Cheating

@TBR

"You may be able to read a 100 word paragraph, but I doubt you could write one...

;-)"

Wanna bet?

:)

There ya go!

"No 100 word paragraph can explain your situation."

You may be able to read a 100 word paragraph, but I doubt you could write one...

;-)

In my lifestyle experience, openly cheating men are frowned upon and excluded, although not entirely. You'll probably find some amount of luck with cheating single females, who share a mutual interest in keeping things hush hush.

Cheating women, on the other hand, while still frowned upon, are generally tolerated. People are pretty much willing to put aside any judgement if it means tilting the female/male ratio at parties in their favor, since single females are in short supply.

This is a question that only YOU can answer. No matter what anyone else says here, they are not in your shoes. No 100 word paragraph can explain your situation.

We have been in the lifestyle since the 90s. We started out very anti 'cheaters.' Then we had epiphanies. One couple was not a 'couple' but were a couple :) They were each married to someone else. Each of their spouses was handicapped and wheelchair bound. One of the wheelchair bound spouses told the spouse to go out and have fun. The other said they never wanted to know. Were those two people cheating?

Hell, personally, we would have been classified as cheaters. For us, we both knew we were in the process of divorcing our spouse, but technically we were married to different people.

We were at a club in Vegas one night. We hooked up with a couple. We had a great time. After the exchange of bodily fluids, they decided to tell us that they were not married to each other. We said, "Ok." Then they said that they were co-workers and married to other people. What should we do? Take our bodily fluids back? Tar and feather them? We didn't bother to even ask why they did what they did. It didn't matter.

We have seen a few single males that are married. At first we didn't know they were married. It took a while and we figured it out. Where we to discount the time we spent with them prior?

I don't think anyone has ever asked to see our marriage license, our government issued id, nor pulled out a scale to weigh us, nor pull out a tape measure to see how tall we are.

If YOU feel that you are harming YOUR marriage, then that is YOUR issue. I saw a great line on a TV show the other day. It was a couple stating that they have been married 38 years. The woman said, "Yeah, it's just easier to stay together than get divorced. Who wants to get a new set of inlaws this late in life." That was an interesting perspective.

But to answer your question, some will care and some will not.

If you value your marriage and your partner, you'll do the hard work of talking to your spouse about your needs and desires. Do that and, yeah, there's definitely a place for you in the lifestyle. I prefer married men playing solo and am not the only one.

Cheat on your spouse - you will also inevitably lie - and any couples or women who willingly help you cheat aren't going to be topnotch. And might be lying to you about their STI status and any number of other things.

For "us" we ask ALL our guys and ladies.. we have had way to many issues with mad spouses knocking on our doors.. clubs, parties and events.. its just what we always do since several bad experiences with cheating spouses knocking on our home doors and windows..

Yes have some lied.. but we always find out and we cut them off once we do.. its not that hard to see who is honest and if they lie about that then what else.

But as AR has stated its easier at the clubs!

6z,

That will be very difficult to do on this site. Meeting people online is different from in person. Go to a club. We've never asked men at a club if they're single or married. A guy alone at a club is a guy alone at a club. to my knowledge, none of the couples we know have ever asked a man about that at a club, but they will on this site.

"I don't want to break any marriages up."

it's nice that you care about other couples marriages, but not so nice that you don't care about your own marriage

"Yes I am willing to cheat with another couple or female for sex. Is there any room on here for that type of candid behavior?"

NO

KUDO's to the last three posters. Good advise.

Mrs. TBR has decided to step back from seeing other people right now.

We talked about it and she fully supports me seeing other people.

I have started a casual relationship with another woman. It is early, so who knows where it will go.

If your wife agrees, you might want to take a hiatus from this site and explore some poly sites.

But you need to have a conversation with her to make sure she is OK with this. If not, don't do it.

There are plenty out there...

Cheating is down right wrong. I've heard a saying a few times that I agree with. That saying is "It's not cheating if both know and agree on seeing others". Be honest, disclose your feelings before acting. Once you go down that road there may be no return.

Many guys do same.. behind wifes back.. sorry its not swinging. This will cause more issues in your marriage

Some on SLS like that scenario... but be honest.. we will find out if you are married, lying and a cheat.. be honest! We had one last week reach out and he was honest and said so in his profile.. No we did not meet or play but he was very positive all were honest with him

NOW if one communicates with your wife and she agrees .. then its all good.. for "us" we will verify with the other party as we do NOT want a scene where we live.. did that in old days and never again.

Good luck .. or try ashley madison

It's not a popular activity and is mostly frowned upon. If you say as much in your profile, there are some people out there that don't mind as I've read in profiles over the years.

Here's a question that I'm sure will fire some people up. I want to still partake in the lifestyle. The Mrs. doesn't anymore. Yes I am willing to cheat with another couple or female for sex. Is there any room on here for that type of candid behavior?
I don't want to break any marriages up. I just want to enjoy sex. Regardless if wrong or not it happens. Is this something I can't do here?