? For the SM's please

Being a newbie to the site, and this whole scene. In the few times I have been contacted the conversation flowed easier with the female because it felt more natural.

I almost went with asshole4u2 as a screen name, but then I thought about it and decided it might send the wrong message.

Both. Over the years I have ben ask to meet by Both the man and the wife . ask up front what you want and try too know what you are going to be doing. and with who? If you are real You will all ready know their things that The couple to know to be more open you Of what they want in a threesome

I know the OP asked of SMs but since anyone can read the thread I'm chiming in.

I've been contacted by both. Husbands / BFs who "get it" realize I will want to speak to the wife / GF as well . . . need to be very careful as a SF not to unknowingly walk into a SM only situation. The best ever, both for conversation and time spent together was a couple where I only ever spoke to her (it was a surprise). This is where surprises seem to work for husbands but not wives and I can fully understand why. However, there are women who like surprises and in those cases I suppose it is up to her partner to put the SM at ease - having certs may be a good indication the wife is in too, especially how they may be worded. Just my two cents.

I have been contacted initially by both. When the contact becomes a conversation by the two of them it seems to put all at ease.

Being bi, it makes no difference if I'm contacted by the male or female half. I enjoy MFM and MM. Open and honest as I can be when contacted. I'm in SC. Travel the Southeast to meet and play.

It doesn't matter who I talk to but both have to be aware. Chemistry is important so I prefer to meet both at a public place initially.

I have no preference myself. It seems that the few times I have been contacted it has been by the man though.

Initially, I prefer to deal with whomever reached out, but prior to a M&G, I would hope to speak to both by phone...on the same call. I find this puts everyone at ease and ensures that the previously silent half knows that a potential play date is in the works. I worry about this less with initial contact from the female half than the male. Guys issues usually center around whether the SM "gets it" and will treat his wife or GF respectfully. Unfortunately, some guys think it's a great to surprise their wives. I'd prefer that she's aware in advance.

BT

I have no preference at first. But, I hope both the hubby and wife contribute to the initial banter.

When contacted by a couple concerning a MFM-do you prefer dealing with the man-woman or have no preference?
Mr V and I have learned yet another lesson regarding that and he is now, despite a huge aversion to social media, taking a much more active role as it seems some SM's (none of you here in the fora as you are our great hope) are looking for more than a sexual encounter or 2, despite being told otherwise. Hopefully we've dodged a 6ft 250 lb bullet.