While I was editing an earlier post, PG said it....
It's a way to introduce the new gf to the LS and hope that she will want to join in too. The other guys I mentioned are only active in the LS when they are not in a relationship. They use it to take care of NSA sexual needs. We don't care that people amongst our group are transient as long as they manage their drama.
Mrs. u
Because maybe although she doesn't want to swing at this time she is turned on by going to the club. Live porn. Lots of people are voyeurs and like the atmosphere of the club, but do not want to share their SO. And who knows the more she is around it maybe she will decide she wants to explore more.
@Shelly: I know you can't get into the local guys head but what sense does it make for him to take her to LS clubs and she doesn't want to do anything? I went to Fayetteville, NC, to this place call YKW, I think, and met a couple as I went alone to check it out since a bunch of people raved about how great it was. Of course, the night I went it was dead. Anyway, I sat with a couple and was just making small talk, The husband was absolutely miserable. The wife wanted nothing to do with the LS and even though she agreed to accompany him to the club they did nothing. What sense does that make. Another case. I met a sweet guy who came all the fuck the way from GA to see me. At the outset, I didn't know he was married. Another one where the wife supposedly would go to LS events and do nothing. It's nuts. Personally, I'd rather be single than deal with that BS.
@BLT
We really don't have to conform to anyone's expectations, other than our own. It's the individual's personal choice when/if they are attracted to a vanilla type on how to act. If it's merely a casual hook-up with a vanilla, I'd leave my personal business out of it, practice safe sex and keep on moving.
In the case of something more, I advocate an open/candid discussion(s) with the other person about views on kinky sex, multiple partners or whatever else. Communication is key, but some people simply can't understand or accept anything outside of how they define normal. Relationships almost always require compromise on someone's part and whoever is making the larger compromise has to judge for themselves if their new partner is worth the sacrifice and/effort. Sometimes we just don't get our cake and get to eat it too.
Oh, about the local dudes-- I never asked if they tried to convert their gf's, one guy did tell me that his new gf and him go to the swing club and she's ok hanging out with swingers but that's it.
Shelly
@Mrs U: My question is this. When we hook up with folks outside the LS, why is it that "we" have to conform to their way? If we truly want to live this way of life, why not, I don't know if this particular guys tried, bring them over to "our" side.
Dear Mrs U, hail to the Queen! That is a sad note as time does bring changes. Some good and some bad but the river of desire flows on does it not. Your counsel has meant the world to us and we have no doubt where there is desire there is a way. That being said we have found a small group in the area of Gulf Shores AL that we are gonna be visiting with in the next week or two. We will let you know how it goes. Maybe that might be something to consider. Thanks S!
Dear Mrs U, hail to the Queen! That is a sad note as time does bring changes. Some good and some bad but the river of desire flows on does it not. Your counsel has meant the world to us and we have no doubt where there is desire there is a way. That being said we have found a small group in the area of Gulf Shores AL that we are gonna be visiting with in the next week or two. We will let you know how it goes. Maybe that might be something to consider. Thanks S!
:-( Sadly enough, several of my favorite "go-to-guys". now have a vanilla girlfriend and don't play. There are a plethora of local Single Males but I've found that most often their interest/ability is restricted to a 3-some or solo play.
I am considering exporting my next gang bang to NOLA and relying on the assistance of others there with the pre-screening and test-driving process. JW how that would turn out.
Mrs. Uriah
That is one of my fantasies, also..........dreaming.
Now that I have my Plus One, I've been toying this as I know he will be there to protect me and I already have the potential candidates in mind. My magic number is a total of three.
Mrs multiple men fantasy was to blindfolded and tied to a bed not knowing whose cock was where or how many men...
She let her fantasy slip out at one of our group parties to another woman and the next party Dan brings this bedspread with Velcro restraints built in it and a blindfold.
She knew and trusted all the men at the party..its our private group we have been with for five years prior to this evening.
She let herself be blindfolded and velcroed to the bed and just had a ball...i had no idea this was happening, i was busy in the other room, i think on purpose, because there seemed to be all these women paying attention to me and no other men around.
When we later met up again she was all grins trying to figure out whose cock was where and when....
She has never wanted to do anything like that again......
A definite fantasy. Oh, I wish I may, I wish I might, have this fantasy I wish tonight!
@Doly
So...how did it go? Not more flakes I hope. Nuts is more like it.
Obviously I Love that fantasy. haha. The dynamics are terrific in that situation too.
I had 4 guys in a sex club..it was awesome ..I am hoping for a repeat performance tonight ..the hubby loves to watch ..the last time it was one after another ..I prefer more guys on me at the same time..it is so erotic to have multiple hands on...hubby tired to host a surprise gang and we ended up with 3 flakes go figure ..good luck
Been trying for this for what seems like forever.......tried when we were members for 10 yrs here before and it never happened. Sometimes things may just have to be just that ! A Fantasy !
Welcome to the fora Freeky...
I see you have 13 certs, perhaps pick your favorite guy and ask if he has some friends he can bring, or invite 3-4 of your favorites to come back for a repeat performance?
I have always fantasized about this but I'm unsure on how to make it a reality. Do you have any tips?
This has been on our list for a long time, however, she'd like some of the guys to be people we already know. Still a fantasy.. but very open to it.
Welcome to the forum sexyladymilf...wishing I had plans for a trip west, I would be happy to help with round two.
;^D
We did it for the first time a few weeks ago. It was impromptu and not something we set up. All of the men were very respectful and while I had difficulty standing or walking afterwards, it is something I would do again.
We have enjoyed a gang bang as a couple. Two other couples were there as well. The wives served as fluffers and the hubbies were there for the wife the party was organized for.
Something we do occasionally, mainly in clubs, not every visit but when she's in the mood. She gets in the swing and men gather - there's never any shortage! He's on hand to make sure they all use condoms and keep the lube handy as she can get dry after a few - and keep count. Her current 'record' is seven men - she can never keep count as she gets into what she calls her "altered state" and others call "being in the zone."
Have also done this at parties, but not set up a special gang-bang with her and a group of invited men. In a club and party situation she can stop when she's had enough, which might not be easy if invited men have not had a chance to fuck.
Something we do occasionally, mainly in clubs, not every visit but when she's in the mood. She gets in the swing and men gather - there's never any shortage! He's on hand to make sure they all use condoms and keep the lube handy as she can get dry after a few - and keep count. Her current 'record' is seven men - she can never keep count as she gets into what she calls her "altered state" and others call "being in the zone."
Have also done this at parties, but not set up a special gang-bang with her and a group of invited men. In a club and party situation she can stop when she's had enough, which might not be easy if invited men have not had a chance to fuck.
Oh yea, and I'm ready for more and am prepared to start begging. We are gonna double the guys next time taking it to 10. The last ones lasted three hours and she said it only seemed like 15 minutes. I can't wait to see how she does with 10 guys lasting three to four hours!! Can't wait!!
