Mixed, no one brought it up so I’ll ask, what kind of emails do you send. If your are sending one liners or impersonal spam you won’t have much luck or much replies.
Seems to me most guys rely on spam. Most think it’s cleverly written and most of them are wrong.
~rabbit~
Sometimes - sometimes not.
If you are contacting single ladies you have to be aware that they are a small group in high demand. Your emails will have to be on target to persuade them to look at your profile. And then your profile has to be interesting to elicit a response. Even if you do everything really well you will probably never reach the 20% response rate (included "no thanks" replies) that is considered reasonably good.
Your profile isn't great - there is not much there telling me what makes you interesting or fun. And you have a few pictures that should be deleted (the bathroom selfie & along the lake with the hand gestures). So even if your initial email get them looking at your profile you're probably not getting a favorable response (no response is essentially a "no thanks" reply).
So work on making your profile more appealing and learn to craft an enticing email - and know that this is not necessarily the place to find a quick encounter.
~Phoebert's Wife
And there you have an example of an approach likely to be highly successful. ;-)
wiggles puppet at Molly
The thing is, I don't think it's passivity, at least not entirely. That's why I mentioned responsiveness and neurobiology.
On a personal level, I basically don't notice other people on a sexual level unless they introduce the idea. In my case, it isn't really conditioning so much as that I'm a responder to desire rather than an initiator. Which is probably a good thing or I'd never get anything done.
That's true under almost all circumstances. It doesn't take much for me to respond though. A wink might do it, you know?
Even when I was dating-I would reach out to men And the response rate was amazing.
This was also one of the ways I used to sleep with women-never on line-but at a hotel bar or Convention.
I noticed long ago that if you roll In With confidence you can pretty much get anyone to sleep with you.
But a lot of women tend to hang back and want to be pursued-maybe its society or social mores.
But then again I also never followed the social Mores. I never wanted kids. I never wanted to get married. I never wanted an amazing wedding.
Think a lot of women are doing themselves a disservice by being passive, but it’s tough to change thousands of years of conditioning.
#notallwomen
These are huge variations in individuals, but generally more women are responders than initiators. Some of it is likely social conditioning, some of it neurobiology related to how and why women experience the onset of desire.
Some women do. I do, but I’m not like most women.
My husband has veto power but he normally just goes along and fucks who I tell him to fuck. It’s just easier that way.
Some women will reach out when they see someone they like, but you can't depend on that. If you want to make connections, you really need to make the effort yourself. Either that, or adjust your expectations.
I'll bet that the folks you've messaged have read at least 90% or better of your messages, it's just that the SLS software is rather klunky and isn't very accurate when it comes to identifying read/unread messages. The fact is, even if your profile and initial message is fantastic, you'll be doing VERY well to get about 20% responses, including the ones that say "no thanks". Frankly, it's the nature of the beast, and since you can't do anything about it, there's no reason to let it get you down.
Best of luck.
It's possible to see and read messages without opening them. That's likely what is happening for you.
There's nothing wrong with your profile, so it just may be there aren't a lot of solo women in your area and they're inundated with emails. Either that or your first email is so bad they can't be bothered.
And, no, women aren't going to completely overturn social convention and start initiating things before we know someone is interested.
I’ve tried messaging the ladies that catch my interest only to see the messages as never been opened. I don’t wanna be the guy flooding the inbox.
Would be nice if women messaged as they already know who they want.
Or maybe it’s me?
Thoughts?
