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Speaker1: You're listening to a podcast right now, driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own podcast is free and easy. Upload an episode and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads just like this. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at RSS.com. Thank you. earning from ads just like this. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at rss.com. Welcome to Hot Couple Chronicles, a podcast exploring the swinging lifestyle. Our discussions may contain explicit content and adult themes intended for mature audiences. While we strive to offer valuable insights and entertainment, please be aware that the views expressed are based on personal experiences and opinions. We encourage listeners to approach the content with an open mind and to prioritize communication, consent, and respect in their relationships. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, so take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't. Thank you for joining us on this adventure. I'm Russ. And I'm Ashley. And this is Hot Couple Chronicle here we are again happy wednesday happy wednesday we're back again we came back again pretty impressed but last week we talked about uh what we talked about last week being a swinger joining oh joining the lifestyle that's right joining the lifestyle that's right kind of important it's a big deal that's right this one's kind of piggybacking off of that a little bit it's kind of talking a little bit more kind of have to do with that topic but it's going to be talking about red flags in the lifestyle we have seen them we've heard about them we know all about them but we want to help you avoid that if we can't we want to try and also and then somebody's red flag isn't necessarily a red flag depending on yeah you know depending on the scenario doesn't necessarily mean that it's like a no-go yeah don't do anything with these people we're just saying these are things that you want to pay a little more attention to and keep a little bit of an eye on because they might mean something more they might not but there are things that we've seen stuff that went wrong stuff that kind of help identify that before it happened and talk more about kind of avoiding those problems that you run into especially when you're brand new and you're joining the lifestyle you really don't think much about these things and maybe now you'll pay a little bit more attention and maybe you'll hopefully it will go for the best for you so what is the lifestyle what is swinging and why are red flags so important to look out for? Start there. Like what is swinging? The definition? I consider it just a consensual relationship where you have sex. Physical encounters with other consenting adults. Why are red flags so important to recognize? What is the key? Consent and communication is what the core of the lifestyle is about and everything is surrounds that at all times consent communication always and so it's just recognizing things that people are lacking in the consent and communication department pretty much yeah pretty much ways that you can recognize it before it's too late yeah before you're put into a situation that's uncomfortable or Yeah. Unsafe. Yeah, pretty much. Ways that you can recognize it before it's too late. Yeah, before you're put into a situation that's uncomfortable or unsafe. And unfortunately, in this lifestyle, one of the biggest misconceptions is that we sleep with anyone and everyone. And protection means nothing to us. Yeah. And so the first red flag really is, you know, kind of going into that is checking notches off people just rushing into the bedroom people yeah people that are just always pushing pressuring you to hurry up always all the time and again it's not always a definite this is a bad thing because there are a lot we've ran into a lot of people who are just very experienced and this is just something that they do just for sex dtf yeah they're just dtf couples or dtf people that just want to go have sex very often with whoever they don't care who it is or whatever really at all you know less than most people but for the most part most people want more and want a connection or want a relationship or something but definitely most people we run into want some type of connection before they go to the bedroom but there are people that so i mean it might not always it's not again it's not always all or nothing but yeah just something to look out because there are pushy people that the thing with being pushy and rushing into the bedroom is you don't have time to go over your boundaries. You feel rushed and hurried. Oftentimes, consent gets kind of left to the side and safety. And you kind of, you know, you got to really worry about those other things coming in there, too. So definitely one to keep an eye on the number one for me though going back to the list of different red flags the number one is communication yeah the lack the lack thereof
Speaker2:
yeah
Speaker1:
when there is no you know there's problems with that marriage yeah you know that they haven't been through all the things and talked a lot of times you see them you can see it a mile away when they're already you know bickering you can see them like bickering back and forth Thank you. and talked a lot of times you see them you can see a mile away when they're already you know bickering you can see them like bickering back and forth across the room and it's usually throughout the night especially if like you are there for a while with them like a weekend or something like that and you know through the weekend you can kind of see them arguing over here and this one's mad and this one's not they're not talking for amount of time and unfortunately a lot of times those couples it happens a lot you'll see it with the same couples where you can tell it's like a root communication problem yeah that's it is huge communication it's going on communication or there's one of the partners is pushing a boundary that's already been set yeah yeah again and keeps like crossing a boundary or pushing a boundary and so somebody's getting upset and frustrated and it's just not a good situation to put yourself in the middle of you can tell when people you can talk pretty when marriages are solid and you know that they talk and you know there's communication there and you know that there's a line of communication going on and you can tell when that line is kind of closed