mainly review pictures. To start, I opened a private gallery for you to show you the kind of pictures you should have.
I'm going to say some stuff that may be hard to hear. I'm only saying it because I want you to be successful.
I want you to kill all of your pictures except the second picture. Some of them aren't rotated correctly and some are just weird. I don't know why one of you is on a railroad track.
Now I'm gonna get real with you. I'm a size 12. I pose in a very specific way in all of my pictures to make myself look slimmer. Take a look at my private gallery that I opened for you. There are some tricks you can use that will make you look amazing. Pay special attention to my section on how to hold your arms.
I created something I called the DEBauCH method. You need 5 core pictures - a DATE picture to show what you would look like if you showed up for a date. An EVENT picture to show you have a life outside of swinging. A BEACH or Pool picture to show off your bodies, a picture of the CHICK and a picture of HIM.
I follow this method almost exactly. I spend my first 5 pictures using the DEBauCH method. I spend the next few pictures showing myself nude or in swimsuits to hook in the guys.
Take some new pictures. Make sure they are all full-bodied pictures and taken by someone else. Then repost here and we can re-review.
We get a tone of views but haven't had any luck pass that! Love to hear your input of how we can help that!
