Of course they were coming on to you. My husband is a musician too. He says it's a very rare night when he can't leave a club or concert with a woman if he wishes too. Of course, as I'm sure you know there are many musicians who take advantage of that. Although it's a very risky business.
Musicalpair, did you ever think the husbands or wives put their wives up to hitting on you for a 3-som? YES!
Problems in a marriage involving sexual intimacy or, in this case lack of sufficient sexual gratification, are pretty intimate and private stuff. I have had a couple of friends mention this over the years, never in an accusatory way but rather as a lament. More of a "we just don't have enough sex/sex any more, etc." On all but one occasion, an off hand "We don't have sex" in response to a question about how to keep the spark alive, these complaints came from close male friends, not women.
Based on how you say this was expressed, my guess would be it's an overture to cheating.
with the proper follow up you may have known. Joke telling, which means, dirty joke telling would reveal body language hints . So you have to keep your "wit" at the ready at all times .
Thanks for the replies. I now tend to think they were all giving me an invitation for some "Let's cheat behind my husband's back" type adventure. A tempting idea, but a dangerous one. These are not recent, btw. I'm talking about over the past few years. Again, thanks for the feedback.
IMHO, if she was behaving somewhat upset/depressed/guiltily frustrated and took a while to actually say that, she might be telling you as a friend (with a possible conscious/unconscious hope you might solve her problem). If she's pretty straight-forward about it, it's an invitation to be happily accepted!
They are definitely coming on to you. No question.
Well I would say that if they felt they could share that personal a secret with you they were coming on to you.
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So, are they;
“Sharing a secret with a trusted male friend, or giving a signal for an invitation?”
“Both, probably,” is my answer.
I've got a question for which I'd welcome both male and female opinions. Having been a working musician all my adult life, and spent a lot of time working in bars and night clubs. I can think of at least four times in which a married woman that I knew would tell me that her husband was not satisfying her. These were all women whom I had gotten to know over time, and usually knew their husbands, too. I would usually say something like, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that." But, let it go at that. I never pushed it.
My wife says, "Hey, they were totally coming on to you, dude." (She's okay with that.) But, I usually think that they just felt like they could trust me enough to say something like that. What do you think? Sharing a secret with a trusted male friend, or giving a signal for an invitation?