or shut a little bit smaller. Well, when you're surrounded by a whole bunch of people that have really good communication skills and are solid, the people that don't, unless they're really, really good at hiding it it stick out like a sore thumb yeah because they're the they're the couples that are in the corner you can tell they're not having a good time you can tell who's there having a good time who's not having a good time when people are just not communicating correctly or they're not you know communicating effectively either one's too upset or one's not clear-minded, alcohol. There's a lot of other things that could be involved and the communication is just messed up somewhere. That's another red flag to me. It's just too intoxicated. Yeah, intoxication. Too much some sort of mind-altering substance of some sort. When you're like that, you can't consent yeah and if you have to be on that level to do this lifestyle i always question whether you really want to be there or what it is that you're trying to numb or what it is that you're like why do you need i understand like getting loose and loosening up now having a good weekend and having a good time but if you're constantly running into to that point where you have a problem and I mean that's the right when it is it's the same thing all the time but again it's not always necessarily because they've overindulged or got too excited you know it's gonna happen it happens chances are to a lot of people but but it's those things you see you know more than one yeah it's when you see him repeatedly just getting too drunk and i don't think you need to ever really be at that point you know no like at all so it is a red flag regardless i think for me anyway because we've all been there and i know i'm not having yeah i know i've been yeah when i'm not yeah when i'm there i'm not having that good of a time no no until it's When telling's not fun on that level at all. But yeah, we've all messed up. It's not, you know, make or break it just for seeing somebody get a little bit too overindulged. It breaks it for that night. But yeah, for that night it should. It should. But that doesn't mean forever. But again, it's just a flag. Just something to keep a little bit, a little bit of an eye on. Mental note. Mental note. Yeah. And then disrespect for boundaries. Somebody who always is trying to push them or disregard them or doesn't respect them. Yeah. Anyone who's kind of always like. Somebody that doesn't respect their boundaries and with their partner is not going to respect yours especially like if they like a stranger they're a person and if they're not respecting their boundaries that's what i'm saying the person that you're supposed to respect and yeah yeah that's a yeah that's a big one that's a really big one and it's just consent right i mean it just always leads down to not only red flag but also the consent issue because that problem and that's a big one. That's a really big one. That's a big one. And it's just consent, right? I mean, it just always leads down to not only a red flag, but also the consent issue and consent problem. And that's a no-good one. And then another huge one is jealousy. People that are jealous or possessive constantly. The super possessive ones, they have an older one over their partner, which generally stems from, like, insecurities. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. 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If you're into into podcasts chances are you have something to say too with rss.com starting your own podcast is free and easy upload an episode and we distribute it to apple podcasts spotify amazon music and more track your listeners see where they're from and start earning from ads just like this if you've been thinking about starting a podcast this is your sign start your new podcast for free today at rss.com side of it they've clearly not talked about a lot and there's still a lot of insecurities or fears and i think they're like if they're like rushing into it a little bit and a lot of times in that situation the partner is trying to rush the other one into it yeah and when somebody's kind of just pulling the other one behind you know along another one doesn't want to be there it ends up being bad yeah yeah like yeah jealousy always because it's always in the moment in the heat of the moment so that's one that's always hard to navigate but it is yeah a red flag we've seen especially the ones who like always do it all of the time well and that's it like all the time jealousy is a basic human emotion it's not if you feel it it's how and deal with it and we we've had situations where we've held it in until after the fact it's like hey i didn't like when this happened yeah and so we work that out but anymore if we feel a certain sort of way we just feel like i don't like this well again the lack of communication is a problem and it all boils down down to, like, that causes more problems. Sound like a broken record, but it all boils down to... Communication, consent. Like, this whole lifestyle, it just revolves around consent, communication at all times. And then what do you do with the red flags when you spot a red flag what what do you do then what do you say to do depends on how involved i am with them honestly like a lot of times we can see before we even really like interact with them a whole lot usually me and you will be like yeah hey this is going on and kind of like a sidebar like i'm not going to call that person out that's their own thing that's a them thing when we say that all of the time we spot a lot of red flags and we're like okay this is not something that we want to get into this is we both take a note and we're like yeah let's go get a drink or hey let's go get something to eat and we find a way to kind of like navigate out of it i was just gonna say that was my next thing is like how do you go about navigating out of it and that's what i would say just for us a lot of the time especially when people are in that like confrontational or there's like argument going on or they're in like not a great space it's better to just go away oh yeah and i know communication is always the number one thing, you know, and we say that all the time. And there are a lot of scenarios where a good community, where you don't have like, because like a red flag would be like on a profile, like, hey, there's no pictures. Or, hey, you know, this person isn't communicating. You know, we say that's like a red flag.
