A lot of these questions from new members are like "How do you like to be kissed?"
There are so many ways, and you each have your personal preferences.
The main thing is that you both be comfortable with what you do. I either of you have some reservations, don't do it.
CL was great for us ion the couple looking for other couples
Hit a meet and greet, it’s the lowest pressure situation. Hit a club as it can be low pressure and give you the opportunity to take in the sights, sounds, smells of the sexiness.
Welcome to the Forum by the way.
And be careful with your acronyms— is MFM. A MMF implies the guys are going to play with each other in addition to the female. You don’t list the male half as bi, so the distinction is important.
We posted a few ads and checked out a few clubs. The few clubs and hotel parties turned us off. The ads on CL resulted in 99.9% scams or spam. It got so bad that I stopped using it before their personals were shut down. I would filter the men via text and KIK to get a sense of their personality and wit. I would then engage my partner in a group chat on kik. The first couple were started with my partner blindfolded lying naked on a massage table. Blindfolded massage by two naked me was a great ice breaker! LOL
go to a swingers club that has a place for couples only. My wife wears a white t shirt cut off below her tits with no bra on that says " Sure Fuck"
About one in three times we do this we find another couple that is there for full swap sex.
Eventually you'll need to dive in and meet people. Meet and greats, parties, hotel takeovers, and clubs give you an opportunity to talk to real people and relax when talking about your fantasies and possibly fulfill a few. Websites don't provide a great rate of success when connecting. If you all are tentative drive an hour or so away to go to a club or party. You may also ask to video chat with people before setting up a meeting to help verify they are real and to have an initial conversation. We've actually vid chatted with several couples to help them ease into the lifestyle.
We also talk about sex with others while we are preparing and having sex. We watch porn for foreplay and find that adds excitement and sometimes we role play. We enjoy sex between ourselves but want to expand it to others.
My wife is kind of paranoid about the internet so even with SLS that is not a great solution. I am finding that local parties that are not sex oriented still provide an opportunity to find those who seem to flirt and show an interest. And if there is slow dancing this offers an even better chance to get to know those who might want to be together.
If you find a solution let us know. Meanwhile if you would like to share experiences and desires just send us a message here and we can connect. Ron and Rose
We are new and talk about either ffm, foursomes, swinger clubs, and mmfs constantly during sex. More shy talking about it outside sec, though we’ve both acknowledged we’d give each other “hall passes” eventually.
How do you take the first step?
