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You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own is free and easy. Upload an episode, and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and hundreds more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads like this, even with just 10 listeners a month. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start free at rss.com. Welcome to Hot Couple Chronicles, a podcast exploring the swinging lifestyle.
Our discussions may contain explicit content and adult themes intended for mature audiences. While we strive to offer valuable insights and entertainment, please be aware that the views expressed are based on personal experiences and opinions. We encourage listeners to approach the content with an open mind and to prioritize communication, consent, and respect in their relationships. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, so take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't. Thank you for joining us on our adventure. I'm Russ.
i'm russ and i'm ashley and this is hot couple chronicles welcome back welcome happy wednesday yes today we're talking about events and takeovers and resorts all the things you need to know Exactly.
Yeah, it be good we've had a lot so many questions about this and i made a tiktok today explaining it a little bit more in detail i got a lot of good responses a lot of people were you know they wish they would have heard that before yeah attended their first event and i do too we walked in blindly and i think a lot of people walk in blindly and not yeah just don't know what to expect and so we want to help you out we want to make it less scary and so yeah but this past week we've had a crazy busy it's been a busy week yeah your work schedule's a lot and you're working a lot and weird hours he's training and he's doing different meetings and stuff this past like couple weeks his schedule's been weird but we had we cleaned we had to clean the house Thank you.
he's training and he's doing different meetings and stuff this past like couple weeks his schedule has been weird but we had we cleaned we had to clean the house i worked all like from six to eight yeah saturday or friday yeah and you cleaned all day all day cleaning kids from school he was at work all day so i washed everything in the house that's washable cleaned everything my sister is coming from florida my daughter is coming from florida her boyfriend's coming from florida so we had family party on saturday so friday was a lot of prepping for that we had had to get the house ready yeah how to get the food ready food yeah the food ready he smoked a pork butt yeah for like 15 hours yeah we had to do that and then we every year we get invited to local christmas parties probably one of my favorite parties yeah and this was our favorite group of people yeah this is our favorite yearly party and it was of course the same day as our vanilla family party yeah we didn't know we were going to even make it to the christmas party we're like we have this party going on and chances are we probably aren't gonna make it my sister's here and stuff but luckily they knew my sister because we had went to atlanta together all of us with her and she gets along really well with them so i was like if everyone leaves the house and it's over in time yeah maybe we'll sneak over and say hi because we hadn't't seen them for a good six, it's been a long, long time.
That's what everybody said when we walked in. We're like, we haven't seen you in forever. Yeah, we've been, life's been lifing with our, you know, our friends and us and everything. We all have been going through things. And so, we don't get to see each other as much. We used to see each other, like, weekly.
So, it's weird to not see each other so much and so we got to sneak out we grabbed our stuff and literally ran out after everybody we even grabbed emergency like swimsuits and stuff just in case we got in the hot tub yeah he had a hot tub and i'm so glad we went it was yeah it was a big time it's always and like half of the people there we didn't know it was new couples that he had met you know yeah through their in their journeys their travels and it was just a really cool awesome group of people and he goes all out his house was decorated a christmas sweater was the theme and he had tinsel it was so good he knows how to throw a party and his whole house was made to host a party so he built that house to entertain he thrives there and it was fun we played jenga from la la we played a lot of jenga which yeah i haven't i'm not good at but i did it i got overconfident a couple times i like i got the block out and then like i put it on top all cocky like and started walking away and half a step it just topples I'm like son of a bitch yeah they had done a naughty Christmas exchange gift exchange that we didn't get to do and they had a chicken trophy it was all yeah the best dressed the best dressed trophy same person as every year it's always him and so yeah we missed that part we missed the exchange and's costumes are awesome.
So awesome. And most everyone was lifestyle. I think everyone was lifestyle. Everybody there was lifestyle except your sister. Luckily, she was pretty cool. And she had a good time. We had a fire going. And it was fun. It was so much fun. I'm glad we got to go for it, even for a little bit. It was fun. We went to go for a little bit. Well, they pulled out the, what was the name of that?
yeah that card is me daddy he brought it out to show me and he was like i got a new game because he's all about games as well and so he brought it out and he's like you want to play and that was when we were getting ready to walk out the door like i was getting ready to leave yeah but you know i was like fuck it we'll play for a little bit well that ended up turning into a whole thing. It was funny. It was so much fun. Yeah. And everyone was so, like, everyone participated. It was fun. That's the thing about playing games like that with swingers. Yeah. Is everybody goes full set.
Down for a good time. Yeah. And it really wasn't that bad. Like, it wasn't really naughty. It was vanilla spicy. It was very vanilla.
