weight and playing

thank you all who replied. I made some errors in wording. I meant to say its a turn on for me.

These are my words

"Personality and attitude matter a lot to me and to a lot of women."

agreed!

@GGMM: agreed & seconded.

You do! ;)

Personality and attitude matter a lot to me and to a lot of women.

@molly "" The biggest guy I was ever attracted to was more than 250 pounds heavier than me"". I'm still taking notes. Feeling like I have a chance now. Lol

So, your wife is saying she's more attractive than you, therefore you should just watch? Yeah, while the stag/vixen dynamic is popular, this is closer to cuckolding and I'm not here for it even if the guy is into it.

The biggest guy I was ever attracted to was more than 250 pounds heavier than me. And I could not get him to believe me when I said I thought he was hot. So, first, don't be that guy, and, second, you're going to do a lot better with women you meet in person than you will on line, where the fact of your weight is unaccompanied by your sparkling personality.

So, keep going to Hedo (I might be wrong, but I think I saw a photo of you in a FB Hedo group), but also consider clubs and parties. And give women a chance to be attracted to you as whatever you weigh.

Imma big boy. We have zero issues finding couples to play with. There are plenty of women just like my wife and yours* that like bigger guys. Confidence is attractive.

there is a couple out there for every other couple. Keep looking until you find what you are looking for

"We have talked about playing with couples but she’s afraid that I might not view as attractive"

that's a pretty awful thing for your wife to say. does she find you attractive? if she does, then why wouldn't someone else? and if she doesn't then you have a much bigger problem.

If you're interested in watching your wife play then you've already received some good advice.

If you're also interested in full swap then at a minimum you need at least one photo that shows your body - not just your face. It doesn't need to be revealing but stats can be very misleading depending on your fat/muscle ratio and distribution. Have a friend take a full length photo dressed like you're headed for church, dinner out at a nice restaurant or an initial meeting with swingers.

Either way you're going to have much better luck in person (clubs or parties) than online.

I think a lot of couples would be concerned that you say one thing but mean another... i.e. say something that gets them to meet you and even get naked, but then are concerned that maybe you'll want some for you that they aren't up for when the time comes. They don't want the potential to deal with pressure or pouting so they avoid it entirely.

You're far more likely to find something out at clubs or parties where people can meet you and figure you out before investing much.

This is of course assuming you really are OK with what you describe, as opposed to simply being willing to do it for her sake. While people in better shape obviously have some advantages, you might also be surprised at the women who are OK with a bigger guy. I had a long time play friend who actually wished I was heavier... she got off on me trying to put as much weight on her as possible. We once even knew a hot 20-something who got off on fucking very overweight 40-60 year old men. I know - something for everyone, right? Your play partners are out there, but it'll take patience to find them.

You probably need to simply meet people develop some mojo, and figure yourselves out. Don't rush into anything, be honest with each other, and just chill.

The weight is not the issue... The indecision to go forth with your wife's pleasure despite the dissatisfaction of your own physical appearance, is.

You will have to figure out, can you put aside your own dissatisfaction of your own physical appearance, in order to give your wife the satisfaction she wants. Good luck with the soul searching to see which way you would like to continue.

" It has been a fantasy of hers to have me watch, It’s a turn for me. "

Sounds like you answered your own question.

Well I am sure you could find guys that would play with her while you watched or left the room. Try some clubs. Maybe you would have luck there also. Let her flirt all she wants and see how it goes.

If the play is focused around her, I can't imagine it would be tough to find guys or a couple that would play with her regardless of your weight. If you are watching nobody at that party is going to care about your weight imo.

Hello
I’ll get to it, I’m overweight my wife isn’t. My wife thinks we wouldn’t find people to play with because of my weight. It has been a fantasy of hers to have me watch, It’s a turn for me. We have talked about playing with couples but she’s afraid that I might not view as attractive