Speaker2:
Oh.
Speaker1:
Stuff like that. That would be an instance where you could have a conversation and be like, hey, why doesn't your wife ever talk? Like, that's a red flag for a lot of people people no pictures or no information or no communication with one spouse and i but i always do make a note to go in there periodically and i always do it especially at the beginning when we first start the groups i'm always like hey and i do participate from the beginning no great i'm just horrible everybody that's in a group chat with us knows that we are horrible we're're both not good at it. But I am the absolute worst. But I will make my presence known and be like, hey, this is me. It actually is me. And I do enough where I'm like, hey. I check in and I'll take pictures here and there. And that's, again, another, like, it's a red flag to keep an eye on. But, like, I'm real. I'm participating. I can read everything that's going on anymore if we get into like group chat i tell them straight up i'm like hey like we are not good i've always been honest about that the apps and messengers and you know snapchats there's a lot of notifications we are like we're not good at it i'm like but doesn't mean we're not interested just means sometimes you might have to remind us yes yes if you don't hear anything just you know poke us in a minute and just make sure you remind us that we were having because yeah we do we've been accused of ghosting just because it's not we get so many messages and notifications and between that vanilla life and just in general and then my hatred towards phones and i try to keep them at an arm's length at all times unless i'm working i work for my phone so it's like every time i'm on my phone i'm just like work mode work mode all the time so it's hard but that's one example of it could be a red flag it could not be red flag that's a that's a that's where a solution to all of this would be an open line of communication or you can just sit down and be like and i do recommend even with all of them later on down the road especially when you want to get close to those people like like, sitting down. This is what's going on. Just checking and seeing what's happening. I've noticed this is happening every time. Another way to navigate that, too, is having the wife message you. Because that's not outside of our boundaries. The women can talk separately and the guys can talk separately.
Speaker2:
So if there's any question, like question like hey go ahead and message her like have you know her you know your wife message my wife yeah yeah i mean like that's a scenario where you can just talk about it and you can have a conversation as adults where you just sit down and talk there's a lot of them should be sat down and you can be pretty open but in the moment sometimes the best course of action is to just disappear into the background just kind of get distracted doing something else and kind of yeah that's a touchy subject because there's a lot of people that hate that but honestly it's sometimes when especially when it's like an argument going on yeah there's a marriage thing going on which that's like the biggest ones that we've encountered is like yeah deep marriage problems happening and arguments in the corner or people we were at a club we've we've been in a club and we've seen husband and wives arguing and yelling and screaming in the parking lot and And then the husband's actually leaving. I remember going out front in the club a couple times. Unfortunately, it's happened more than once. Wife or girlfriend or whatever just sitting on the bench and being like, he left me. I think a lot of times she started walking down the road. And if you know, the location of the club is not a safe area was it the last time we were there there's like the wife chased after the husband and another girl oh yeah there's a girlfriend problem yeah i'm like they're all running going down the road walking and one was leaving and then the one time one just a husband left his't have, she didn't have a wallet. She was in lingerie. She was in lingerie, didn't have her clothes to change into, had no phone and no wallet. And he just took off and left her there. Like, there's some scenarios where you got to get some help that's like bigger than you. Or you have to just remove yourself from that situation. Our club is awesome. And the manager all right we're gonna get you in uber she is fine she was great but but at the time you need to go yeah you help out the people that need it but other than that like not that extreme but yeah when it's just like a marriage problem something is going on between that couple and sometimes you just have to walk away because a lot of times it gets emotional around you and you soak it in for a minute and you're just like let's go outside and sit and have a moment we'll get messaged the next day but you guys disappeared where'd you go like why'd you leave us like hey we're just honest yeah and then you can have that conversation but like in the moment we saw like you guys were having a moment and we let you guys deal with what you needed to deal with or something. We recognized that and we let you have your night. We let you have the time that you needed and we got distracted. Yep, exactly. I was going to say, and then we got distracted. Because we never intend on not going back. We don't go, so we always see people later. But we kind of just dip for, you know, take a minute and let them have a minute and just kind of remove yourself. I'm sure we've heard a lot of feelings on accident. And then we go to go back to that situation that was just happening. Usually we get distracted. And that's just in general anywhere we go. Because when we go out, we are stopped every three seconds anytime because we usually go places with our friends. We usually know a good chunk of people or people who know who we are.
