Visual versus audible

We read a profile recently that said “no eye gazing” allowed.

Mrs. 888 is fucking loud.

~Allen

Mayhem
Yes, I have seen that certain look on some women as they get really hot and passionate. My ex said I get that look sometimes too.

What I am really referring to is the very close up "burning eyes" as someone once put it. It's very intimate, to the point where some people find it a little startling if they are used to somewhat more impersonal swinging sex.

It's both personal and impersonal at the same time. "I am really into you. I am completely focused and intensely interested in you, whoever you are."

I love the intimacy part of swinging. Some avoid it - not me. Intimacy can be fleeting. I can be completely into someone and then two hours later she's just a nice memory, and hopefully I'm one for her.

Anyone else experience this?

The "Glow"?

I try to see it with every lady I meet?

There is a non-verbal thing that I do find very sexy. We play with a wide age range (20s to 70s). I've experienced something with some women closer to our age that can only be described as a "glow" in the heat of the moment.

When I look at their face in the throws of passion it's as if I'm looking at someone that is easily 20 years younger. I never know when it's going to happen but would love to see a picture of them in that moment and see if it's me seeing differently or them looking differently.

Anyone else experience this?

Any woman who has had kids learns to keep the sex quite. Last thing you want is the kids talking about mom and dad fucking all the time.

Re: deep lock of the eyes

Yes, that can be really stimulating too. At a LS party we were in a room playing with 2 other couples and left the door open in the room we were in. A small crowd had gathered to watch us. A girl of one of the couples had her gaze locked onto me while I was playing, lifted her skirt (with no panties on) , and started rubbing her pussy. Yeah, no audibles needed there ;-)

As for "ok shit now I'm really turned on"...."eee....eee...eee". There, did that help...LOL

We have a similar story with a regular playmate, she's great except for the really quiet little "uh...uh...uh..." and it's a regular joke between us. Seriously, it's like a little puppy-snore almost, and that's when she's really worked up, otherwise it's complete silence. We prefer audible feedback, with instructions, occasional yelling & name-calling....

LOL glad I could help.

Actually, I find silence, with a deep lock of the eyes, halted breath and trembling lips and fingers...

ok shit now I'm really turned on.

Feedback is important and my hearing is the last thing to go, so I'm going with audible.

There was one guy who made no noise, not a single sound, not even when he came. He was a friendly guy that was around a lot at the club we both attended and I liked talking to him, but that eerie silence during sex made it impossible to sign up for a repeat.

I just checked and my phone does not have an eee eee eee sound, which is kind of disappointing.

Audible feedback is important. We've played with both vocal couples, and couples who are more mute.

For us, it's obvious: Moans and groans mean "keep doing that". Silence means "try a different spot".

As for the dog squeeze toy ee...ee..ee, sound well, that's my phone text tone. Guess what image I will get in my head now when I get text messages? Thanks.....

re: "eee...eee...eee"

That's hilarious. It sounds like me and your Mrs have a similar sense of humor because that's definitely something I would do too...lol

Feedback can come in many ways. The lack of it is a major turn-off, yes. But sometimes a deep eye-lock or digging of the fingernails is every bit as hot... or hotter.. than sounds. I totally get what you're saying - I get the most out of sex when it's a relatively constant flow of feedback back and forth. I'm just not too picky on exactly how I'm receiving it.

Funny story - many years ago we picked up this couple. She was a tall (5'11) and very thin redhead with legs to die for - and I am not normally a leg man. But when we began fucking - she kept making this "eee.... eee... eee..." sound. Like I was stepping on a dog squeaky toy. I wanted to shove a sock in her mouth. Mrs. VA found it very distracting herself. All these years later, sometimes, Mrs. VA will just quietly go "eee... eee... eee..." so we can have a private laugh without anyone knowing what we're talking about.

So - sometimes no noise is preferable to noise :)

I've always thought of myself as more of a visual animal, but a few recent events have sort of showed otherwise.

There's a very attractive girl I know that frequents a party that we go to that I have not played with yet. I saw her in an open room getting well fucked, but she was making little to no noise. My thought was that I'm not sure I would enjoy her with that being the case.

Just now I saw a homemade video of what is my all time favorite porn position. A guy standing and fucking a girl with her arms and legs wrapped around him while another guy does her ass from behind. Again, the girl was making no noise and it was like, meh.

Years ago the Mrs asked me why I didn't make any noise, and all I could think of was that I just didn't. She said, "You like it when I make noise, right?", and of course I said, "Hell, yeah". Then she told me she liked the same, so now I audibly make it known when I'm enjoying myself. Point is, apparently it's not just a guy thing.

So, how important is audible feedback to you? Could you REALLY enjoy sex without it?