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If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at rss.com. So before we start this episode, I wanted to recommend that you go to Spotify or YouTube and watch this episode instead of listening to it only because there are captions. So this is only our third time ever using this equipment. And this last weekend, I was put in charge of doing it solo. My husband was not home. And I could have sworn the microphones were working. Turns out they were not.
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all right welcome back to hot couple chronicles this is ashley i am without rest today i have my friends ash and we got lady haze and over here is one half of oregon couple and i wanted to do an episode kind of on the woman's perspective of things and how it's like to be a woman i i share a lot of my life with a lot of these girls i love them deeply so i kind of wanted you to get to know pieces of me and some of my favorite favorite humans i love all the women in this space but these guys are definitely some of my babes and so we're just kind of sticking with that theme i have a few questions and then some kind of uh you know group whoever feels comfortable talking about stuff and yeah it's gonna be fun it's gonna be good they're a little bit nervous they're a little nervous i'm a little nervous too i've never i usually have rust carrying me so me doing it on my own is kind of i do have questions i usually don't have anything written down i usually kind of wing it but i kind of wanted to keep it on on track uh we kind of want to start out with little we'll introduce ourselves and kind of talk about how long you've been in lifestyle and your dynamic all the things we have to do as swingers when we introduce ourselves go on uh i'm ash um within the lifestyle before i met my husband for as a single mother for five years and um 12 years of monogamy and then uh three and a half four years now uh i'm not monamy.
What's your dynamic? It changes. It really changes depending on the relationship that we have with a couple. Towards the beginning, obviously, you have a lot of rules.
You don't want anybody to end up hurt, and you're processing a lot of info coming straight in our dynamic now is it's really about connections that we make with couples and they're like oh do you do this do you do that I'm like well how much I like you how long I've known you how good the connection is and so it varies but we always go with protection first obviously and we we always stay in communication always number one it always sounds so cliche i always say a billion times but like communication is number one the number one answer for everything is yeah okay let's see ladies who are you tell us more tell us more so uh so i am lady hayes most people know me as um i have me and my husband have been in a non-anogamy relationship for six years now we've been together for 13 years married for five so um he's all i've known since i was 18 that we've experienced every so everything has been yeah and our dynamic is exactly the same.
Situational, for sure. I just, we're down with vibes and connections. Connection is a big thing for us. So if you can't get it, I guess. You had an Oregon couple? That's here. Oregon couple here. Me and my husband have been in the lifestyle for going on four years now. We've been together for 12. We lived a very monogamous lifestyle for eight of those. Same with these ladies, situational. It's all about the vibes.
It's all about about the connections it's definitely great experiences along the way it's been a beautiful beautiful journey it's fun it's been fun all right to get us warm up what is one word or phrase you'd use to describe your full experience as a woman in the lesson it could be without her whatever comes i'd say growth growth that one really caught me off i never expected the self like the self like work that we have to do the bank i did i've i've never been one i grew up not being able to communicate with people i was scared to communicate because of you know childhood yeah things but growing with my partner being out and being able to communicate and be myself with my person i watched myself grow so much in 13 years for sure so great absolutely yeah um less self-centered that's a good one yeah it's a good one like and i still uh struggled with it in the beginning of our journey i really did struggle in the beginning of our journey uh i was so used to it being about me and my horns and um something we're still working towards is uh going at at the slowest partner's pace and it's not something that i was used to it was something that i was hesitant going out to it's like a me on your own yeah yeah and learning you know and there were times where i felt my my knee didn't matter because i have to go and his case I think I can't turn and you're like I already know it yeah I know it yeah and he's still like whoa yeah it's a struggle and it's still a struggle sometimes because he's a shy boy and and everything changes always like you're never the same person in every single situation yeah mentally physically like there's stuff that other stuff going on sometimes and yeah and people ask like oh did you convince your husband usually it's the other way around like right that's been the one he's putting out why the last minute why is it always a woman it was definitely something that didn't come easily for him yeah he's uh had to learn he's still learning Thank you.