But it was just was just stupid stuff like i can't even think of what they were now it was you had to pick two cards and you had to do both of them at the same time or do a punishment card yeah there was like a dare and then there was a twist to the dare yes and then if you didn't do that there was a punishment card yeah i did get my favorite card was i had to get spanked by everyone as fast as i could though i was in a hurry and i had to leave but i also had to be spanked by everyone so i had to like run around and get spanked by everyone and i'll enjoy that card yeah some guy had me bend over his over his lap i was like hey kids this is my card made for me i even think your sister had fun yeah she had so much fun she had to do the the worm yes with her shoes on her feet or her hands her shoes on her hands yeah so it was like pretty vanilla-ish but even the there it was good it was a fun time i'm glad we ended up ended up going and staying and saying hello and seeing everybody we have another christmas party this weekend that isn't it's gonna be much more vanilla it is that is very vanilla vanilla there's some of our local lifestyle friends there but it's a vanilla very vanilla party and it's bridgerton themed yeah and i honestly don't know what i'm wearing because i didn't get a jacket either and he wasn't supposed to go so and now he is off so he's gonna we're gonna wing we're winging yeah we're totally winging it these people have these huge intricate like petticoats and big ball gowns and everything and i just i'm just gonna wear a suit because by the time it was done it was gonna be like a hundred you know fifty dollars for a dress that i would wear one time that i it's not like a swinger outfit where i would get more use out of it or i could use it for like pictures or instagram or something it was just everything i looked at i was like i mean i guess we could use it for content it could be a housemaid i guess i could have but i'd much rather go on machine and buy something that i will use and that's sexy and nothing i don't know i just never.
So we're going to wing it, and they said they would rather have us there than have the outfits. So we're going to go with that. Okay. We're going to do that, and yeah, we've got Christmas right around the corner. We still have not started Christmas shopping, so. Hey, I got a handful of Christmas presents. Yeah, a few things online.
We got the big stuff for the most part but yeah the little stuff is the part that i hate and the wrapping and all of that stuff but as always we're gonna wait until the week before christmas what's the week of like always do it because we also have lots of procrastinators we also have nosy children that we can't keep gifts around here they find them even if they like we put them in the attic yeah oh yeah they always somehow somehow they're sneaky little suckers and some boys paranoid yeah lots of christmas lots of repairing lots of school christmas shows and we have a birthday tomorrow our youngest is turning nine tomorrow so we've got birthday tomorrow and it's just been a lot of crazy family life this is just a busy time of year i think for a lot of people but for us we have birthdays everyone's birthday that's all i was telling a girl i work with today it's like from october to february it's just stupid busy birthday birthday yeah so but anyways yeah Anyway, I hope you guys had a good week today we're going to talk all about events and takeovers and resorts and clubs and what to expect there and what to bring how to prepare kind of help you decide on which one is best for you a lot of meeting people is online and so a lot of events and takeovers and ones lords and stuff are the first you know the first opportunity to get to meet people in person and get to mingle it's a whole different level it's meeting a whole environment like where you can it's like almost like an immersive experience where you can just live your best life freely without judgment and it's safe they're usually like really safe places to do and express yourself events are like usually held at either like a hotel or a club or a restaurant somewhere that's yeah it depends so you have a meet and greet which is usually at a bar or a hotel yeah and that's usually you're literally just usually, you're literally just meeting people.
Or a lot of people call them munches. Yeah, it's a one night. Just one night, a couple hours, where you just meet people and... Talk and hang out. And then takeovers are longer, usually at least a weekend or more, sometimes more. Yeah, takeovers usually happen at a hotel.
Yeah, usually at a hotel or a resort, and it's like a mini vacation so you're there for a minute and those are my favorite because every event we go to or club it goes by so fast yes but at least at a takeover you have a friday and a saturday and sometimes a sunday that you can actually experience you have a chance to meet more people you can actually experience you don't have to worry about especially like hotel takeovers you don't have to worry about going anywhere yeah or drive getting back to the hotel because you just have to walk back up to your room put roots down for a second decorate take your clothes out of your suitcase and actually stay a while plus they have daytime parties and nighttime parties so you can depending on the vibe that you want you can do both and it has different vibes to it different things i love the day parties me too those are my favorite parties me too they're a little bit it's usually pools involved there's usually it's more casual it's not as hectic and loud like you can actually hang out and talk to people and then if you want to you can go eat lunch or get lunch and then it gives you a chance afterwards to take a little nap or get ready or just go out to dinner or we had to make it where we had to almost schedule like a time to eat and get ready we made that mistake way early on we used to just We would thing to the next one thing and then we would never eat and that was i mean you can see why that goes bad really fast and made that mistake many times and because you're drinking and it's daytime and it's usually summer and it's usually hot and you're you're running around and days again it's days long so you're dehydrated more than likely and you're not staying on top of your water and so food we learned on early on is we have to stop everything we're doing and go drink some water and drink some water and rest for a minute because it will wipe you out it will take you out so quickly and even uh the weekend we went to the Purple Passion and the motherfucking Lee's birthday.
