Common Courtesy

I’m in GOODGOLLYMISSMOLLYs camp.

Super Chunk is the only way to go!

Not really - it's a discussion that's been held often so there's very little already unsaid.

At least it went off the rails in a fun way - and now I want peanut butter cookies!

Boy this conversation went off the rails quick.

sticks out tongue covered in peanut flavored spackle (because talking in that condition is impossible)

There. FIFY.

Chunky peanut butter is the product of the devil's anus. sticks out tongue

Dammit, NOT the peanut butter argument again, sorillo. Your family is right and you are so very, very wrong.

Basically, this topic has been beaten so often and so hard that it has given up and joined a convent while it waits for a merciful death or at least six months of peace.

Nobody is entitled to a response. Nobody has ever been entitled to a response. Whining about it is just as bad as not responding to a sincere message, as you're essentially insisting that your standards are the only proper and correct standards. Plus, the kind of folks that are grievance based and object to the way other people do things are unlikely to be the kind of happy go lucky people that many of us are looking for, so nose meet scalpel.

I don't know why people don't respond, but I'm guessing the reasons are usually benign and can include not wanting to hurt someone's feelings and meaning to speak to your spouse about it and forgetting, because there's no easy way to mark out messages you mean to answer.

I don't respond to anything that is the online equivalent of a catcall. I am however invariably polite to servers and tip well. Because those are two entirely different things.

Honestly it doesn't bother me, because I don't expect a reply in the first place. I just have fun composing the message, send it out into the void, and move on. If I get a reply, that's awesome.

I refuse to get bitter about no replies when there are better things to be bitter about. Like the fact that the rest of my family keeps buying chunky peanut butter when creamy peanut butter is clearly superior.

We just feel as time has went by in the LS people have changed so much. It seems a few years back you could strike up a conversation a lot easier, even if that conversation lead to nothing more then just talking.

As EA said, this topic has been beaten to death. Which is to say, as someone else already said, your experience is, sadly, nothing new.

I do have this to add, as an extension of what Fundamental said. You can tell a lot about a person by how they treat wait staff in a restaurant. With regard to failing in the courtesy of a response, you might look at this similarly: They are telling you everything you need to know about them and saving you a ton of time.

People are often far more courteous if you meet them in person.

The online experience makes it easy for people to ignore courtesy, kindness, empathy, etc - all the things that make social interactions more pleasant. When you are hidden behind a keyboard and screen no one knows who or where you are so you can make your own reality.

Time_For, those days of common courtesy are over. Unfortunately our culture doesn’t teach integrity and courtesy, it teaches victimhood and entitlement. I don’t want to turn a thread about decency and manners political, but that’s where we’ve gone as a society. The “my kid didn’t do it”, everybody gets a trophy, can’t accept being told no culture has taken over. It’s really a shame that that’s where we are, but when taking responsibility for ones self went away, courtesy went with it. Keep saying please, thank you, God bless you and hold doors for people, maybe it’ll rub off on somebody.

Courtesy is no longer common.

Unfortunately, social graces have widely evaporated. The disappearance of simple "please", "thank you" and so on is extraordinary and, from our perspective, diminishes those who have forgotten the use of the words. On the other hand, it makes those "now rare" expressions especially welcome.

We observe that one never has a second chance to make a first impression.

Call us old-fashioned, but we pay attention on first dates as to how the new-to-us couple treats the waitstaff taking our orders at a restaurant. Courtesies, grace, and kindnesses in such casual interactions are revealing.

We are sorry to hear of your unhappy experiences. You are not alone.

New_And, it's the so much the incoming messages, we know how to handle them. It's when you spend time reading someone's profile and reach out to them, and all you get are crickets.

We respond to every message, even the idiots. If we’re not interested we’re always polite. If we get the “hey, wanna fuck” idiots, we have fun with them. They say something stupid, we say something more stupid. It kinda makes us laugh.

888 I'm glad we're not alone here. We just find it rude when someone can't reply. Guess they will never know what they are missing..

We feel you. Mrs. 888 blocks those who don’t reply after one week as a precautionary move to not write them again, bothering them; taking the no reply as a reply, if you will, although we don’t agree with it being one.

It also helps us not associate with those that don’t have their shit together enough to agree or disagree to reply, let’s not forget they could even be fakes, flakes or drama ladened.

~Allen

Erotic, you seem to be totally correct. Not sure how we got to this point. Things need to change.

Since this topic has been beaten like a dead horse, let me interject one thing.

You might want to remove the phrase, "common courtesy" and replace it with "courtesy." At this point, the common response is no response. It is not common to be courteous.

Is common courtesy a thing of the past? We know we're in the older stages of life, but we we're raised to be polite to others. Why is it when you take the time to write to someone they can't take a minute to write back? I'm not talking about the one line messages like "wanna hook up" or "Nice tits" or our favorite "Hi". We're talking about a real message where you interduce yourself, and talk about things you found in common on their profile. We've been in the LS long enough to know not everybody is made for everybody. It's hard to get four people together, and we totally understand that. When someone takes the time to look through your profile, and see something they may like, and want to know more about you, you should have the common courtesy to write them back. If your not playing right now because of the virus, write back. If you looked over their profile and don't think you would have things in common, write back. People will understand because we know because we have sent message back saying those things. Thank you listening.