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he's putting out why the laws they did it why is it always a woman it was definitely something that didn't come easily for him yeah he's uh had to learn he's still learning i haven't seen much of uh i haven't experienced much of you and uh your partner's play dynamic can you explain a little bit more uh where's it feel we we still consider ourselves newbies even though we've been in for four years because we took it really slow and that's what we definitely wanted to do in the lab so um now we're starting to venture out a little bit more and learning ourselves a lot more it's like there's some of these things it's like hey i didn't know i enjoyed or wow like you keep going bang go best friend go like it's been so it kind of we're learning i'd say we're still learning about ourselves so in blurring entry still figuring trying new things like i i know it's like i didn't know i like that let's let's do it again how did you feel about this yes everything positive absolutely absolutely i think we've we've had like maybe one negative experience, but that's when we first began.
But after that, it was like it was a learning experience. I wouldn't really say it was a negative. I would say, okay, we're learning from this. This is going to be broke. This is definitely what we don't want. This is definitely what we do. And so we went forth with it. it with it. Yes. Hey, beautiful. If you're looking to feel confident and sexy, Voluptuous Fixin has got you covered with stunning lingerie and outfits that fit every curve. And for our listeners, you can snag 10% off your order with code HOTCOUPLENGA at checkout. Don't miss out.
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All right, now we're back and continuing continuing on we're kind of going to talk a little bit more about empowerment and confidence and being a woman and the lifestyle um as a woman how has the lifestyle changed how you see yourself I feel more beautiful in the lifestyle because i see a a lot more beautiful people of all sizes and ages and it made me realize that i was unique as well and i didn't have to fit into a certain role then i could have certain likes and um they didn't have to be traditional it's okay yeah it's okay to be different we might get everyone embracing their differences my husband has a hard time like pinpointing who i'm into he's like i thought i knew what you liked and then during the lifestyle he's like i'm so confused because it is just so bad in chemistry he's like i don't know which one you're into he's like i thought i knew what you liked and then during the lifestyle he's like i'm so confused because it is just so bad chemistry he's like i don't know which one you're into he's like he thought he knew so seeing that and being in that environment made me realize i could be who i am without trying to be someone else and then maybe then somebody oh yeah will be attracted there is going to be people out there for you so as i tell everyone all the time that i get discouraged they're like i haven't found my people and i'm like i want the rest out there you're gonna have to maybe look a little harder when based on like where you live and stuff but you can find you you'll find people it's just okay for everybody yeah that's what we're always everyone's always worried about like i'm not the right shape or size or person i'm not this cookie cutter i'm like no you're perfect like that's exactly step back into the real lifestyle that's exactly what it takes about all the different people all right and for the next one we're gonna go with orient couple um how do you think being a lifestyle has shaped your identity as a woman i wouldn't say like shape my identity as a woman but i do like dressing up for the themes i do like going out for that like i i don't always dress up so there's this when i go out i'm like damn look i'm gonna put on my heels we like it so like all this look at all these beauty yeah it's beautiful and seeing everybody so happy and all the compliments that go out like you can see everybody just building up just like yeah it makes it a more positive experience it really does and lady how has your confidence been affected by team in the last time has it changed affected um positively and sometimes can be negative so So I am not, I'm not big.
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And surprisingly, no.
scared that i you know i have my person i nobody's gonna want anybody but him and surprisingly i've gained a lot of confidence because i've gotten a lot of attention from that i didn't know that if that many people actually found me right up or about what side you know so like i love the So on our own so yeah i like and sometimes i beat myself up in confidence too like i'm i think we're always going to be our worst critics we look ourselves in the mirrors and we're like i hate this there's always something in my head but i hear it every day you're beautiful you're i love your curves i you know so i also i struggle self you know behind with negative confidence but everybody that i have met loves me for you know that's attractive to me and that makes that builds my confidence so much um you know i think everybody should be happy with themselves and i am happy i do i wish i could change some things but yeah as long as be sad yeah i'm happy and you know He likes it, but at the end of the the day but I didn't know going into a lifestyle that I would have so much more confidence being bringing in attraction from other people I didn't know that I was capable of doing that and my husband gets off off on that, too.
