Profile advice request

Nice shirt. ;-)

If you have questions during this process, please ask. I think many of us who comment in this section get pretty invested in the success of those who come here for profile advice.

Thanks for the frank feedback. It’s great to hear from people who can look at it from another perspective.

I’ll look for the guidance that people listed and make some changes.

Thanks!

The only thing that caught my eye was "Let’s use our imaginations when we meet." If you can't use your imagination to create an interesting profile, how do you expect people to believe you will somehow do more in person?

So many seem to take the approach of "If we can just meet.....", but in your profile text at least, you really haven't given anyone a reason to reach out. It doesn't sound logical being that this is a sex site, but people will be more attracted initially to someone that sounds fun to be around rather than introducing themselves more like a piece of meat. SLS is a deli full of SMs, so another piece of meat will get lost in the shuffle. As was mentioned, classy sells better than trashy more often than not.

There is a wealth of knowledge to be gained from looking through prior advice. If you did that you would see a common theme, as well as how many times over and over that the same advice is given. My advice would be to look through that and use it to tweak your profile, then ask for it to be reviewed.

I'm the kinder, gentler version of blunt and mean - just remember that it's all about your profile, not you personally.

I get it - you're proud of your body and you think "sex sells". All the profiles with pictures of ladies tits attract your attention, but women generally are not attracted to naked pictures like men are. Your profile is the combination of resume, advertisement and a first impression - classy, charming and interesting works best. You probably wouldn't be publicly introducing yourself to ladies or couples in the various states of undress shown in your pictures.

Read other reviews and find Velma's DEBauCH system for core pictures for your public gallery. My photo advice is more general - smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies. Get a friend to take a picture when you're out having fun, get a waitress to take a picture when you're out to dinner - most people are happy to help.

You can probably rework what you have in various places for a decent Looking For section but the rest is pretty worthless.

In Description tell us about what makes you tick. Are you the life of the party - up all night dancing? Do you hang back and people watch? What do you do outdoors - hiking, boating, camping, hunting, fishing? Sure we're all here for sex but we probably want to talk to you a bit first - if we have no idea about common interests we'll probably pass.

In Fantasies you can tell us what you've enjoyed in the past or still want to try. Broad generalities like MFM. role playing, or DP is fine; you can save details (like doctor & nurse role playing) for later discussions.

Additional Comments is kind of meh - if you want to keep it, I'd ditch the first bit.

You have some awkward phrasing so when you're finished read the text out loud - sounds silly but you'll hear things that you won't catch just proofreading it.

If you want additional advice, let us know when you've made changes and the updated profile has been approved.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. I am going to say really mean things and I'm going to say them bluntly. Please know they're not a referendum on your worth as a man. Instead, they're about your profile and how I think some things are getting in the way or will get in the way of your having the kind of experiences you desire. We're all blunt to some degree and it can feel really harsh, but please try to hang with it and view it as a bunch of folks telling you how you can get laid more. 'kay?

So, thanks for opening your photos. You're a nice looking man. But I've now seen more of your cock than I want to on first acquaintance. There are women that want to see your dick before meeting, either all the way exposed or in a banana hammock. Most don't. Remember, this IS our first introduction and most of us no more want to see your cock during that introduction than we would if you walked up to us at a party.

Clothed photos only, please, or shirtless if there's a reason (beach, pool, a nude marathon), and hide your business unless someone asks to see it. And no selfies. There are always people around to ask to take your photo if you're at an interesting place or doing something interesting. Smile, even if your face isn't going to be showing. Anyway, your body is good, so if you want to put on a pair of jeans and retake that torso photo, it could be striking. Right now, it's like the guy version of boobs, so basically a cliche, which means it doesn't have the impact it should.

Your tagline should be a short, snappy thing that makes people want to open your profile. What you have there now is something that goes in Looking For.

Your first paragraph in Looking For and tagline could be usefully combined. The second paragraph would be a better fit in either Description or Additional comments.

Description is the section I currently hate. You needn't mention you're white or fit, since your photos indicate both, or your age, because that's in your stats. "Very oral for the right woman" suggests you're none too fond of eating pussy. Which, hey, you do you, but it's a red flag for a lot of women that your desire to perform oral sex is situational. By clean do you mean disease free? Because if you are, say so and then make sure you have recent test results. If you mean you shower, you no more need to mention that than any other daily grooming ritual.

Generally though, where you've really gone wrong is in not understanding what many of us are looking for, particularly in a mature man. Instead of emphasizing sexual things, which are easily obtainable, tell us about you. Who are you? What do you like to do beside work out (which is two words rather than one)? What will we talk about? Are you charming? Funny? Give those of us reading your profile a sense of you. Everyone is unique and that's the thing that makes connections with others.

Fantasies is currently a wasted space. Do you have experience with non-traditional sex? Say so. Fantasies? Good. Include one or two non-graphic ones instead of punting. This is yet another opportunity to connect with others and your lame "let's use our imagination..." approach is not doing you favors.

I think you could do better in Additional comments - it is, after all, your last opportunity to make a good impression - but if the rest of your profile was better what you have would be okay. Not great, but not terrible.

Seriously, I want you to do well. I believe your cert and think your profile could do a better job of portraying that person. Start by putting your clothes on though.

Anyway, collect opinions, make some changes and then come back for a review.

Good luck.

I am fairly new to SLS, and have been having some fun. I would like advice on my profile.

Thank you, in advance!