Like, Even the weekend we went to the Purple Passion and the motherfucking Lee's birthday. Even between that Friday and Saturday. I was exhausted Saturday. Even two days. We just laid down and tried to take a nap for an hour. It was nice. We had time to just at least relax and watch TV and shut the blinds. We do that at Secrets, too. We like to take time and just get food and shut the blinds. It's a, yeah. Turn the music down so you stop ringing for like five minutes. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog.
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Yeah, clean yourself up. Yeah, and then clubs are, you know, you know what a club is. It's a nightclub. It's a nightclub. It's usually a few hours. It's one evening thing where you go, and there's usually a dress code and etiquette, and you just kind of hang out, and it's like any other nightclub.
And usually there's a play space or a play area if you want to but not always not all clubs have that that's pretty self-explanatory what a club is and yeah but events are a good way to dip your toes and clubs as well are just good ways to start out if you're in the beginning and you're looking for stuff to do in person a meet and greet an event yeah a club night is a really good way to just go for i mean that's how we did it i mean it's four hours of an experience like in we did like there's the misconception of you when you go to these things that you have to have sex and no go watch you can just go hang you'll even have to get naked or anything right you don't have to do lingerie or anything you can just wear clothes that you would wear to a dinner a date night something like that it really doesn't matter honestly we've gone to the club where i've wore just plain slacks and a button-up shirt and you're wearing a sundress yeah yeah it doesn't have to we don't always have to get fancy but we just enjoy getting fancy and normally in all of these things usually there are themes yeah we are all about the themes and we it's like pinterest board blown up and i love the creativity it's like halloween every single time yeah it's fun to watch people get creative.
We're to the point now where I feel like the themes are very repetitive. Oh, yeah. I've done them all a million times. And then, I don't know, I used to. Every single event, I still kind of do. But every single event, I get a new outfit.
So the whole right side of my closet, entire thing is just costumes i have every costume you can imagine every woman in the lifestyle i've talked to is like that though where like they have totes of lingerie totes of club dresses totes of costumes just because a lot of these parties it's the same people you see the same people same outfit so yeah so they want to change it up and then also it's like a progression of comfortability just somebody newer in the lifestyle they're more conservative than somebody who's been in lifestyle for a few years yeah the early is very much covered up for the most sexy but you could wear it out in public without yeah to like a worry and then as you get on like women are wearing trench coats to the club because that's literally nothing to them yes yeah it's because they're more comfortable in that environment now now that i've been in it though i have been reusing a lot of stuff i've been trying because there's outfits that i haven't worn in three years i won it one time three years ago and yeah dude like you can wear the same glow dress that you were three years ago nobody cares nobody knows so i've been trying to kind of i liked last time with the trap you pulled out the old red dress yeah i'm like oh i miss that i miss that closet and stuff i just like a lot of my stuff stuff doesn't fit me because I was super tiny when I started Lifestyle.
And that was one that I was like, I had some stretch to it so you can see. It looks different on me now than it did that kind of thing. I think it looked amazing. It was like one of the dresses that I used to bring out when we would just randomly go to trapeze one night. I have a pink one and a red one like that.
And those were my like go-to objects if we went to the club because we never did themes at the beginning of the club ever yeah not really usually we just dressed up because we like dressing up which was nice or we'd like a theme usually has some type of color involved so we'd correspond with that color especially a trapeze that they'll they don't really go too hard on themes and trapeze so we have friends that the first time they ever went to a club or any club they went and looked up the theme and i forget what it was abc oh it was the worst my least favorite theme and they went all out getting these costumes making these costumes and i guess they showed up and not one person was in costumes yeah and they're the only ones only one first time at the club yeah so you know it's usually events and takeovers themes are hardcore yeah but the club just doesn't go as hard usually if it's a color they'll do that but i've never really seen other than halloween really than Halloween, really people go all out at the club.
There's always a few that go all out, but for the most part, it's pretty mild. Yeah. Unless you're, like you said, unless you're at a takeover or a resort or a party that you're going to stay and you don't have to go out in public in? It depends on the group that you're listening to. Yeah, that too. Swing society always does themes everywhere we go, club or not. Pineapples after dark also go pretty hard with their themes.
