Preliminary profile review

Updated with an older pic of me. We'll have to get better ones this weekend.

That's next on our list. I'm the family photographer, so naturally, none of our photos have me in them. We're going to have some friends take photos of us this weekend to fix that.

Hi. I really like your profile, work in progress or not. I also like the only photo you have. But, please, and no excuses, also include some sort of photo of him in your public gallery. It doesn't have to be perfect, it just needs to be uploaded and reflect whatever level of privacy you need.

Just remember to smile - it affects everything and is noticeable even if you obscure faces.

Got some new pics. Our default profile is a WIP. We're aiming to get some actual couple pics that better reflect who we are.

Looks OK now. As time passes, you'll likely be reading profiles of others and this may give you additional ideas. If you like what someone wrote in their profile, there's a good chance others may as well. There is no penalty for plagiarism here.

It's normal for profiles to evolve over time just as people do, While profiles can usually always improve, there is no such thing as a perfect profile.The best you can do is try to appeal to the largest group of people that you find acceptable. Based on that, you may want to check out others that are in their early to mid-60s. If you find some that appeal to you, you may want to consider raising the upper age preference.

Some may look at an age preference as a boundary they will not cross out of courtesy, and you could potentilly be missing out. Also, just because you set an upper limit of say 65, it doesn't mean you will find all 65 year olds acceptable, just like you may find 55 year olds that won't be a match for various reasons.

Thanks, I think it just needed to be updated. I removed that confusing comment, changed hard to full, and made sure all the sentences were finished.

Don't try to make a lot of profile edits in a short time frame - always make sure your previous update has been approved before making another!

Assuming all updates have been approved I'm still seeing one instance of hard swap that hasn't been changed to full swap and I'm wondering if you're missing something at the end of the very last sentence.

And like MsMolly I don't understand the "1000 shorely" - unless you mean "surely"

Otherwise - looking good once you update your photos.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe - and wish y'all were closer! ;-)

Thanks for pointing that out - I hadn't pressed save on a few edits. Just waiting for them to pass review now.

Hi. It may be that changes have not yet been accepted, but right now a few typos that have been pointed out are still there. For the most part, people won't care, but you're still better off giving the appearance of caring enough to read through and correct your text.

Otherwise, yeah, your profile is good, gives a good sense of an interesting couple, and just needs an occasional refresh and some new photos. ;)

Best of luck!

I made some tweaks to our profile based on the comments. It seems the consensus is that the profile is good as it stands, with occasional updates. This means we need to work on getting some nicer pics of us...

Not sure if the updates took effect yet, but if they have, you have an unfinished sentance -

"She's into crafts and karate, and she's working on her". You also still use "hard swaps" in the Fantasies section.

Thanks all, I've made some changes based on the feedback here, and I'll take a look tomorrow to see how I can further refine them. We're working on pictures!

I'm not sure all of the updates are there. There are still physical descriptions in the text that are not needed as the pictures cover that.

In addition to what has already been said, you may want to consider changing your age preferences from the default of 18 to 99, unless people old enough to be your parents and people young enough to be your kids are a possibility. No harm/foul if that's the case, but a wide open age range can be viewed as desparate.

You mention threesomes but your toggles list no interest in single males. Not sure if you meant that or overlooked that, but you could clarify that in your profile text by saying FMFs/FFMs vs threesomes.

I didn't have an opportunity to look at your profile originally but what you have now is pretty good. Most of what I'm going to say will sound nit-picky but I'm a firm believer that details matter. ;-)

Definitely change "hard swap" to "full swap" - quite a few places you've used that phrase.

Please list a weight for her - many consider weight = zero to be a red flag and will skip over you. You look happy and healthy in your photos - don't worry about what the scale says.

Pick one method of obscuring your faces. My preference is for whatever blurring you used on her in the photo of both of you. A hint of her smile shows through - and smiles are important!

Consider adding some of her hobbies as well as ones you enjoy together to present a more balanced description.

And you might be missing something at the end of the last phrase/sentence.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. I hope others chime in, because you want other opinions.

I like your changes. There are still some misplaced lines - it's really helpful to put things in the right sections - and I'm none too sure what getting a "mystical 1000 shorely" is. Other than that, it's generally soft and full swap rather than soft and hard, there should be a period at the end of the last sentence, and you can eliminate the quotes around "vibe."

Just...maybe once you've relaxed a little, bring some more of your vivacity to your profile. It's a bit on the earnest side right now, which is fine, but more personality added over time will be an improvement.

Made some more changes. Hoping to get some more feedback, thanks!

As before GGMM, your feedback is invaluable. I'll work on this, thanks!

Hi. I don't have a lot of time, so I'm going to race through things, mostly focusing on what doesn't really work.

First, remove any interest in men in your toggles and if you really don't want to hear from them, block them. Also, don't mention them at all, including not saying you'll reach out if and when. You can also, since the section is Looking For rather than Not Looking For, remove the bit about cheaters. If you really think you can fend them off by telling them no, then, sure, put it in Additional comments. But mostly resign yourselves to doing some pretty searching due diligence.

In Description, toggles take care of sexual orientation and there is no reason to use words for things photos do infinitely better. You can also lose the sentence thanking people. Just the wrong vibe. If you must though, the very last sentence in Additional comments is where it goes.

Nearly everything else in there also either belongs elsewhere or doesn't belong anywhere. You want people to be interested in you and I think you largely miss the mark, even though your tagline is really promising.

It's fascinating to read how people describe themselves and their partners and once you delete the first bits, you've done a pretty good job of part of that. But you've missed the part where you are writing to entice others rather than create walls around you and your relationship.

Does that make sense? That the bits about being in love, boundaries, and discretion are part of the conversation for the two of you to have, not for your profile? Your vetting is what makes certain that you engage with folks who have good boundaries, etc. But you can't do that if you aren't engaging others.

So, what kind of people are you? Any interests or hobbies? Is the preference for drinks or dinner because you're foodies or interested in craft cocktails? The purpose here is that you want people to think you might be fun/warm/something else they're looking for and/or have something in common with them.

Fantasies is another chance to connect with folks and you've whiffed it. You can address the issue of fantasies without giving a lot of detail while also sounding open and fun, so maybe try that instead of the Victorian approach.

Additional comments is pretty much standard boilerplate, plus it's missing at least one word. I think you can do a lot better.

Best of luck in your adventures.

Hello all, my wife and I are returning to the lifestyle, and we're in the process of getting our profile back up to date. I'd like a review of what we have now. We were previously on this site under the user name "Delmania," so searching for that will give an idea of what we had. We're both sure our pictures need to be better, but until we make the time to take them, we're just using the old ones. Thanks in advance!