Help on how to precede

Fetlife and OKcupid tend to have lots of poly people. However, the way that they tend to see things is often pretty different than swingers so proceed with caution and read up a lot on polyamory.

As far as finding a male in general, I think it is often difficult to find good ones regardless. Some lifestyle SM's would be interested. Some couples might be too for that matter depending on their rules. I mean if a guy in a couple started dating you, that would let his wife be a unicorn able to do whatever.

I need advice. My husband and I have been in the swing lifestyle for about 9 years, we met in the lifestyle. We decided to play separately about a year ago. I prefer to play with someone steady not jump person to person. I’ve had a hard time finding a male in my area to have this type of relationship with. So we have talked about trying out the poly lifestyle to find a male for just myself. How do I go about approaching a male about this. Any suggestions. By the way my husband is a truck driver and is gone away from home a lot.