You know, he's like, He is. It's like, so, positive and, you know, and it's not, let me be something all sunshine. No. It's definitely not. The lifestyle isn't like that. You absolutely know. She knows. She knows. So gorgeous. So gorgeous. I love you guys. I love you. How do you navigate friendships with other women in the lifestyle? How's friendships? Difficult. Oh, different women. Friendships are difficult. It's difficult for me to trust. I've been hurt in the past, and that's even outside of the lifestyle.
Everything that embodies a scorpio uh i'm extremely loyal and i really treasure those that are very close to me but um i find it incredibly difficult to forgive and forget i'm not vindictive it's just something i i just move on from if it's not serving you if it's not serving me um i don't trust it and i have yes i have lost a lot of friendships and business opportunities in the lifestyle you can have a different dynamic than a lot of like people that are listening a lot of people are listening just go to clubs in whatever couple hunts and go you know so we have like a little bit deeper there's a lot more stuff that happens than most people don't want to deal with but Thank you.
you just go to clubs in whatever couple months and go you know so we have like a little bit deeper there's a lot more stuff that happens than most people don't want to deal with but it does get a little bit there's a lot of other things it makes it difficult though and some people are caught almost polyamorous and i'm not emotionally like mine we're always teetering that one because we we spend years with, like a lot of these people that we hang out with and that we love dearly.
I'm not polyamorous, but there is a very big level of trust for some of the best friends that I've made in my life, but also some of the biggest heartbreakers. Oh, yeah. And the next one, please.
Do you find that women support other women in lifestyle or find them more in competition oh that's a toughie yeah i think if you surround yourself with the right people with a good heart good intentions you have your right you have your empowerment sometimes people are in it for not you know not and that kind of makes it a little difficult and you feel like you're obligated to have some sort of competition yeah like you we're all doing this back there like why we're all doing the same thing like we're just we're the same mom let's not why can't we just all love each other take Take control of reproductive health and wellness with Hello Wisp, your trusted partner and accessible care from the comfort of your home.
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We're going to talk a little bit more just about the lifestyle lifestyle in general but these are way more easier and general lifestyle questions from a woman's perspective as a woman um obviously kind of based off of that um do how do you manage expectations and pressure in the lifestyle how do you go about that well definitely no pressure because i don't know you're not going to presume anything i'll go away from that talk to my spouse first like that is something like no i don't but i will not be pressured into doing anything that i don't want to do and i don't expect anybody else to feel that way either if you feel uncomfortable at all i always say like even if you don't know why you're uncomfortable you can't explain it you just are I'm always like, just take a second.
Just take a second. Yeah. It's okay to say, I don't know why I'm feeling a certain sort of, when I'm feeling something and I don't know how to feel it. And when you have expectations, like, I have no expectations. Like, there's none. I think that's the worst thing that you could have. Yes.
kind of bouncing off of that lady haze do you have a specific situation where you've had to overcome kind of feeling pressure or like in general just like what are different kind of pressures that you might feel like that you've felt oh honestly i don't listen to i don't think that um not too many in my experience i don't think so by you and oh yes i i'm yes absolutely that's when it's like that's something very that's something i'm not yeah it's very personal it's very very special i need to train that out i don't think i've ever actually been like pressured into doing anything that i've never i've always felt pretty tall yeah absolutely i'm gonna sit back on this floor i'm gonna launch this well you go into a play session you obviously gonna make sure that you're comfortable with those people and everybody is yeah so they're cool with pretty much anyone I i'm playing with to be like man i feel right yeah for i'll just sit over here and i'll watch you and i'll love it and you go on ahead but like it's just for sure today yes not today agreed yeah i kind of like ash is the same kind of thing like how do you how would you talk to somebody if you are feeling pressured or feeling like there's someone with expectation that you aren't comfortable?
