Collar Wearing

Dom puts my collar on and off. I also have public collars I wear as well as a slave ring I never take off.

We have been pretty much keeping it to the Dom putting on the collar or taking it off, just wondered how others approached it as well. Thank you everyone who replied - this is a work in progress and we are working on things such as the collar and how to manage time with the 3 of us in the Poly relationship.

I tell her when to wear it and when to take it off

every dynamic is unique. in ours for example, we will talk about things first.... but for us yes I would like him to be the one to remove it when needed. I understand that does not work for everyone. that is what I love about the lifestyle..... we get tp pick what works for us and no one should be telling you how or what to do. relax and have fun
xoxo e & v

In the HL’s Guidebook for BDSM Wannabes, the putting on and taking off of the collar is a very special moment. There MUST be a ritual associated with it. Words of affirmation must be spoken. The collared one does not own the collar, so she is not allowed to secure it or remove it.

For us, it’s all a role playing game, but games must have rules.

There isn't a BDSM handbook somewhere. So, you can make up any rules you like. Well, you could anyway, even if there was some sort of universal rule book, because rules are meant to be broken, but there isn't, so you get to decide what you do.

If a Dom gives the Sub permission to take off or put on a collar for a particular reason when the two are apart is that wrong? Should a collar ONLY be put on by or taken off by the Dom?