There's some that go pretty hard with themes, but if you're looking to go to a club or go to an event, definitely get on the website and see what the theme is and make sure you're comfortable in whatever you wear no matter what it is if you want to do the theme or not all that matters is that you're comfortable and that you're feeling good about yourself as i promise you will have a way better time if you feel comfortable looking for a fresh way to connect in the lifestyle welcome to the playground a modern space where open-minded adults meet explore and create unforgettable connections built for the lifestyle community the playground is where curiosity meets connection ready to join the phone click the link below and start your adventure with the playground today and then with the clubs and stuff everyone always asks me all of the time what to bring to the club and we all have ho bags ho bags is what we call them and we all have you'll see us all carrying in bags of things the most clubs have most all clubs have lockers some of them you need to get bring locks for some of them like chuppies have lock they look they have attendance yeah the most clubs have most all clubs have lockers some of them you need to get bring locks for some of them like chuppies have lock they like they have attendance yeah and yeah you we all have hold bags and usually in those hold bags we bring lingerie because around 11 12 ish everyone no matter if it's in vent or club usually changes into lingerie that's usually the norm and so you want to bring something that you're going to change into along with a outfit to wear home because you're not going to be able or a trench coat or you know something that you can cover up with when you have to get the uber get back home or go out to the hotel or whatever and then you know you want to bring lube condoms some comfortable flip like flip-flops comfortable shoes they get out of the heels number one tip your feet are gonna kill you there's a lot of dancing a lot of walking at secrets i don't even bother anymore i just bring my slides period i don't do heels at secrets anymore i've learned that lesson a long time ago i might put them on for pictures for literally five minutes but flip-flops slides even trapeze now anymore i'm just like i'll show up in the heels get back there and just change it into flip-flops it's really not worth it last time you brought your pink fuzzy slippers oh yeah my fit yeah my house slippers i don't even care anymore i have the worst feet ever like i have horrible feet and so that's the first thing that everybody loved them though i got some events on them and i'm on tiktok so yeah no one gives a crap but i've went to so many clubs and made that mistake and events and stuff and then just been barefoot and been that person just barefoot the entire night which pain in your feet bare feet i usually pick the bare feet because yeah i just have horrible feet anyway but yeah and then anything that's going to make you feel comfortable.
So like hair ties, deodorant, mouthwash, or breath man. That's part of my, like, because I have my own mini whole bag. I have a mini whole bag.
Which has condoms, those portable lube packets, and a little pill bottle with viagra in it yeah bring all your medications and your and protection and all of that and then bring breath mint sprays all that and anything you're gonna need to make you feel more comfortable and make you feel better about this after a long night of dancing and stuff like you sometimes before you play you have to just freshen yeah you do and that's why because you don't want to be that stinky person I have wipes in mine and I have spray you know for down there just a refresher spray if I need it and you know some wipes if you need it for afterwards and at Chappie's they have wipe warmers full of wipes in the playrooms which is super nice and then they have mouthwash at the sinks in the bathroom which is also really nice yeah they think ahead and they have all the condoms and everything usually most diamond club they have like dishes of condoms and mints and stuff the the caveat to that is they're not good the best like they're not the most comfortable condoms yeah they're the direct they're cheap but they're still condoms they still do the job in the pinch if you need it yeah but we like to do like latex free and yeah spend a little bit more money just it's a good thing to do hey there listeners are you looking to prioritize your sexual health and wellness we've got just a thing for you shameless care offers at-home testing kits telehealth consultations and even treatment for ed and performance anxiety for when you want to play but your body says otherwise it's convenient discreet and all about keeping you at your best and guess what we've teamed up with them to give you an exclusive discount an exclusive discount.
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There's no pressure. Nobody is expecting you to be naked or get into any uncomfortable situations. And you are in control of your experience experience it's okay to sit back and just watch just people watch just walk around just dance just go eat dinner if you're not feeling it or you're uncomfortable you guys can leave it's yeah there's no like times you have to stay there for and don't pressure your don't put your partner in uncomfortable situations like they're not comfortable with yet. I definitely don't recommend playing before you've been there a few times.
Go at the pace of the most apprehensive partner, I would say. Because you don't want to be that person that's dragging your partner. No, why not? Just focus on your partner at first. Yeah, definitely go into it.
Just try and have a good time and go meet people go unfold your arms don't sit in the back in the corner body language is a big thing like if you're sitting in the corner with your arms crossed so you're not gonna you're already closed off you're not open to conversation essentially you're going on a date night it's a date with everyone else night not just your partner so think of it as that you're looking for potential partners and people to and if you're sitting there is having a good time with your partner you're going to attract other people to come talk to you as well yeah yeah so body like yeah body language is everything go just have a good time just meet people and those people that you meet maybe you're not attracted to maybe they're not personality wise you don't click or whatever but you never know who their friends are and everyone we all like to introduce each other to our we all like to be matchmakers and especially if you've been around a long time and you get to know people you will meet their friends and you'll meet their friends and so you never know who they're friends with and or and everyone that you meet is for the most part you're listening to a podcast right now driving working out walking the dog if you're into podcasts chances are you have something to say too with rss.com starting your own is free and easy upload an episode and we distribute it to apple podcasts spotify amazon music and hundreds more track your listeners see where they're from and start earning from ads like this even with just 10 listeners a month if you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign.
