Any feedback is welcome

Your profile seems more in line with someone looking for a female to play with (assuming you made changes?), but the male half being there only for her still feels like a non-starter.

It "sounds" like you want to enlist the help of a female strictly to please your wife/SO. If so, why not say that in Looking For?

You are still swimming in a very small pool and the advice to attend parties is likely the best way to find what you're looking for.

There is only so much you can do with/to your profile. It's not like there are a lot of women looking for what you're offering and the ones that are probably get tons of emails already. Nothing beats face to face meetings in a house/hotel full of people that are actively looking for playmates.

Ok, so the first thing you need to understand - this isn't Amazon where you can order a Unicorn and have them sent in two days. There is a reson why they are so hard to find.

There are basically three types of "Unicorns" in the lifestyle. You have women who are in a relationship and play seperately - that's kind of me, but more on that later. You have older women who were in the LS and got divorced, but dind't want to give up their friends, and you have women who stopped giving a fuck about society's expectations and they wanted to explore their desires after they hit 40. So most of the unicorns you are going to find will be about 10 years above your age range. The kind of unicorns you seek are mostly in their 50's.

The idea of the smokin' hot 26 year old unicorn who wears high heels with her bathing suit does not exist.

I do play seperately - but it's almost always with women. Why? I'm not afraid of being raped by a woman. The odds of me meeting a couple and having sex with them without my husband there are essentially zero.

Think about this from a woman's perspective. You are 6', 225lbs. I'm 5'4, 179 lbs. You could murder me without a second thought. And you want me to meet you somewhere - maybe even your house - and I'm going to be naked. You are a big guy and have no idea what it's like to hear someone walking behind you at night or that moment of hesitation when an elevator door opens and you see a creepy guy.

I am not being unreasonable. As women, we are constantly on guard. We are constantly walking in the parking lot with our keys in our hand like brass knuckles. We move to a different subway car when we notice a creepy guy get on. This is something guys don't understand, but it's something we live with evey day.

So the odds of me accepting an offer to meet you outside of a club are pretty much zero as well. You should look into a club.

There are two clubs in Philadelphia - Pleasure Garden and Saints and Sinners. I prefer Pleasure Garden.

One final thing. If you are doing this to get a threesome for you, go to Las Vegas or Canada and get a professional. However, if you are doing this because your wife wants to experiment with another woman, my suggestion is to change your profile to a single female profile and let her play alone and explore. The odds of her getting laid increaste exponentially if she's running the show because men always fuck things up,

Ok, to start, I opened a private gallery for you to show you the kind of pictures you should have. I often say that you should have 5 sets of pictures using something I call the DEBauCH method. Meaning you need a picture of you two on a DATE, a pic at the BEACH, a pic at an EVENT like a 5K or Philles game, a picture of the CHICK and a pic of him. All pictures must be full body. Watch your backgrounds - I veto couples with a messy background,

Right now you have 2 of those five pictures - also, one more thing - you need a default picture. Go to TOOLS > Manage Pictures and set a default picture.

If you don't have face pictures in your private gallery, I'm not going to be interested in you. I want to say that again. If you don't have face pictures in your private section, I'm not going to be interested. I don't want to text or kik or email. A lot of people say they don't have face pictures in their private gallery for "privacy" reasons. I guarantee you aren't as important as you think you are.

Work on your pictures, work on your text and repost. I'm going to talk about unicorn theory in my next post.

Hi. I hope you've read some of the other threads, so that the bluntness of the advice you receive here will not surprise you. It's not meant to be unkind, it's meant to show where there are roadblocks between you and what you're hoping to find. I'm going to be very blunt, so be warned.

There are not a lot of solo women who find their playmates on line. You will find more at clubs and parties. If you find one who calls herself a unicorn, the likelihood is you have met someone who has more issues than National Geographic. Not always, just generally.

If you are hoping to go the on line route, you'll need to make some significant changes to your approach, which is currently of dubious value.

First, fix your toggles to reflect your actual interests or adjust your profile text to agree with your toggles. Right now you just look like you don't know what you want.

If you're leaving your profile open to couples hoping to find a wife who plays alone, that's great, but you should say so. And if you're looking for a woman, I'm unclear why you have toggled an interest in watching as well as full swap.

Your photos could use some work too. Clothed full length photos of you doing interesting things together are best. You might want to find a less distracting way of obscuring your faces.

On to your text...

Looking For is for who you're looking for and what you want. It's not for what you don't want. That means you have to change how you're expressing yourself. We are looking for a woman, single or married but playing separately with permission, for one time fun or maybe longer. That might or might not be true, but that's the kind of directness you want to demonstrate. What kind of person are you looking for? Some of that should be in this section too. If you only want w/w play, say that. If you're also looking for an FFM or an FMF (not sure if you know they're different), say that as well.

Description - Physical descriptions are best done with photos and your stats. This is the section where you talk about yourselves in a way that will make a woman want to meet with you. That you like GoT and vodka and think you're perfect won't do it. There are a lot of couples looking for a solo woman and your current unfocused effort full of typos will not make you stand out in any positive way. So, who are you as a couple? What makes you interesting? What makes you special and worth the time it takes to set up a meeting? Why pick you instead of one of the other dozens of couples that email a woman every month?

Fantasies needs an actual fantasy. Not too graphic, not too personal. What you have is better rewritten and put in Looking For. If you're saying you're looking for a woman only to play with her while he doesn't participate except with his own wife, you've just cut a small pool down to near zero. There's no point in playing with a couple if you aren't playing with both. Most of us that like playing solo with women don't want a guy there for that. Plus, the he only plays with his own partner just screams drama and nobody wants that.

Additional comments needs something. Don't put in that stupid warning, but don't leave it blank either.

Good luck and I really strongly suggest you go to parties or clubs instead, where you might find what you're looking for.

We’re a new couple looking for a a woman and would like to have some feedback on our profile.