How do you recommend kind of approaching them? Speak slightly. Yeah. Just say something. I say no. I have been in a position before, towards the beginning to where I didn't use my word. And I walked away from the experience not feeling great and I regretted that and I walked away saying you know next time I'm going to use my words more.
I've also been in positions where my words are not taken and without those beginning experiences they weren't enjoyable to me but it wouldn't have gotten me to wear uncomfortable yeah thing well you know yeah you know what you need to say yeah no consent is key no means no and that's number one that communication are like the two main yeah lifestyle yeah the most important things all right both ladies what are some common misconceptions that you hear all the time because they think that i went there i'm not doing this thing so does that mean they're going to come out no it doesn't work that way first of all the biggest is like is that we have these orgies every night and i mean it's okay yeah am i allowed am i allowed oh yeah you're allowed okay so i'm not i'm not trying to fuck everybody and i'm okay it's not and i'm not fucking everybody every damn night it's not like that is the biggest like that and and stds we're full of stds we're just sitting around i'm not happy with my husband yeah that's the biggest one where i'm like excuse me do you not me and my husband are madly in love with it that that bothers that bothers me and um he's not enough for you yeah he's not know how Yeah, know how to beat me oh I want everybody to experience my husband yes I'm not having massive orgies and parties and I want to have sex with everybody that i see and it's like i'm like come on get get over yourselves and and in a small town bible belt it's really hard to everybody knows and and you just have to get over the fact that you know it's i think you really just need to say sir oh you're good let's make sure i can hear you i know yeah yeah you don't get to that point where well you're subscribing to my profile in our small town you're watching you're watching you like it you can judge all you want but you're paying for it you're paying for judgment that's okay it doesn't bother me doesn't hurt me oh absolutely i think all of us are at that point where we're just kind of like it is who it is that's where we are now like i'm not advertising i'm not telling everyone you're running around yeah i'm a swinger if you stumble upon it and you're curious enough to that you want to okay then that's on you buddy not me you're there looking you found i didn.
I didn't push it on you. And that's something that we don't do with... We're not... It's one of those don't ask, don't tell type of things. And that goes with family as well. Don't ask, don't tell. You don't want to ask that? We're good.
With family, it's always all the time like it's not you want to ask questions i'll educate you exactly because we are pretty i would rather you hear it educational wise versus i was gonna say what you what you think it's about what you yeah so how do you go about like how do you approach that i'm that's about and we have been approached you know at our local mart And it's like here and i'm like okay well let me tell you how it how it is you know the real right the real what it is and it's not it's what you think it is now now we have had just like that's it and i was like yeah it's just really cool people that like we're really good friends and we can say we have a role tonight.
We can dance without adult sleepovers with no men. And just sleep over times that we never got. It's like, have fun. And bullshit, and make fire. Yeah, and it's true. I mean, we might drown later, but, like, or feel. We gotta smile. smile we don't always last night we talked out and you know about reports until me and her till like 3 30 and then we went our separate ways and went to bed it's not again it's not that serious don't don't it doesn't have to be weird but if you don't want to go in the same room and do you know also know, also the same. Also the same thing. All right.
What advice would you give someone? Oh, joining. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say, too. With RSS.com, starting your own podcast is free and easy. Upload an episode and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads just like this. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at rss.com. Starting out. Always. Always.
Yeah, it sounds. Yeah.
All all the time communication is key like you have to experience that is 100% good and bad it's not always great I know there's been such a good it's like like i'm feeling this tough away and like let's talk i don't know why but let's do it always say it's not always anything it's like i was gonna be like this is great this is wonderful this is amazing and stuff she can she talk a little bit more how has the lifestyle changed since you began lifestyle till now how what differences do you see a lot more younger oh so many more younger and they're um they they sorry sorry they visit our swinger yeah and it's always been kind of a french word uh ethically non-monogamous holly emory's on the one in umbrella of holly emory so much on the right and so it creates a little bit of a divide i think because uh your traditional in a swinger community is 35 60.
um so you have this new generation coming in um it's refreshing that's a little bit scary they're so open they're very open um so you have this new generation coming in um it's refreshing that's a little bit scary the 18 year olds and they're just like it's not that big of a deal i mean like we're all like they're all in this like community commune like they're ready to all live together yeah they all of us won't be and be together and this kind of to me i'm i'm i've always i've never identified as polyamorous like ours is physically fine i understand physically open emotionally closed but it is on the rise for the younger generation and they're so emotionally open and i'm like open mind It's open-minded.