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We barely ever actually have sex with people for the most part when we do these things we are hanging out and talking about these deep conversations and stuff that you don't you put the guard down and you don't get to talk about in real life yeah in normal they regular life yeah you have some i didn't expect that at first just good like open-minded yeah amazing humans you will meet in this lifestyle and either and even if you don't have sex with them chances everyone's an open conversation yeah like for the most part everyone's an open book and you're gonna meet you know there's a section to rule there's gonna be bad apples in there and there's gonna be not so great people that are there and against their will and people that you know are not shouldn't be there definitely in the minority yeah yeah very few times has that ever happened you know they come across that very often there's always exceptions to the rules obviously but you don't come across those type of people because they stick out like a sore thumb and they leave pretty early another good thing about this lifestyle is most of us can are we can we're pretty good judges of character yeah kind of you kind of spot the ones who are not so great not so good really quickly pretty early on and so people and word of mouth is huge too in this lifestyle it's a little world yeah it seems.
Yeah. It seems big, but it's a little. Everybody talks to everybody. Very close, tight-knit community. And if you're not doing things that you should do, if you're not doing it the way that you should, people are going to find out pretty quickly. You don't have to make it weird. You can literally just be like, Hi, I'm Ashley. Hi, I'm Russ.
How are you are you nice to meet you it doesn't have to be pretend you're in kindergarten and just introduce yourself as long as you're manners hi i'm russ this is my wife ashley what's your name you're a decent human being yeah like just be normal have manners and then get to the club or you know early yeah especially if it's your first time going to the club usually they have tours usually they have tours usually there's a registration process Thank you.
you know early yeah especially if it's your first time going to the club usually they have tours and usually they have tours usually there's a registration process like i know the collect clubs they you apply for membership online before you even go quite a few do that too and there's and they is tempted like that too was tempted like that i think so yeah i think so but you apply online to get approved to the the vetting process to make sure you're real a real person and then but like trapeze you register with your id and everything right there in the lobby somewhere like that too but you still have to sign up you have to have a membership to get in the club and usually pretty strict guidelines and stuff then you'll have to pay and do all that plus there's usually like i know trapeze there's usually a line and there's limited amounts of diamond club so you want to get there early for that as well it's changed the last few years because everybody gets there early too because they only sell so many diamond club upgrades okay yeah everybody's trying to get back there so they show up early like 15 minutes before they open to get that upgrade and you want to just get comfortable go to get a locker get the lay of the land go walk around go check out the playrooms go look at the food or the buffet or whatever they have go check out the dance floor and just like people watch we still do that like watch people we went to the club before they opened prefer we go back get a drink order our food and then we sit get a seat sit there talk chit chat with people most of the time there's limited amount of seating i know red rooms like that like there's a limited amount of spaces and a lot of times at clubs and events and stuff they have spots where you can reserve like a little section and so those are usually bought and ahead of time or reserved ahead of time and you want to they usually don't have that many seating areas at all that any club we've ever been to really and so you if you're there early you can have you know a seat and you can sit and be comfortable you just want to get comfortable it's going to be a long night it can be overwhelming there's a lot going on but you just go if you reserve a spot it's good for newcomers to reserve a spot because it's a good place to decompress for a minute and it's a a good place to just keep your stuff out too.
Because nobody wants to dance holding all of that shit either. Well then some clubs like Louisville Tempted and Colette they don't hold your liquor. Alcohol yeah. Or alcohol. Yeah. So you have a space to put it.
Yeah secret stuff like like that yeah you want to have a space where you can sit your cups down and yeah highly recommend bringing your own cup also along with what to bring bring your own cup with a lid not so much i don't hear about it very much but when we first started this lifestyle roofing was an issue yeah and we makes zero sense to me but don't get it at all and it was a thing and that everyone had an experience with roofing i've had my own experience with being and i learned very quickly that we've had a lot of friends that have been roofing people and it's just a more it's peace of mind safety thing now i haven't heard about it in a really long long time anyone getting reviewed or anything.
But at the beginning it seemed to be a really big issue. I think it was a person where we were. We kept doing it. But... That was the what we, yeah. That was the rumor. I learned it's not worth the risk and plus we all love our cups. I mean all of our tumblers. So bring your own.
