Amen! We aren't open to singles and we still get crappy "Yo" messages all the time. It's almost inconceivable (you keep using that word, I do not think it means what you think it means...admit it, you say that silently to yourself every time you hear "inconceivable") that a woman would communicate in such a manner, so it's undoubtedly the male half being a boor.
GoodGolly----->And no, it's not single guys I'm talking about, but men are universally the offenders here.
LMAO, let me applaud and recognize that statement. Single are not our thing so we don't have our profile open to them. So I have to suspect that 90% of the one liners we get are from husbands. Poor single guys get a ton of grief when at times...the husbands are just as bad. :)
We get a ton of folks peeking. I'm okay with that...what I have are the one lines. 'I'd hit that." "Can I cum on her face." "Does she suck as good as she looks."
Rude and deleted.
"We have one couple who have asked us for drinks 3 times now. Each time we've said we're up for drinks when and where.
Never do get a response to those either."
We've got a couple like that. No idea what motivates someone like that, except possibly one of them is excited and the other is 'meh'.
Okay, so sometimes I respond to "hi" messages, but just to say "looks like you didn't read my profile." Surprisingly, that never gets a response.
And no, it's not single guys I'm talking about, but men are universally the offenders here.
Hotluv, I keep thinking I need to get that t-shirt that says, “I speak fluent sarcasm”.
Maybe Santa will bring it to me.
Ckmate,
I didn't see your response until after I posted. Nice to see that we are of similar minds: sarcastic, easily self-ammused, and easily bored.
If you can't form a coherent thought on the keyboard, chances are you won't be highly communicative once the clothes come off. Good communication is a gift far to many people refuse to unwrap.
Aand,
I sometimes play that same game. I get a "hi", I respond with a "hi". That can go on for four or five messages: "what's up" "what up with you", "just chilin", "yup, just chilin". After a while, I'll get bored, and write something to scare them off.
It's insane how inane some folks can be.
We have one couple who have asked us for drinks 3 times now. Each time we've said we're up for drinks when and where.
Never do get a response to those either.
We do the same thing, A and J.
"Hello" or "hey" or "hi" gets the same response. "How r u" usually gets a "gud" or "fne" to show that we're putting in as much effort as they are. "What are you looking for" or "what are you in to" gets either, "the profile clearly explains that" or "what part of the profile did you not understand" or some other sarcastic but honest answer.
And the same result for us, most vanish never to be heard from again.
We still reply to all. It's amazing the number of hi or hello IMs we get. We respond in kind - hi gets a hi, hello a hello - and for more than half of our interactions that ends the conversation. Can't begin to imagine what happened to cause them to run and hide. But it is what happens.
Of the other half about half of those get a what are you looking for type response. Our reply of "we think our profile is pretty clear" scares the rest of them off.
So, yeah, online communication sucks. Which had led many to just give up on responding to stupidity.
You're kinda not pedantic enough. ;)
Everyone has their own hot buttons.
Mine (since I do all of the vetting) is spelling and grammar.
It's not "do to work," it is "due to work," or more correctly "because of work."
The word "due" should only be used for monetary transactions...
But I am kinda pedantic...
We used to reply to all messages. Even the lame ones/dick pic ones. Of course, that was when we had email and had quick responses available. Usually a lame message got the “thanks but no thanks” the crude ones got something a little more scathing.
Now, with messenger because of the lack of auto response and user-ability, one liner/crude get ignored.
Hopefully Wayne won’t take us offline.
~rabbit ~
I answer anything that isn't stupid ("heyy" qualifies as stupid), but many people don't. They're inundated with messages from people who have put little to no effort into their profiles or their photos and then reach out with either a canned message or something like "she's so sexy," which is off-putting in the extreme. Answering those messages is kinda like bailing out a hot tub with a teaspoon, so most people just move on without responding.
Your profile isn't inviting (head over to Better Profiles and read a bunch of threads), your photos aren't good and if your messages to others are like your forum posts, there's a slight whiff of entitlement going on. So, yeah, some of it might be the manners of others, some of it might be you.
AverageJoe----->Get a lot of looks and no response. Anyone else experienced the same result? Has common courtesy gone by the wayside?
Has common courtesy gone by the wayside? Yes and no. The no argument is that a non response is actually a response. A theory we don't support but that's just us. The yes argument is complicated by the sex. Our experience over years of swinging is that people are afraid to say anything lest that be taken as a potential yes on sex, it's actually not. No doubt over the years we've missed a few but the majority of couples that write us get an common courtesy response either way, Yes, No, Maybe. The way we look at it? It takes courage to write to someone out of the blue and express interest. At a minimum that courage deserves a response even if that response is no thank you.
Our asterisks is that we are not looking for singles. So perhaps we don't get inundated with a ton of one line initial. nice shoes...want to fuck?
The two type of pictures we formers make fun of most are SM crotch shots and toothpaste splattered bathroom mirror selfies. You managed to roll both into one picture.
Please post an example of the type of messages you send, what you say, so far there is nothing to make me want to take the bait.
~rabbit ~
Better RonKathy?
Ditto
Thanks for your input RonKathy
Been reaching out lately to try and meet like minded people do to traveling. Get a lot of looks and no response. Anyone else experienced the same result? Has common courtesy gone by the wayside?