Yeah, they're so weird. That's sad. That's what it differs for me. And they're amazing, and I love they're out. Oh, yeah, they're just expressing themselves going to thrift stores and just making clothes and, like, pieces. Oh, I love watching the younger ones. They're just so here for whatever is going on.
All right, and let's share you know pass it around or whatever what has been the most rewarding aspect of being in the lifestyle that you might you didn't expect exploring so many different fantasies um with my husband and like i i grew up like having And I'm telling you'm a little girl you know and getting to express that with my husband he'd be like to enjoy ourselves but this is a podcast you can actually say that you don't want anything so all of the things and so like and and when i get to tell him and he's like and then that backtracks to what um organ said yeah and she would you know getting to i like that you talk about it and like oh wow that kind of sounds interesting and you try it and wow did not expect that we would actually enjoy that getting and and not being judged for it as well you're not gonna do it great you're not gonna do it well like it's gonna be messy right i mean weird and if i don't and i might really yeah and if it turns we have a conversation like that didn't turn out how we thought it would maybe we'll come back to it later maybe not like yeah maybe and there are things out there that i would love to explore and then when i get there we'll get you know when we get there we get there but it's going to be different people yeah absolutely uh the fantasy the fantasies that i get to explore with my with my partner is the biggest thing that and being able to be myself and confident and whether he whether he likes it or other people like it i mean yeah confidence and confidence for sure oh what's the question most rewarding the most rewarding thing that's um seeing my husband sorry seeing my husband grow oh it's been fun yeah yeah he went from like such a cock block motherfucker dealing with his emotions we had so many fights and oh it's better no we had some knockdown drafts not always right um but finally seeing him settle into you know most of most of those arguments and problems come from insecurities he's Thank you.
But finally seeing him settle into most of those arguments and problems come from insecurities. He's really insecure about his sexuality. And he's still, to this day, learning about his sexuality. And it's such a give-take with him. But when I see him like really just stop worrying and and open his mind and seeing him enjoy himself and i am the biggest cheerleader i just love seeing that because that's how i i grew up i was always just sexually free and he's there's an age gap between us. And his sexuality was hidden for so long. And it's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.
I'm so excited. People are like, he's my husband over there. And I'm like, tears. I'm like, I just love his growth journey. I want to piggyback on that as well. Because I've also seen my husband blossom. Like, he's grown.
Like, he's always dealt with self you know confidence issues you know he's had my fellow's palsy and shingles when he was young so it's caused a lot of facial things so he always has always had nobody's hurt i mean that's why nobody wants and then when but you're like you're that's not always what it's about you're like she's trying you know like but him getting to actually you know explore and blossom and make that makes me feel good and i'm just like i don't know like it makes yeah i'm getting the best yeah go best friend you always say that like go yeah but that's so true like we're just i'm a serious cheerleader serious cheerleader but i mean i agree with every bit of that like seeing their growth and feeling my growth even oh absolutely just as i'm married it's just a part of like our relationship yeah absolutely the communication skills this time even 10 times better i mean we grew on online communication because that's how we talked for a long time like so we're very open with each other we're like hey yeah and it's been amazing like now there's things that you know it's like wow like i didn't think that you would get like i'm like yes let's let's try it and let's let's do this like i am so favorite because before you would be just so you didn't know like i'm out of them like i feel like that i love to see this grow like it's fantastic all right and kind of going off of that what is something you wish that you would have known when you joined the lifestyle that you know now any piece of advice you'd give to yourself starting out that you've done anything differently what was anything any piece of advice that or something that you would have known back then would have you have changed anything that Eton.
