Touchy Feely

I think the key here was the Creepy Joe "approach from behind" touchy feely, and the setting it's in. I agree that things are fluid when dancing, but at that point you're already engaged, have made contact and the other person is aware. We've all got the guy at the party who attempts to greet women with a tongue down their throat, he usually ends up not being at the next social. Same goes with the guy that feels compelled to touch women from behind when they're talking to someone else. It's copping a feel or a grope because of the permissive environment, very different than touching people that you're flirting with or engaged in a sexy conversation with. For most people it's common sense, other people need to learn differently.

In any social setting, reading body language is key. When I (Scamp) approach a woman, I pay attention to how she greets me. Does she extend a hand? Open her arms? Offer her cheek? Lean in for a kiss? When chatting, does she make eye contact? Touch my arm or leg?

This applies to clubs and LS events just as it does at a vanilla event, it’s just that things progress beyond friendly touches.

I will say that if a woman comes up and grabs my package, she better be incredibly hot and even then, I find that a huge turn off.

~Scamp

We’re going to a house party tonight.

I sure hope that some strangers get touchy feely freely with us.

In a swinger setting we never have an issue with touching. If we are not interested, we’ll make that clear.
Groping is unacceptable.

too touchy feely without permission is creepy and a big turn off

RonandKathy, I thought it didn't get posted. I searched for it but I could never find it so I posted again. It was my very first post. Thanks for pointing me in the right direction. I will go and check it out.

Personally, I think it's creepy and groping is way out of bounds unless of course there is some kind of room set up for people that want to participate in it, then that's totally different.

My curiosity was in what is acceptable behavior between a professional or casual setting versus a swinger setting? Judging by the comments, everyone's opinion seems to be there's not much difference in which setting you are in, respect is respect, and I agree.

There are times in order to get someone's attention you have to touch. But in Joe Biden's situation I believe whoever he touched that didn't like it, should have said something right there and then. Set him straight, just like most people here have stated.

I was at a party and this chick came up behind me and goosed me good; I was pretty startled and didn't know what the hell to think? That wasn't cool and I didn't like it. Then again, I was at the gym, wearing ear buds, I wasn't paying attention to my surroundings and this chick touched me with just the tip of her finger. She touched me on the chest as she was walking by to get my attention. Man was I turned on when I looked up, of course she just had a question, but I didn't mind that one bit.

So to sum it up, in my case it's pretty situational, and every situation is different.

It depends. Unless I know someone very well - like, well enough that I'd share my toothbrush with you in an emergency - I don't want anyone coming up behind me and getting touchy feely. It's still going to startle me even if I know you that well, but I'll enjoy the experience. For others, it's really better to be good at reading social cues if you're going to touch me and even then start with light, non-sexual touches.

Unless it's on the dance floor, because for some reason the rules change there. But I still don't want people I don't know touching me if I can't see them.

One of the quickest ways to be ostracized in our circle is to walk up and start groping someone that you don't know. Just being at a party or event doesn't mean it's open season or that anyone is compelled to accept your unsolicited advances.

If engaged in a lengthy conversation with another, before innocently touching another, ie , an arm, leg or back, make sure it’s invited. If uncertain, never assume it’s OK to just approach and touch, always ask..

~Allen

All over the news is Joe Biden being "touchy feely" I agree that it is creepy and inappropriate behavior when among the general public, especially when having such a high public profile.
But what is your opinion with being touchy feely at a swinger party? Do you find this behavior creepy, it depends, it's okay, inappropriate?
I'd like to hear what your opinion is on the subject, from men and women, either giving or receiving affection.