Speaker3:
So it's like every three seconds.
Speaker2:
Hi, hey, hey. And then they're like, you want to come over here?
Speaker1:
You want to go over here? And then, of course, we're like, yes, men. Like we love saying yes to every experience or anything that we possibly can, especially events. 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I feel like we got really, really talky really, really fast. We missed a lot of red flags. On the red flags list. We had to hold them. We had to back and forth, but that's how we talked to each other. So follow along. Those were some major ones, though. We discussed a lot of the major ones yeah the most of them but you know you know like follow your gut you can tell if something doesn't feel right if one spouse is only like we've been on snapchat groups and stuff where we've had because you primarily in this lifestyle if you're not in there it's usually the husbands do most of the communication so the husband's set up off sdc or off sls it's super common it's a lot of people we know too and it's us you are the one who goes on the apps and does all that and then you're like this is our snaps and then you make like a group for us and then i started talking like you like that to them before they get me and that's very common in lifestyle a lot of times the men or women like in the relationship they'll make sure like everything checks out they're real they're who they say they are they're not you know but we've had picture collectors we've made it to that point we've made groups and then it's been just like really shady no women talk at all not even to say hey or hi at the beginning because that's that is common some people just don't talk it happens but there's been ones where she never talks and they keep on like giving different excuses like oh they're away working oh they're doing that like you know that they have their phone on them and they could have like say hello in the snap group and make a picture of themselves like something and it's like this like run around all the time turns out it's just like a male single male by himself but that's another example if you just know if the person's not talking if the person doesn't seem enthusiastic if the person's not excited about any of it at all especially when you get to know each other especially in the beginning yeah everybody like is introducing yourself excited and i don't care if you talk a lot or not like at the very beginning usually at least say something and usually take a selfie to like prove it's you like right it's like a picture together or something like and i know there are different dynamics and scenarios that you know it doesn't always happen that way but usually these are the things that are pretty typical you know introduce you're at least like hey nice to meet you and a picture at the very least but sometimes if you don't get that at all it's just something to keep keep an eye on to pay attention to something to take note of just like pushy if someone is just always trying to push people and it just doesn't feel right yeah just trust your gut trust your gut we're gonna play a little bit game we're gonna we do we're trying to do some more game things in this podcast we're trying to make it sadden we're trying to make this exciting and keep you on your toes and make you laugh i want it to be beneficial for you guys i want to talk about you guys i want to be yeah i want you guys to be like let us know if you like certain things if you want to talk about something if you don't like part of what we're doing on an episode or if you haven't suggested for anything let us know because we have to do this every week and we're constantly trying to come up with the new activities ideas what you guys want to know about all of the things so we're going to play a little bit of a game we're going to start adding a little bit more games and see if something sticks or anything but this one's not really a game it's more of like a scenario i wouldn't say game for this one it's more of like we're going to say a scenario and then we're going to go back and forth and be like green flag red flag okay or not really. Or not really green flag, but red flag or no flag. Okay. Your partner insists on going to a swinger event without discussing it with you. Red flag or no flag? Red flag. They're all pretty common, but we're just testing you. We're testing you guys. A potential partner wants to have a detailed health discussion before meeting. Red flag. I'm just kidding. It's a great flag. It's a great flag.
Speaker2:
It's a great flag. Definitely, that's a good one. Yeah, that's a good one.
Speaker3:
That's what we'd like to hear. Someone you met online has no social media presence at all.
Speaker2:
That's a red flag. Red flag.
Speaker1:
You met them online and there's no... Yeah, they don't do online. But yet, here they are online. So it's just something to keep an eye on. A new partner insists on having sex without any boundaries.
Speaker2:
Red flag.