Most of the time time it's it saves you trips from the bar because there will be long lines and lots of people trying to get drinks and it gives you a less time than you have to go for the better you don't want it's just fun to see all the different stickers on them and everyone's got their names on them and we all get them designed and custom made and yeah tumblers are huge in the lifestyle and we do like that and then talk more about etiquette and what is to be expected all of this consent is the number one respect boundaries if you are in if you're walking around and you see a playroom and the door is shut that means no one they don't want anyone to go in there yeah you don't touch the door you don't go in there at all if they have sometimes they'll have like where it's open door yeah so a lot of people keep the door open just because they like to be watched that's us but that doesn't mean that they want you to play.
Always. And it's weird. I don't, like, if somebody... because they like to be watched. That's us. But that doesn't mean that they want you to play. Always. And it's weird. I don't, like, if somebody's playing in a room, even if we're friends with them, I'd never go into that room because, one, I don't want to interrupt what they're doing. They don't want to be that person. And even if you just ask to come in, you're interrupting them. Yeah. Yeah, stand out there and just be respectful. So, like, if you just, if you want to watch, watch. If the door's open, they like being watched. Yeah.
Just watch, sit back, and maybe, and if they want you in there, I promise you that you will be invited. I promise you're going to know if you're invited or not. I promise. They will. They will let you know. The orgy were in secret. That's how, we were just watching, and then they pulled us into it. Yeah, they had the window open at the bottom, and we were watching. And they were like, come on, come in. And this happened many times. But, yeah, if they want you in there and they see you looking, you will be excited. But do not go in there. Do not interrupt. Don't interject yourself.
Do not, no, do not, you know, don't just start yelling or anything.
And I think that does come from BDSM roots as well as just if a scene is going on right that you just don't interrupt scenes and you just don't interject yourself when you're not invited so just have common sense and boundaries consent no means no always if it's not an enthusiastic yes it is a no and so move on move along we've had so many a times especially early on in our club days where i don't know what it is i haven't had it happen in a really long time but we in the playroom i've had men laying over top of me two inches from my face but i've had while having sex with someone tell men to back up i was having sex with one of my friends in an area at a club one time and this guy just kept coming back and he was staring you know standing two inches from my face as well and just kept coming back and you know the guy i was with was like we're good we don't need you here yeah like we were trying to be very you know he was being very protective because he knew i was uncomfortable because this strange guy was standing over top of me.
And it was a problem a lot. We luckily haven't had that problem for a minute, but it used to be a really big problem. I think that's a good transition we've had in the lifestyle. I think when we first got into it, the boundaries and consent wasn't as much on the forefront.
And we kind of kind of yeah i like to believe that we helped with that a little bit because we called out all the bullshit hopefully education some people just don't know yeah just don't know i don't know i think it was a mix between the negative stigma and the expectations of like misguided expectations within life and new people getting into it and excited you get people like you and other influencers in the space and we educate these people like oh so and we also we we surround ourself now with a big group of people where before it was a me and you just in the corner somewhere I think or me and someone and it was a very small safety in numbers type deal.
Yeah. I think a lot of times now we weren't doing orgy situations and stuff or this big intimidating more group of people where you know, obviously boundaries can be crossed there too but it just doesn't happen as often. We've had some not so great experiences but the most part, club is a good way to... Even the not-so-great experiences were learning experiences. We didn't like that. Let's not do that again. And I wasn't comfortable at that point yet to say no. I was new and less... Yeah. I was way more timid and scared to kind of say what I wanted and say what I needed and stuff.
But now I think maybe that also helps, too, is because I because i'm not afraid to be like oh where before i was so scared to like upset anyone or hurt anyone's feelings or yeah i'm a little bit more yeah you can't be afraid to hurt somebody's feelings you have to feel comfortable to say no and have boundaries and rules and be say i'm uncomfortable and i've grown a lot even we're all nice people, and we don't like to hurt somebody's feelings, we come first.
So there's a nice way to do it, but at the end of the day, your feelings aren't really my problem yeah anything else that we need to cover about that go on the websites go look at the websites we oh we've touched on dress getting dressed that we like to dress to impress yeah definitely dress to impress most clubs and stuff have uh rules dress, stuff that they don't want you wearing. You usually can't wear shorts or sneakers. You want to wear collared shirts like that. So definitely make sure you're getting on their website, seeing pictures.
They'll kind of show you what's all included and what the fees are and all the hours. All that stuff that you want to need to know. Check the themes. Check the themes. They'll have an event calendar with the themes. If that's what you want to, if it's one that you'll like, go for it. Looking for a fun and welcoming community to connect with others who share your lifestyle? Join the Swinger Society Discord. It's the perfect place to meet new friends, share experiences, get tips, and have a great time with like-minded people.
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and takeovers and clubs have their own pages on them and that's where we pretty much anywhere you meet swingers is where you're gonna find these clubs and events and takeovers oh you forgot house parties what is a house party also damn it oh i forgot about that that's fine house parties are in the event category it's a one night you're listening to a podcast right now driving working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own is free and easy.
