We're free to go our own way at house parties and hotel events.
Either one can go off with a couple, half a couple, a single or a group as long as the other knows where we are.
That's the beauty of parties versus meeting just one couple at a time.
So for us we both have to agree to play.. even one on one. If they dont have a connection, good communication skills, nice looking, what we are seeking with a personality and class.. well we have called off several over the years.. neither one of us will take one for the team .. we both agree or its none.
25 plus years we have a good idea what we both enjoy and seek swinging.
We hopefully have a good sense of that person well before our meet after a discussion on phone and ones profile. If we all click its off to our home or hotel. WE see way to many people swinging with almost anyone but that doesn't cut it for us... we want that diamond in the rough who gets what we are seeking. It has worked out very well!
WE have been doing this long enough that we dont prolong it after a first meet.. its yea or ney!
Wondering other thoughts when deciding to play at events, M&G's, clubs.
Like everyone our like is full. When we go to LS events my wife is excited. It's fantastic. 90% of the time, Ms. Social Butterfly has met another couple and brings them to me or calls me over for an introduction and I can see by the smile on her face she wants to play. She's not shy, doesn't waste a minute, and within 3 minutes of conversation she already talked to the couple wants to play. In the majority of those cases I've met and chatted with the couple.
90% of the time this has been awesome. But in a couple of incident I might have wanted more opportunity to get to know them or used our established protocol to confirm a match.
We've discussed this more than once and I really encourage her at house parties type events to make her own calls.
Have you ever not been feeling a connection and encouraged your wife to play with the couple. I feel a little pressure to say yes, when they're all enthusiastic. I'm certainly more particular about a type or vibe. She knows that, but once she's out for the night, she's wants to play.
