How does vetting a play partner actually work?
Vetting is the layered process of confirming a prospective partner is who they claim, has compatible expectations, and has no community-flagged issues. The standard layers are: (1) profile photo verification — reverse-image search and matching across platforms; (2) a video call before any in-person meet; (3) a public-place meet-and-greet with no expectation of play; (4) references from other couples or club managers when warranted; (5) recent STI test results before fluid-bonded play. Each layer adds friction; together they filter out the vast majority of bad actors.