Getting off

For us, nobody gets us off more than we can each other. We do absolutely get off with others most of the time. If anything, I have a harder time of it than the Mrs, but it doesn't mean I'm not absolutely enjoying myself.

One exception for the Mrs is that guys with up-turned dicks can hit her g-spot from missionary better than I can. I can't help it that my dick is more torpedo shaped, I tend to have more girth and stamina than most. Everyone brings something different to the table and you make the most of what you have, but the thing that tends to get us off when playing is more mental than physical.

We both enjoy seeing/hearing each other having a good time with others, and afterwards, it makes us just want to fuck each other silly. So in this case, if someone happens to have a certain "gift", we're happy about it rather than there being any jealousy.

Once even the slightest jealousy is involved, I can see it getting into people's heads where they hold back because they think it might make their partner feel inferior. I actually know someone like that and they wound up going to counseling and got things ironed out.

While sex can be somewhat better or worse with others, we mainly see it as "different". If one of us has an extra good time, all the better, but we know at this point that it doesn't create any sort of want that would ever impact our relationship. If someone is in the LS because they're trying to make up for something they're not getting at home (other than variety of course), that usually isn't going to end well and can definitely affect people's ability to get off with others.

Oh yes everyone.. let yourself go... mind and body ... and you will come many times with right guys swinging and in more places than a partner can usually do.. its FUN and we enjoy the new sensations and places to explore in ones body !

Especially with guys who KNOW what to do and have the length and girth to make it happen different from my husband ! Yes some cant but the special guys get it!

While we've only played with a handful of couples and no one besides my husband has ever gotten me off. I know it's me and not them. It's just the way I am. I still love sex and I always have a fun time. I swing for the benefit of touching, kissing, having fun and meeting some really great people. When we first started in the ls I was concerned about being a "tough orgasm-er" but I've learned to just roll with it and enjoy the playtime.

some people don't get off every time, but as long as i'm having fun it's all good. i know my husband will get me off later

Its not always about the orgasm with everyone. I'm the male. Once had a swinging partner who confided to me that she had been having sex since she was 14. She said she loved sex but had never had an orgasm! We got along famously in the horizontal mambo. Nobody became obsessed with getting off and we truly enjoyed each other.

My wife says that her experiences with men over 50 were that most of them never got it off but she did...lots!

I say swing on and don't sweat the orgasm! There are lots of ways to enjoy the nuances of an unfamiliar body without injecting the demand for an orgasm.

Your partner SHOULD be getting you off more than anyone else. They have been talking to you, experimenting with you, watching others with you and everything else, for a long period of time. They know your likes and dislikes, your body, where to touch and what speeds you like it.

I'm not sure why anybody new to you should be on their level right away

“ I don't mean to be rude, but some of you sound like you never actually swing. Never once encountered someone who just couldn't get in the right headspace, was off, or was a stubborn orgasm? It's just all multiple orgasms each outing.
Please...”

Random encounter, off night, every now and then isn’t the topic at hand. The OP’s issue was an often occurrence, I’m pretty sure that’s the point people are responding to.

I think I played with her. ;-)

In general though, I have not met a lot of women who don't get off eventually. What I have run into are women who are concerned that I'm getting tired or they're taking too long and sometimes the remedy has been cheerful persistence, other times it's been a conversation followed by cheerful persistence. Not because it's an ego thing and I have to, etc., but because it's fun and I love women's bodies. With men, it's often more voluntary, so unless they express some frustration, I just assume they're making a choice.

@2much. hahahaha

My girlfriend was the same, I always made her cum more and quicker than anyone else, only problem for me was the other ladies usually had a better tasting/feeling pussy.

We played with a lady at a party who told me she was like a bumper sticker... almost impossible to get off.

I don't mean to be rude, but some of you sound like you never actually swing. Never once encountered someone who just couldn't get in the right headspace, was off, or was a stubborn orgasm? It's just all multiple orgasms each outing.

Please...

When we play with a guy and he can’t get me off he will not be invited back .If a guy can’t get me off why would I need him.I have plenty of toys that I can use to get off on.I only use them when my husband is gone out of town.

Hmm not me .. I get off from the right guy always! Some that dont get me off are not invited back. its simple.

Neither of us have ever had any issues with other partners. Best friends and married 25 years, can’t imagine we could love each other more than we do. When we play it has nothing to do with love, and everything to do with fun. Can’t imagine it would be much fun if the Mrs. didn’t orgasm 5 or 10 times.

Being in love is the ultimate orgasm, which can only come from your partner. We love the lifestyle because it is fun, but great orgasms come from your partner. That is why we only play with people that are BI so we can have fun with something that we can't give to each other

While we don't have this issue, it is a common one. I've damn near gotten lock jaw because a wife and husband mentioned she'd never gotten off with another man. Challenge accepted!

My partner and I have a great sec life. He knows exactly what he is doing with my body and can make me cum almost on demand ;). We are experienced swingers and have enjoyed a lot of hot scenarios, but are swing partners seldom make me cum like my partner. Have you experienced the same?