I agree it's a matter of trust. I'm a single male and can host, but only for those I've already met and played with. After I get to know someone or a couple then it's no problem, but a hotel room is neutral territory. Besides I'm a lousy housekeeper! LOL
I host at my home, but not at the first meeting, prefer a hotel, my treat, as do most everyone I have met with. Once a level of trust, and comfort has developed, I have no problem hosting at all
Been in the lifestyle a few years , I live alone an can host . I enjoy entertaining An cooking . I make sure my guests go home well satisfied ... lol
OP just curious ... Would you have different expectations of a single female?
As a single that can host, that still doesn't mean I will host just anyone at any time. This is my home and I am single. So letting you know where I live, the layout, the fact that I'm alone here, etc etc. is a huge step. That's usually reserved for ladies or couples who will be back often.
I can see how that would come off as "He can't host" though. Single men have to be extra careful on here. Any misstep could result in a couple being completely turned off, turned on to the wrong things, or thinking you're their personal sex slave, to be at their beck and call.
It's hard out here on us lol ;)
Allen: Speaking for myself, and as expressed in my post, it's simply a matter of preference. The basis being that my home is my sanctuary. I have had people over. Whom and when has always been discretionary. I believe for most, there is some threshold of trust involved....without resorting to what you ascribed.
“I am careful of who I let into my personal life....... My home is my sanctuary”. Etc.
Absolutely it is about mutual respect.
However, we know and interact with our single males almost daily, sometimes we go out on the town, sometimes we have them overnight at our house on occasion and sometimes they even go on trips with us.
Thoughts: If you feel you cannot trust a couple over, then why not just buy a prostitute or pump the chump and save yourselves the hassle of protecting yourself from the ones you are having intimate encounters with.......
~Allen
I am single. I could and have entertained at my home but I prefer to get a hotel witch I always pay for. I am careful of who I let into my personal life. I am a business owner and live on the premise. I always respect others privacy and expect the same in return. I think its good to find natural ground to meet and until you get to know the other people. Hell, I dont bring vanilla dates back to home on first dates. I have nothing to hide but I have found good fences make good neighbors.
I always offer to host at my home, but I'm also happy to travel to them and/or split a hotel room if that's their preference.
I like to socialize and get to know them first and after a first meet-n-greet in a public place it's just nicer to relax at home with new potential friends.
It's always worked out very well this way for me.
Knotty
I fully agree!
Personally, my home is my sanctuary. I prefer playing at hotels or elsewhere any day, every day, be it couples or singles.
I have hosted many couples in my home over the years and have never had a issue. Of course, with anyone new coming into your home you have to be careful, but this to me has proven to be a lot better than getting a hotel room. You don’t have to worry about the noise or check out . Ha
There is an assumption that the Single Male is living alone.
The SM could have . . .
It seems that all the single or so called single males cannot host, why is that? We get plenty of email and IM's of males wanting to play, but when we set to meet they cannot host. I guess when they go on a regular date they just get a room. I bet that goes over good with their date. We can't host due to our children still at home. I would guess single males would have more fun if they could host. Just my opinion.
