weight and playing

you look fine. just do this

We'll weigh in on this thread.

First, candor and authenticity are expected in the LS. Data (height and weight) and photos that do not line up with reality might be your fantasy, but they are surely no one else's. It will be immediately evident if/when we meet that there is a "mismatch". Indeed, we either exchange current photos or get on a video call before we meet a new couple in person. This serves two purposes--it validates ongoing interest and it serves to manage expectations.

Second, weight is an index of health. It is not the only index, nor is it the most important index, but it is an index. Some who are heavy for height are densely muscled athletes. Others who are light for height have medical issues that they are managing to the best of their ability. HWP for us means "health-weight-proportionate". Put differently, it's a measure of self-care. We prefer to be around others who take care of themselves as best they can, and are realistic about the effort they make and the return they get on that effort. None of us is perfect--physically, mentally, emotionally. Each of us can work each day to do the best we can with what we've got.

I outweigh my picture by 162 pounds.

Full disclosure- I couldn't get the pictures to even register on the bathroom scale though.

Y'know, it could just be the wife's way of gently nudging you to show her love by asking you to get healthier. As a fellow Person of Pudge, I'd be grateful.

Doh!

:-D

Lmao

To slightly modify your situation as compared to mine. We are sort of in the same boat as you, but my weight is not the issue. Quite honestly it's my age. I am 10 years older than Tracy and quite frankly she is hot. I am not. She attracts many younger guys with younger wives that are all into her but the other wives often look at me as a dad type vs a fuckable type. She was losing out on a a lot of potentials due to the idea that it all had to go both ways.

After a few years we just settled on playing separately when the chances arose. Ironically we both benefitted from it.

So I've just learned to be cool with it.

When they want sex and fun times they call Tracy... They call me when they get picked up for DUI.

I myself just can't do it if the guy is just lurking in the corner. It just weirds me out. I tried a cpl times and simply had to apologize for my lack of "erectile possibilities".

If there is a group watching I'm fine. But just one guy... Nope.

It's a me thing.

This is why we don't meet people on dates that we haven't met in person before.

Exactly how you should handle that

This is a perfect example. a couple came over for cards last night. She showed up looking better than her pictures. He was at least 50 pounds heavier than his pictures. I apologized and told them that they had wasted their time as I walked them to their car. She apologized and we ended the night like adults

Before I give my opinion, I would just like to say it’s an opinion. This is a great site that everyone can find something they enjoy. Why would somebody look down on someone for liking something that they can’t understand however when it comes to someone’s weight, it’s a health issue being overweight is foolish unhealthy, and selfish. Once again, this is my opinion and I like to think that I can voice that.

"I shall henceforth refer to reverse gangbangs as Roy G Bivs."

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You may start a trend! :-)

"I shall henceforth refer to reverse gangbangs as Roy G Bivs."

I see that you've embraced the wisdom of "Mneomonics for Dummies". Sort of.

It would be nice if participants over in Politics would appreciate the benefits that "Logic For Dummies" offers.

"RGB'ing me."

I shall henceforth refer to reverse gangbangs as Roy G Bivs.

"Hey, trying something a second time just means you're thorough, and making sure the first time wasn't an anomaly. ;-)"

Exactly. It's just trying to accumulate statistically meaningful data.

Dually noted.

"Interesting. I totally forget about the husband(s) in the corner..."

One of the ways in which men and women are different is that we're generally much more concerned with safety than men are. Some of that concern is hardwired, apparently, and can affect women's ability to orgasm.

In an open room at a club that has security personnel within call, I can ignore dozens of people, because my safety isn't in question. Guy in the corner of a hotel room watching? My brain divides its focus to make sure he doesn't become a threat.

It's different as a couple, but there's still going to be less comfort with the OP's scenario than a solo guy would feel.

"One woman with her husband sitting in the corner? Weird and creepy,"

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Interesting. I totally forget about the husband(s) in the corner, as I'm usually focused on whats in front of me. That even occurred when 3 of them were in the room watching their wives RGB'ing me.

Not gonna lie, having a husband watch while he's in the cuck chair is pretty fun for the guy fucking the wife. Just saying.

"I would certainly like to try 2 women just to see if it felt weird or creepy."

It doesn't. Nor do three, four, five, or six.

One woman with her husband sitting in the corner? Weird and creepy, even if she's really hot and the premise is that after the first few times you two will be left alone.

Ditto.

I would certainly like to try 2 women just to see if it felt weird or creepy.

"gave myself the slow learner award for trying it the second time.."

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Hey, trying something a second time just means you're thorough, and making sure the first time wasn't an anomaly. ;-)

You could pretty easily find a solo guy who'd be cool with you just watching, with or without a side of "you can't play because you're not attractive enough" humiliation. Couples generally would be a harder sell, but you'd have the best luck with unicorn hunters, couples who are only looking for a woman to play with. There the biggest issue would be that for some unicorn hunting couples, they're only looking for women because he can't get it up with another guy in the same room.

I've played with two women while their husbands watched - gave myself the slow learner award for trying it the second time - and it was creepy and weird. That might just be me though, although I've had other women say the same.