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It's usually a private, more quiet Yeah, it's what it's it's usually a private more quiet yeah it's usually invite only private yeah much more secluded like an invitation with people you have met or already know like chris's party we went to was a house party yeah we have only ever been to like a couple of house parties we've only ever been to other than our friends houses that we knew we've only ever been to one house party yeah of strangers it was strangers and the description was not what it was it ended up being nothing like the description yeah the description sounded really cool like we.
Like, we could have a really good time, and it was not that. It was... Well, no, they advertised it as, like, a mansion on the lake. On the lake, and it was definitely a cabin style house. Yeah, in the woods. In the woods.
I didn't see see no water but they said it was somewhere nearby uh there were stairs that went down into the a bit like darkness i think it was a dock but it was super intimidating because we didn't do no one whatsoever going into it and we got out of the uber and we were like yeah the uber from our hotel which was the hotel they recommended was like a 25-minute drive from the hotel to this house in the middle of nowhere. I mean, I don't know.
from our hotel which was the hotel they recommended was like a 25 minute drive from the hotel to this house in the middle of nowhere and we already were like super scared we got out there and we saw what it was and we were like should we turn around and go back to the hotel like we stood out there for a good 15 but it's just like contemplating whether we walk yeah because everyone was on the front porch because there was this tiny little like front porch on the front and they were all just like best friends and they're all just hanging out and i didn't know how to go yeah it was walk past them and go into their house and it was it's hey and you know you introduce yourself and you say hi and stuff but it's still awkward when you're in a house when you're at someone else's home someone else's home, it's definitely, if you don't know those people, it's definitely always like this weird.
It was an experience, to say the least. We haven't been back to another house party since other than our friends, so maybe we'll give another one a try one time, but I don't know. It would have to, but I also feel like next house party we go to, we'll need to bring friends. We'll bring friends with us.
That way, worst case scenario, we have our friends worst case scenario we had we ended up having fun it was fun we met so many people yeah we met so many people they had a basement and there was music and then we were outside they had inflatable pool where they did what t-shirt contests and stuff and yeah it was it was an experience we always like we said before like we always turn the night into something positive and we have fun no matter what we do it doesn't matter where we are or hey we've had some really from the beginning the worst case scenario we're going to have fun together even like the worst experiences we will figure something out we'll have a good time we did we ended up staying all night had a good time met some really good people yeah but would i go again no but it was a good time and we had fun together and that's all that matters and the whole this whole entire thing is all about that all the matters is that you and your partner had fun and that's none of the none of the other stuff matters really honestly it is what you make it yeah and just go it with a positive mindset and yeah but yeah finding them you can go SDC, SLS, Cassidy all those things they have them all on there the playground's new but they're building spaces within their app for different like eye candy and a whole bunch of other ones B was up for dark that's their app and then um singer society we go to a lot of their events they do throw some really amazing good parties some good people and they're all about the themes more than any other group i've ever seen and so if that's more your vibe and it's a hot ass group of people yeah every you know it's a good it's a good party and it's a good time so they have a discord so your society discord i'm sure you've heard me talk about it a million times in the last three years and go on there you can meet people on there and then most most of the time you can find this stuff also on facebook facebook has a lot of good a lot of good that's where we found the playground or well we found kind of dark and ultimately playground and that was a facebook group and a lot of times people will say this's where we found the playground.
Or, well, we found. Kind of was like the dark. And ultimately, the playground. And that was a Facebook group. And a lot of times people will say, this is what we're doing. Anybody going to this event. And you can feel out stuff. People's favorites. People ask for recommendations. It's more personal because it is Facebook. Yeah. You get to comment, you know, directly. It's more personal. A lot of people make lifestyle Facebook pages.
People are comfortable with facebook people have been using facebook for so many years it's just it's more beyond a lot of us have had facebook since the beginning since it started since my space days so you'll find a lot of like local facebook's a good resource for local stuff if you're looking for stuff closer to home it's a lot easier to narrow down your search to savannah or middle georgia or southeast georgia or wherever the hell you live but they're usually they have like regional groups that are you'll find stuff private that's what you're looking for and like secrets has their own group on there and you can find all the information on there and ask questions and stuff and if you're nervous and you're super scared just go to a club just go to a club for a night just go i'm it depends on the couple it depends on who you are and stuff the secrets would be better for maybe some people and it is a little bit more depending you can make it whatever you want we have some local friends going to secrets with us this time and they've never been to a party like this nothing like that yeah it's so we stay for a week like it's all like he was that he was asking me about it i'm like it's going to be fun trust me good it's gonna be so much fun so yeah it really depends on the couple it's a personal thing and just ask people their recommendations and what they think you would like and what they like the best and the worst case scenario, you try it out and you don't go back.