i wish i would have made me like um not necessarily educate but we like nose dive into it um we pillow talked about it for three years before we actually even signed up for i heard a podcast a very big you know and i was like i texted him i was hey there's this out there that connects you with like people you know we've been talking about it for so long why don't we just give it a try and give it a go and i didn't know these things existed and we when we talked about it we were like so how how do we do this i wish i would have like what i guess i mean the podcast was great because i mean you're at you're educating people on where to how to start and do these things i wish i had known these things whenever we first started because i would know how to go to a club and what to wear and try to know what to expect because we did not know anything we went in blindfolded um and came out and we were like buddy mindfulness this exists And then to know that there's other places.
Yeah, there's so many more things. I didn't even know there was people on the internet. I didn't know it was anything. It's just not a secret. So I say if you are going, if it's something that you are pillow talking about, and you interested, get on there. Listen to a podcast. Learn. Learn to get to go. Look where your little local clubs are. Everyone's going to have to go to a club. No. You don't have to. No. I say that all the time. Go check it out. Check it out. If it's for you, cool. If not, okay. You know. Educate yourself. Research.
That's the biggest thing that i can tell learn all things because your confidence you're going to feel more confident going into it nothing that you know what to expand what the rules are what the guidelines are what people do and then i'm going to we let someone like oh my god we sat for a week the whole thing and you're like we're not alone like there's other people we're into this and i'm like do we want to go back yeah i'm gonna do it again yeah and we've figured ourselves keep going keep that get this around here like this is awesome i don't know what it is but it's yeah ash do you have any advice that you'd give to yourself or others?
If you're in the, I think, non-monogamous space, but also in the content creator space. Of course. That's sad. Right. Please, sir.
That was really difficult with my husband and I, which I was was getting him with a newbie and there was a lot of judgment there he would see oh we had interactions with couples off camera and then he saw interactions with me on camera which was work and a lot of judgment came from that from him in the beginning he was like he looked at me very differently um that was that i think that was probably one of the most difficult hurdles in lifestyle for us was him distinguishing between lifestyle connections and my work yeah yeah and that that broke us almost a few times but uh i think as soon as you can establish those boundaries and see the difference between real connections and work which i do i do prefer connections before it but there's a difference if you do both you know the difference it was really hard for him to figure that out but we figured it out together and now we're both successful and he's very supportive and growing ready and take a step you're learning everything to add on to or any other advice he's happy that we went to our first club we we took it easy we were like we were like we're here like oh gosh like this super woman oh yeah oh yeah you know we're you know we're sending a lot of people and i'm like oh how are you again um and then now it's like i can see the difference like i'm more comfortable with everything.
I'm walking in. Hey, how are you doing? This is me. This is who I am. You're either going to like me or you're not. And I'm not going to change for you. So like, definitely be yourself. Be yourself. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With rss.com, starting your own podcast is free and easy. Upload an episode and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads just like this.
