I agree, since CL stopped personal ads there appear to be far more people on this site who have been fakes or flakes. Makes vetting a more challenging process.
And so well put, “meetups interupptus” Latin is useful even during a pandemics!
To SFNative: You do have the gift of good conversation, and a sensitive and open attitude. It's unfortunate that timing and Covid-19 have created 'meetus interupptus.'
CraigsList
What is CL?
Their profile is closed to everyone now.
That is a great point in the fact since CL shutdown. Also there are scammers, kids, and married trollers that make it increasingly difficult. In my 10 plus years, the last 3-4 have been most challenging. But yet I am able to find sensually and intellectually exceptional couples, as well as they find me. Not bragging, but it takes time, patience and intelligent conversation once allowed the opportunity. We are here, just some of us are a little more seasoned.
Bella, I guess the effort to help you understand why you are having the problem that you described was not appreciated. So now you have blocked couples and don't want singles contacting you. Good luck.
Not sure if it was due to Phoenix's comments, but Bella's profile is hidden from couples. They can essentially put whatever they want in their profile. If it works for them, that's all that matters to them.
If it is in fact off-putting to SMs, they will likely still get interest, but some of the better SMs may avoid them. I know at least one in-demand SM that fits the title of this thread and he will turn down couples that contact him and have the text "We will conttact you if interested" in their profile. Again though, it's their call.
Phoenix,
Actually when it comes to who we meet it is on our terms, who’s terms would they be? Single males can be overwhelming to a couple, so yes Phoenix we do say we will contact them sorry that bothers you so much, or maybe they don’t contact you. Nice try on trying to insult our pictures, looked at your pictures, not impressed but again seems like your upset no one is contacting you. We asked a question that’s what these forums are for we don’t need your lecture! Take your bitter ass attitude somewhere else!
Phoenix,
Actually when it comes to who we meet it is on our terms. Single males can be overwhelming to a couple, so yes Phoenix we do say we will contact them sorry that bothers you so much, or maybe they don’t contact you. Nice try on trying to insult our pictures, I will take ours over yours any day take your bitter ass attitude somewhere else!
Your featured photo is a prime example of what I described in my other comment.
Bella, if I were a single guy, and took one look at your profile, I would have no further interest in meeting you. You are very, very adamant that meeting singles is on your terms ONLY. Certainly everyone must be compatible, but a first-read of your profile leaves an impression that seems very off-putting to a single guy. I counted at least FIVE warnings to single guys NOT to contact you. And then also, some of your pictures look like they are about fifth-generation Xerox copies of some photo, that originated from who knows where.
We've been fairly lucky. There will be married men who are cheating or men who are just fantasizing about some aspect of the lifestyle. You just need to be good about vetting them. We don't have a lot of time to begin with and since covid we haven't met anyone. But that hasn't stopped us from talking to potential playmates. We've always found that those who are willing to work with us or have a similar situation/schedule are genuine.
Its a vetting process.. we have found since CL closed down way more fakes, Bi closet guys, married guys claiming to be single are here.
The beginning of year we met 3 guys all single profiles all admitted being married cheating when we met them.. sorry thats not what swingers do!
We were extremely fortunate to meet two exceptional singles in this lifestyle that we immensely enjoyed spending time. Sadly we have found it difficult to experience that again with others on here. It just seems it is becoming more difficult to find singles that we are comfortable with and compatible. Does anyone else feel this way?