So if you're looking, I definitely highly recommend Serious Society, Playground, SEC, SLS. Try them all out. We have free trials. You might as well try it for a couple weeks and see. Yeah, it'll give you... Sign up for the free trial. Make a profile. Poker. Look around. See what's the... Find which ones in that free trial work best for you. Yeah. At the very least, get on there just to look at the events or the clubs that are local to you. And you might have to travel, unfortunately. A lot of clubs like Trapeze, they have certain nights of the week that are sponsored by SDC or Cassidy.
And you can get $20 off at the if you put get put on the guest list on those sites and a lot of them have like newbie nights and you'll have like wednesdays is a newbie night or you have all people that are brand new that they take in and they take give tours to and it's a quiet night with you know without the djs and all the you know loud music and crazy chaos that you can just go and meet people and introduce yourself and don't be afraid to tell people it's your first time that you're new no one we know isn't gonna be like oh my gosh welcome thank you for coming to our club or like welcome to our space with our people let me introduce you let me show you around every you know how many times we've given tours and stuff places that we're familiar with and stuff and our friends do the same we love when we have people wanting to join us and join this lifestyle that's it's so much fun to you know welcome people we love new people we love answering all the questions we love we'll take your hand and show you all the ropes and yeah introduce you to the managers and the friends and the bartenders and the chefs and all the cooks and stuff like we love everyone.
So we want to show you our world. Yes. We want to introduce you to this amazing world full of amazing people. But take your time. No expectations. And whatever it takes for you to be comfortable, do that. Meet people. Mingle.
That's the number one thing I can always say is meet people talk yeah go meet people so everything out the door what comes the costumes and what you should take just talk to people like that's the number one thing you're not going to have fun and i'm not going to say that because you still can't have fun but you're not going to have as much have a full of an experience It's a community it is a community it is amazing that's what got us into it let's be honest yeah that's our favorite part about it is meeting the people is the community yeah and the people in it and yeah tell them that you're new tell everybody that you're new don't be afraid to tell people that you don't pretend like you know what you're doing or you know where you're going if you don't don't be like that there are plenty of us that are more than happy to show you the ropes and that's what we're doing here right now so yeah we want to know all about your experiences what you prefer if you prefer clubs takeovers all of that share with us on social media and let us know we want to hear all your stories your first times at the club your first time at the events all of the things any more questions any questions anything we didn't cover yeah we have to do this all the time so we are more than happy to make part twos of any of these episodes if there's more that you want to learn about when we get to talking and get into it we get off on tangents and things and get loose track and we don't really Thank you.
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We're going to off just a couple weeks we'll be back january 8th after the first of the year yeah christmas falls on a wednesday we got new year's eve we've got birthdays like you were saying our anniversary as well in between there and the next three weeks are going to be absolutely insane and i think that it's not that crazy to take off for the holidays we got parties we're going to and everything else like that we're going to have a lot to talk about yes so january 8th we're going to come back with an episode all about our new year's eve party we are going out for the first time personally i've never been out for new year's eve ever i'm trying to think if i did before but i don't maybe once or twice when i was a child at least for 21 years we've been home and we've always done the same thing every single year so it's our anniversary two days before so we always we never do anything ever for it so we're just gonna we decided that we're gonna go to trapeze for new year's eve so if you guys are coming let us know we will be there we are so excited to check it out i can put the link to buy tickets for trapeze new year's eve party in the show notes i've got trapeze i'm so excited we buy about a dress and everything where it's formal attire we're going all out yeah it's very fun we've every single year we want to go every single time and we just haven't been able to make it and this year we're going all out.
Yeah, it's going to be fun. Every single year, we want to go every single time. And we just haven't been able to make it. And this year, we're going to be able to make it. And all of our friends are going. Our pad group's going. And we have a hotel block and hotel room. And we're all staying in the same place. So it's going to be a really good time. Yes.
That I introduce a bang literally so hopefully if it all goes well we're hoping anyway but yeah that's gonna be our next episode will be january 8th so that's a wednesday and it will be all about our shenanigans that we get into on new year's eve and our review on trapeze's new year's party because we've never been and we've heard good things and it's supposed to be the biggest event of the year it's the thing to do with all of the best foods and all the things so i'm excited yeah i'm excited we will we'll let you know all the scoops on all of that and yeah and then our christ Christmas, we'll tell you how that goes and all of our anniversary, all the things in between.
And we will miss you guys. I hope you guys have the best Christmas ever, the best New Year's, and we're going to miss you. But come back again, please, January 8th. Yes, we'll definitely be back. Please come back and visit us again. I hope you have a great holiday. Happy holidays. As always. Not as always. It's not that serious. Don't make it weird. Bye. Bye, guys. We love you. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door.
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