Swinger groups

The groups on here will come and go. I will give you a fun example: A white single guy gets on SLS and has paid for a few months or so. He starts a group to facilitate bbc hookups and parties. He then messages everyone with a few hundred miles for his new group. He gets a few hundred responses and now has what appears to be a robust group. Knowing nothing about how to organize a party or gathering succeeds in in pulling about 8 people together for the first event. The event makes it painfully obvious that he just wanted to see bbc's up close and the situation is awkward.... Many newbies will start their own groups and they really wont go anywhere.

Many of the groups on here are pretty old and many are put up on a whim. Often times it will be a couple who hasn't had success or is tired of the same old same old at local events. They put up a new group to try and make new connections. They will often say they are new or real in the descriptions. These pop up like brush fires. Even couples who are successful with some of these groups get a bit tired of planning organizing and communicating to make the group successful. It isn't uncommon for them to just get a little weary or for life to pop up and take some time away from them.

Try and find the groups that have active posts and recent collection of new members. That way you know that the group is active. Some of these groups are invitation only and they may or may not find you.

There are a number of factors at play here so there is no one simple answer to your question. However, looky-loos have always been and will always be a part of this lifestyle. If I had to guess, I would say well over half of those who claim to be a part of this lifestyle, have never engaged in sex with anyone other than their own significant other. They like being around it, but for whatever reason, and there are many, they cannot seem to actually get into it.

Last year, all sites such as this one had to make significant changes in order to be in compliance with new government regulations. In doing so, it was necessary for the site administrators to comb through years of past forum topics and remove things that would in fact be violations of the new standards. My guess is that in doing so, they realized there were literally hundreds of old forum threads sitting around doing nothing more than taking up space and decided to go ahead and delete them.

As for forum topics, here's my two cents. For the most part, I see three kinds of people involved in the forums. One group never participates in the forums. They read the forms regularly, but never actually post or participate beyond that. A second group of people genuinely come to the forums seeking information on a number of different topics sometimes related to this lifestyle, sometimes about other things. And then you have the regulars. Most of us have been around the forums for a long time, and we're not asking questions anymore. Some of us will occasionally start a new topic, but for the most part, there's nothing new under the sun. Many are happy to answer questions, or offer advice, but for the most part we had all our questions about this stuff answered a long time ago. As much as anything, we now use the forums as more of a chat site or as a means for basically staying in touch, sharing ideas or backstories, and even laughing at ourselves and each other.

These forums have been an ever changing, ever evolving collection of some of the best, and at times some of the worst ideas, advice, and info from a gathering people that reaches across all imaginable lines that typically separate us in the Vanilla world. The chaos that often ensues, while not always comfortable, is typically what you'd expect to find as such.

There is something that has been puzzling us lately. We have been checking out various groups on here and a couple of other sites and we notice the same trend. A majority of the posts are well aged with nothing new in months. Are they drying up and people looking elsewhere or is it following the trend that I have been seeing in regards to people actually meeting others. Which also seems to be on the decline as folks would rather keep playing looky-loo rather than meet face to face.