Speaker1:
Thank you. here they are online so it's just something to keep an eye on a new partner insists on having sex without any boundaries red flag for real that time for real for real that time it's a red flag um you feel pressure to swap partners even though you're not comfortable with it red flag not comfortable means no yes bad a couple asked if they can film your interactions for personal use that's pretty common that's a green flag i think that they asked you prior yeah they asked you yeah so that's actually i'm just saying that one was that's a that's a hot button hot button topic but i think that's a green flag too yeah they asked you if it was okay a lot of us like to film things and like to be filmed. And most of us are filming our encounters for later. That's pretty common. You've been talking with someone for a while and they have been open about their past experiences. That's a green flag. You are correct. That's a green flag. We like sharing experiences. We like communication and experiences. A potential partner is overly complimentary and tries to win you over with flattery. Red flag. Red flag. Too much? I mean, it happens all the time, but it's a common thing. But it is something to keep an eye on sometimes if they're trying to push you, trying to get you a little too pushy. Trying to win you over for what reasons? Why are you going to need to win me over? Have sex. I know. I think we're supposed to say red-black. You attend a party where everyone is respectful and communicating openly green flag green flag's a good flag good communication communication consent like those things we cannot it wasn't but it was i was going to do this one but then i still got my finger yeah let me do it again cut off another one it's kind of throbby kind of just think he likes to cut off fingers looking to add some excitement to your social life meet three fun their free app that connects open-minded singles and couples for fun adventures. With thousands of active users, 3Fun is our take to new friendships, flirty encounters, and unforgettable experiences. The best part? It's completely free to use. No hidden fees or subscription. Ready to join the fun? Download 3Fun app now from the App Store or Google Play Store and start connecting with like-minded individuals in your area. Don't miss out on the excitement. Find the link below and get started with 3Fun today. And then the next thing we're going to do, it's not really a game, more of just an activity. It's a true or false. We're going to have a whole list of scenarios we've not read or anything, so we don't know what they are. Yeah, so I have to pay attention closely. We have no idea what they are. I've never read them. Yeah, so we're going to just answer true, false, and then kind of discuss a little bit deeper what they are. We're trying to help you guys kind of recognize different red flags and different scenarios that you might be put into and things to keep an eye on. So here we go.
Speaker2:
Ready? All right, go. All right.
Speaker1:
Number one, a potential partner insists on not discussing boundaries before your first meeting is it true or false like true it is a red flag yes because it's true true red flag false is not okay all right so yeah true it's a red, because why are they insisting on not... Yeah, that's weird. Yeah, that's weird. I don't know why you would insist on not the stuff, because that means that you are doing something shady. I don't know why you would insist on not talking about it. I mean, even if you're not doing anything shady, like, it opens the door just to have miscommunications and cross boundaries. How would like i'm not talking about boundaries so that's like yeah that's why would you want the person that you're with or potentially being comfortable i don't know that's a weird that's a weird one that's a weird oh i don't like it a couple approaches you at a party and only focuses on your physical appearance. I would say that's true, but I mean, I mean, it's up to the person. It depends on what you're looking for and like what that person is looking for. Some people don't care about anything like you're saying. They just want to have sex with attractive people and it's just what they do and they just like to that's what we initially like talk to people about is oh they're hot yeah that's why let's talk to them there has to be some kind of level of attractiveness because yeah we're here just for the. So yeah, I know eventually you get to talk to people and we talk about body confidence and all the other extra ins and outs and stuff like that, but at the root of it all when you first see a couple or, you know, you usually are going to talk to them because you find them attractive. That's's usually how i break the ice yeah like how are you are so beautiful yeah especially with that scenario where they approach you and only focus on you i mean usually that's one of the first openers is just like man you're like yeah a lot of your you know it's something physically something that you found attractive that approach something that works through the party is usually something to do with your, you know, your eyes or your looks or some sort of thing. But yeah, it's a red flag to look out for. A partner expresses jealousy about your interest in exploring with others, but encourages you to do it anyway. That's a red flag. True. True. That is true. Like, if you're feeling jealousy... Express express their jealousy that's a problem but then they're encouraging you to do it anyways and telling you that they hate it when you do it there's some mixed signals there like so you're it sounds like a setup you're going to there's definitely something to look out for that look out for. That's why you need to work a little harder in your relationship and deal on something. I feel like I've heard stories of like guys being like, oh yeah, my wife hates this. She just told me to do it anyways. But she can't see me with another woman because she gets too jealous. But she told me I can do. She stays home. Like, that's shady as fuck. It's not happening. That's shady as fuck. Yeah, that's definitely a good thing. Same thing for her wife. Like, oh, yeah, my husband doesn't like it, but she tells me I can do it. Either way. Either way, yes. It's a red flag. Yeah. Either