This is three weeks old and I am guessing it’s already happened. And since there is no follow up, I’m guessing it didn’t go well. At least not for him.
I honestly hope the op posts and tells me I’m wrong.
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This post doesn't make any sense to me. You are a little concerned (and a little hurt) that she wants sex with an old flame at the same time you are at ease with it but you need reassurance.
Now you want to know what is going to happen, but you only want possible good things that will happen, but no bad things.
Doesn't really seem like you are being honest with yourself or that you are at ease with it.
Next, how the fuck are we supposed to give you advice? You want us to sugar coat it? What good would that do? Like another said, it could be an awesome experience or a total shitshow.
My advice to you is that you need to pump the brakes until you figure out your feelings. DO NOT move forward until you have figured out what is going on in your own head. Then figure out what is going on in your wife's head.
Once you have figured that out, you might be ready to move forward.
Was the OP high jacked? How did this turn into who pays for the hotel? To the OP IMNTBHO you will be able to tell a lot about the two of them when they kiss. If you want to know where their relationship stands watch the body language. If the male is in an open relationship, maybe invite the wife for a foursome. I hope you two enjoy your threesome, they can be a lot of fun.
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SGT, just bring the wine.
Sorry, inside joke. This topic has been beaten to death but of course, you couldn't possibly know that.
There are several trains of thought. Some couples feel that since they are providing the pussy, the SM should pay for the room. Others are of the mind that each brings equal "value" to the encounter so splitting the cost makes sense. Some couples will want to spend the night after the meet so they pay for the room and the SM leaves after playtime.
The obvious answer then is communication. Ask the couple where they would like to meet and if they plan on spending the night. You may want to offer to pay for the room or simply ask what their preference is. Granted it is complicated since you don't want to sound like a cheapskate nor do you want to feel taken advantage of. As in, you pay for the room then they expect you to leave and they stay the night.
As uncomfortable as it is to ask these questions, it is even more awkward standing at the check-in counter waiting to see who is going to pull out their CC.
Good luck and have fun!
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In our opinion, especially the first time, the single guy should act like he's taking the couple on a date. So what would you do if this was a vanilla date? Ask her to pay? Split the bill?
When a couple and a sm decide to meet and neither can host, where and who pays for what? Is there a customary system that decides who pays for the room and where will the room be located if the parties are 2-3 hours apart?
This is sort of how we got in the lifestyle. If you trust her (hopefully you do after 10yrs) I say go with it. I still don't find much hotter than watching her have fun
My wife is doing the same thing as your wife is proposing. She has a hot long term affair with a man she has known since college. They both loved to fuck each other, love the sex but could not live together. He also is married and his wife has given this affair the ok. She sees him once a year at a conference and they spend the weekend together.
its exciting for my wife and she is so grateful that she is married to a man who lets her enjoy being a woman. let your wife have her fun, she will love you deeply for it. She is married to a man who lets her have her fun and is happy for her happiness. She has her perfect home and nest.
when sex is just for fun and is an adventure for both of you your marriage becomes really tight and really fun.
Now to bring your wife to orgasm and knock her socks off. Take a vibrator and get in the 69 position. Lick her clit and then reach under her leg ( or however it works best for you) with your arm that is holding the vib and slide it into her pussy while you lick her clit. Licking her clit move the vib slowly in and out. As she builds towards orgasm move the vib in a slow circle as you move it out and in just a little. Licking her clit the whole time.
Her orgasm will be so intense it will blow her mind as well as yours. I use a 7inch total length straight vib.
Welcome to the forums.
I think I'm gonna ponder on this a bit...you not wanting any horror stories and all.
In the meanwhile, count this ole Tramp as: Subscribed!
This could work really well and it could be a disaster of epic proportions. Kind of depends on all three of you and how well you communicate, what your expectations are, and how good your boundaries are.
I'm in some sympathy with your wife, since I've found that sex often gets better with repeated interactions with people. Since she has trouble orgasming, physical and emotional comfort are probably key components to her being able to let go. It's just that inviting a third person into your sex life is already a little challenging and having it be someone who has feelings involved...well, everyone is going to need to be impeccable on multiple fronts for this to work before, during and after.
Particularly make sure you and your wife are completely transparent with one another about your concerns and hers.
So my wife and I have been together about 10 years and have 2 kids. Weve always had a spectacular sex life. The only issue has ever been getting her to climax. She enjoys our sex but very rarley has the big O. After a few days of discussion I got her to admit that she want to try a threesome with another guy. It was quite a turn around for her as she used to be pretty against the idea. Im fine with it. The only thing that has me even a little concerned is that she wants to do it with an old friend of hers that she had sex with before we met. Ive met the guy and hes seems like a really nice guy. I know he harbors feelings for her and has since they hooked up years ago. He is married and in an open relationship. I was initially a little hurt when she told me she wanted a specific person but now im at ease with it for a bunch of reasons. I guess im wondering peoples thoughts on this and any advice. Its gonna happen with him at this point so im not really looking for horror stories just advice and possibly even some re-assurance lol