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Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned pro there's a spot for you come hang out with us in the swingers study discord you won't want to miss the conversation and connection waiting for you there our link is below click to join all right now before we leave kind of recap what we're doing this weekend they why you're in my bed how you got in my bed all the things that's what i want to have to bend we've got a girls weekend going on at my house which is very not very many people has been have been invited to my house and these guys have been here a couple just a couple times but i've always been in my place oh yeah oh yeah the original home is the second home guards and same we always said when we first started lifestyle that we would never have our friends at our house like that was our like no swingers in our house it was a very big like i don't think we would ever because we have you know it's our house like we are way on just a whole different level of we're making exceptions for the sexiest of the sexiest the top tiers are here but we're having a girls weekend we did colored theme baskets we we have a reel and instagrams and tiktoks and all the things on all the things one person one person kind of so i mean she threw it out there on a snap the other day it was like let's do word themes and if you know there's like on there's tiktoks about it and reels and all the things about it i've always wanted to do that yeah and i was like guys i don't know what we're doing but we're gonna like she said trango so i was trying to say i did say tray so originally i don't have said anything i think i was doing maybe i had like the drinks in mind but then it was not colored snacks and then it turned into baskets and then that's when i was like hey guys i bought my basket well she came bumped into my house with this basket as big as she is yeah if you haven't seen it go look at it yes go find it and then ash we that's why we all did it we all did it we all did our our snacks and then ash like tray remember god i didn't show up with the tray because you guys switched to baskets i don't know i showed up you know i don't switch to her tray it was a tray covered in wieners and red themed okay yeah it looked really bad next to y'all's and i forgot it and showed up with a a bottle tea you guys would have liked it much better that's a good idea it was amazing I had a cactus she had a cactus tray she couldn't do the tray it would have been pregnant if I actually brought the tray but I just showed up with a bottle of tea it didn't work See, I was moving that far again when I do the tray.
She did all that. It would have been pregnant if I actually brought the tray, but I just showed it with one of the Valentinos, so. It didn't work. See, I was looking at that party when I got the message. I was like, yes, I was like, there's something from here, right here. This is perfect. It's a cactus. It's going to work. It's going to look like digging balls and I'm holding it right. Yeah. Yeah. It's going to be fantastic. And there were baskets and I was like, wow, I already bought the cactus. I found the first thing 100 pounds.
It's fine it looks like a laundry basket and it works which hey you reached out like a while ago and and i'm going to do a girls weekend yeah i well initially we were like talking about making uh and that's how it started was her sticker so she was going to bring all her machines that she did but they were not working so that ended up not being a thing but that was kind of an initial excuse for us all to like get together we're gonna be crafty let's do some arts and stuff and so far and then i was gonna like mention but everybody's been been knocked the teeth and me yeah that's all but we've been drinking from homegirl that did not bring you yeah it's just's so, yeah, she's the kind of, that's why I said it was her faith and it turned out.
But you can do this, though, like, you can have, you can be in a lifestyle. Oh, yeah, you don't have, you don't have to have pressure to feel, like, expectations or, like, things are expected of you to do, like, just because you're together.
And our husbands also know that we need this break because they're not here they are they are they understand we need this break and we girls yeah and they're all supportive about it but also they're like oh my husband's been in and out he worked in third shift so he's been like in and out for like a couple hours at a time it's killing him he keeps something to leave. He just left so much. He had to launch us for hot wine.
a couple hours at a time and it's killing him he keeps having to leave he just left so it's like he had to watch us to work hot long we're living our best life together I think we surprised him early in the morning oh yeah oh no but the other three are going to be sad yeah I think we they'd be definitely going away if russell's here if russell's here like the other three the other husband's three husbands then would be like 12 hours soon how's that mean oh hey i'm just saying i'm glad i made the drive but sorry because I am a big passenger princess I love you I do know I love you I'm a passenger princess is gonna that drive but sorry because i am like hey passenger princess i love you i do know i love i'm gonna i didn't know she was coming the last the other day she's like fuck it i'm coming she's like i'm coming i don't even care i'm coming she when she when you stopped by my house last night i was like hanging out with the kids and hubby and i just finished dinner and we were just enjoying and sometimes you stopped by and then you're like you better fucking come because i can't you have to go you went six hours ago two hours exactly i literally drove up like that so like unfortunately we aren't we're like here you don't know it's not that's it we're just hanging out it's so it's so chill and we've just we've just been enjoying each other's company.
And time goes so fast. It's already Saturday. I know. It's tomorrow's a day. I know we're going to have to leave. It's over. I know. It goes so fast. But I know, I want to thank you for having us. I'm sure. I always tell them. They are always like this. And you've been the hostess with the mostess. You know, normally that's my kind of thing. That's it.