way. Next one. He noticed that a potential partner has a history of being involved in multiple swinging situations at once. I would say false. It's not really a red flag. That's none of your business, really. I mean, like, it doesn't matter how many people are people swinging with. I could care less who people are swinging with on the side. But, yeah. We're all doing it on the side. That's the thing. Like, I don't care what the heck you're doing on the side. I don know yeah that's i don't really say the red flag no people are living their best life that's a weird situation how many people next one a couple seems secretive about their past experiences and avoids discussing previous partners i think that is not a red flag at all. I think that's pretty normal. I think that's okay. I think that I would hope that they would keep kind of secretive about their experiences. I mean, not secretive. Secretive is kind of a weird word to use, but avoiding discussing previous partners. I would hope that they would avoid talking about previous partners. Yeah, like, you don't go around telling everybody like we were playing with this i'm not hiding anything but like it's not your business really it's not my business what you guys are doing or it's not your business what we're doing really honestly as long as we're all being safe and testing and using protection being open on is that part of it i think that it's not really any of your business who any of us are sleeping with. And your past experiences have nothing to do with me whatsoever. I don't need to know those things. Yeah. That's. Yeah. All right. You're invited to a private party, but the hosts demand payment up front without offering any details at all. That's the right plot. Yeah Yeah. Right. There's safety, but much safety concerns and you need to know due diligence. Most, now most events, I can't say most, but a lot of events do not give the... Yeah, they have the address hidden until you paid. But everything else is open. You don't pay before you know any details, though that's not a thing that happens that's not i would be concerned for safety yeah you definitely know the event the organizer like yeah that's a red flag definitely before you pay anyone any money to do anything you should expect all the details and all of the information about the event but yeah the address that part's address because they want to keep it private and confidential yeah but you should be able to get some details about it and the next one last one a partner pressures you in the gauging period red flag pressures you to engage with others even when you, all red flag, biggest red flag, I think that we've seen so far in that scenario reading there. Yeah. Was, yeah, yeah. Any pressure or uncomfortable, period. Any uncomfortable, anything uncomfortable. Anybody that they feel like they have to. If you're feeling uncomfortable, and if you see someone else feeling uncomfortable definitely red flag deal with it because there's a problem going on there and what's the answer communication what what's the answer concern what i know no way this is this is the first time of hearing it it's busy crazy. Don't. Don't. Just don't. If you don't feel it, you're not 100% enthusiastic about whatever is happening, whatever is partaking. You are the person in charge of your experience and your lifestyle and your journey. Do something about it, you beautiful, amazing human being. Trust your gut. It's right.
Speaker2:
I promise you. And, yeah, if it doesn't feel right, if it's not working, if it doesn't feel right, if it doesn't you and yeah if it doesn't feel right if it's not working if you're having to work too hard to make it work if it's just not fitting move on there are a million other people out there that are willing and ready to be your next best friend or partners or whatever you're looking for there are. There are so many other people. You do not have to. I always tell everyone that. Stop making it work. You don't have to force it. If you have to force it and it's not happening organically and freely, then that's a red flag. And it's okay to walk away. You don't have to invest any more time than you want to in it. And it's okay.
Speaker1:
Yeah, so I think you pretty much summed it all up right there. If you're feeling pressured, then there's another way. If you're feeling anything at all weird.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
But that pretty much wraps it up.
Speaker2:
So what do we got coming up we got the 15th a trap it will be a trappy the latter on november 15th so long i know i'm pretty excited so so long and then we our next big event event is new year's Eve in Buckhead in Atlanta, Georgia with Pineapples After Dark. There'll be a link below for that one. Get your tickets. There's tickets for sale. That's going to be a good party. They're going to have food and drinks. And it's in the middle of the week. You have no excuse. Come. Yeah. It's New Year's Eve. Come celebrate the New ring in the news we're gonna be together on new year's eve let's take out 2024 with a bang a real bang kaboom it's gonna be a bang it's gonna be good so if you want to get tickets to that that includes dinner cocktails everything below and then secrets which is sold out but if you want to get on the waitlist send us an email and we'll let you know how to do that if you would like to go to that still and if there's any cancellations that way that's why we tell you on this every week when to get tickets to things and what's going to sell out and what's good and be really good ones listen to us because i promise they're going to sell out it so many people sold out in like a week and yeah yeah everyone we had a whole entire giant group of people coming and they're all they all procrastinated and all we did they didn't listen to us so if we say get your tickets but yeah more information below for all of those things and all of everything make sure that you're following us we always forget to bring it up make sure you're following us on instagram and tiktok and all the things hot couple chronicles we also on top of hot couple and ga and that couple hot couple and ga we also have a podcast page for everything so we we've got Hot Couple Chronicles. Yes.
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