I'll be glad that I't i don't have the little slack look we haven't even made it to my family though that's yeah we're still we still need all eight of it yeah all eight affairs we'll do this but talking about what's going on what's kind of going on with your in your swinger life and events you've got coming up and been going on exciting i'm going i'm going with you next weekend to pad i'm so excited i've been watching georgia i've been watching her on um instagram live and she seems so cool i can't wait i love them so much i can't wait to introduce you to all of them and they such a good crew.
I'm so excited. It's a glow party. I need everything fresh. DJ L. Spice is DJing. So it's our old friends. Yeah, old friends. Because it's been so long. We hadn't seen them for a year until I saw them at the last pet event.
And it had been a whole year at the Groveve we didn't realize it's been delivered in the house for a bit like in because in transit they could just stop off and last time they came by miss like this face was really sick and so she didn't even come out but i got to see mr like the spice again and um i'm just excited to see him dj again and then after that yeah after that we're headed to um yeah they're going to pod bash us to take over at secrets and kiss barna yes i'm about secrets i put that in january so i've been waiting for this for nine months i'm so excited a lot of people already know but a lot of people haven't met yet and it's fun to be a do a new group of people different that you don't know you don't know everybody and then the week after that we're going you know lucky duggies no i don't know what i was thinking i don't know three weeks in a that's yeah that's is a lot going on especially with secrets and anything within like a machine but i'm going to the tour break and bloom is your best friend in between you're just me exhausted just physically period just your body is like it goes through a lot just one event and i'm like sorry the next two weeks i am no even just like dancing and walking and being on your feet being up sleeping like yeah when you can and yeah and that's hard on your body no one ever talks about that as much as we should because it's not easy and we're not young or even go but i know it's And it's going to it's gonna go so fast so fast it always says well then you well well thank you guys we're going to see if yes we'll be at you guys are always a solid uh with the crew third through the fifth right yes they're just six so that's gonna always a good good time secrets is just other than hubby and i have not been since the prom down ever which we haven't been able to financially but um we're making it we miss all of our so it's really exciting i wish we could do but i know i want to do every single thing if i could just do i've got family matters that come in life and then there's life going on but yeah we'll be seeing you guys that's what fits in our trip it's gonna be fun yeah we've got panels and then secrets and then we're not a big thing especially all the books and anytime after that, but you never know.
We're like random. Yeah. We are spontaneous. I was about to say we needed another trap visit like ASAP. Um, a couple months now. I love random trap events. There are ones in my life. That's what I'm saying. That's the only official events booked, but we definitely need our...
I like the random we need small more of this for sure too because i think we should do this more often i think this is good for my soul okay once we get my girls night yeah just hanging out girls night just smaller with the guys with the guys i guess we're gonna girl with the guy group yeah yeah and then next weekend we're gonna talk on our podcast more about our bdsm lifestyle that's like the number one question other than the regular normal boring questions that is our like people are more furious about that so we're gonna kind of go deep more into what our dynamic was and our 24 7 um domstile life and kind of stuff we've never really talked about and we've never been able to talk about and we kind of i really want to know more about it because i'm very intrigued by it so yeah i don't have much of a bdsm dynamic um we're very much a dom and we experimented with that a little bit and it's just not something that comes natural with them.
So I've never really dealt much into it. Now, there's plenty of subscribers and people who like the doll side of me and key holders. I'm good at that too, yeah. I've seen peaks of it.
I've seen peaks of it where I'm like, they're on then i'm just under exploring trying to play with don wants to be stopped yeah i mean absolutely which is yes that's a very common term very many people use for a little bit of both and then we're gonna go more into terms and all of that i mean go more deep into that i'm gonna discuss about about that and then yeah we appreciate you guys being here and thank you so much for sharing your experiences and your stories and your lives and just being in my life period because i've dreamed and and manifested you so hard okay i've always wanted this all of my life so i'm very blessed to have these girls i appreciate you being here and supporting me always We'll be right back.
so hard okay i've always wanted this all of my life so i'm very blessed to have these girls i appreciate you being here and supporting me always and i love you but yeah it's not that serious don't make it weird we'll talk to you guys next time thank you bye
