New to SLS

Hi

Your profile is fine for people just starting out. I was going to say is that the whole part about kids growing up etc is unnecessary, since almost all of us have (or have had) similar challenges in having the house to ourselves to sex up in any way we choose.

But then I got to thinking - what you're really saying is that you can't host. That's fine - a lot of people have reasons they can't (elderly or frail family member at home, for instance). If you just say you can't host with no explanation, people often assumes that there is something sneaky going on (such as, you're both married - but to other people). SO - never mind - leave it as it is.

Welcome aboard, and good luck.

Sweet. Thank you! And profile critiquing is better as a group effort, always, and the people who work on their profiles are part of the group mine.

I'm really glad you're happy with the process.

After reading her comments here in the post, and then a few short emails afterward, I feel like GGMsMolly has almost singlehandedly made our profile much stronger.

I wanted to give a public thank you to her for her honesty and candor and helping us shape a profile that we can be proud of and portrays us far more accurately than or previous one did.

In Description, it's fine to say you're happily married, but there are very good reasons not to say you're madly in love. I'm sure you are, but by emphasizing it, it's as if you're building a defensive perimeter. That is both an indicator of potential drama and of a certain amount of insecurity and those aren't really things you want to bring out in the open. Instead, it's for conversation between the two of you. It's also unnecessary to say you're hwp (that's what photos are for), not model quality (99.9% of us aren't) or that you enjoy each other's company (more bricks on the defensive perimeter, because of course you do and it doesn't need to be said)

Instead, talk about who you are as a couple? What are your interests? Are you happy, bubbly folks? Brooding and angsty? Oh, wait. Maybe not that. ;-) Think about what you want other people to know about you in order to entice them a little.

Fantasies has to go. Instead, this is where you say something about your experiences to date and maybe a very little about what you might want in the future. What you have now is very much a mixed message. A try anything husband and a wife who is a willing participant are not the same couple who is taking things slow and is mostly confined to watching and concerned about future regrets. In addition, and I'm going to be really blunt here, no experienced, ethical dom/domme reading your profile would go anywhere near the two of you and would be completely uninterested in helping you explore submission as things stand. However, you would be prey for those who aren't so ethical. So, put a pin in a public airing of your submission fantasies and save it for private role playing, at least for now.

Additional comments is the perfect place to put the first and last lines that are currently in Looking For. Most of the rest of what's there now is part of the conversation between the two of you and needn't be made public.

Good luck. Also, at the top of the Forums home page are two sections for clubs and events in your state. You might find information there or in Hot Date, where clubs and parties are also sometimes listed.

Hi. So, I had to do some thinking about your profile. Not as much time as it appears, because I've already written out a critique earlier and SLS decided to eat the post (thanks, guys), but some time was spent. I'm just going to be really blunt, because it'll be clearer if I am. Please don't take it as an attack or meanness; it's very kindly meant and I really do want you to get everything you want out of this.

Before I get to your actual profile, your photos need some work. The nude of her is weirdly composed and consequently unflattering and it's nearly impossible to take an attractive closeup shot of a breast. Instead, try full body, clothed photos of the two of you together.

Your tagline is meh, which is fine for now. Just add the word "the" and don't capitalize the "l" in lifestyle.

Looking For is about others. Who and what you're looking for and a quick pass over what you'd like to do with them. The information you currently have belongs elsewhere (and much of it doesn't belong in your profile at all). What you want is more in line with this: We're looking for couples who are interested in hot same room/own partner play with maybe some light touching. We'd also like to make some friends. Something like that, with maybe another sentence or two, none of it really about you.

And here's the part where I give advice: Right now, your toggles are set in a way that is very confusing and contradictory, given the text in your profile. That needs to be fixed, not least because it kinda screams that you don't know what you want (when I think you probably do). So, fix your toggles to express a lot of interest in Watching, maybe a tiny bit of interest in Soft and none at all in Full. And then remove your interest in singles, because they have no role to play in same room/own partner activities.

You can always adjust your toggles if you open up to other things, because none of this is permanent, but toggles and text should always match.

The other thing is you needn't explain your choices. Just state them unapologetically and go after whatever suits your needs.

Thank you for the candid reply GGMissMolly. Unfortunately, we're fairly new to this area (about 3 years) and we don't know of any (let's face it, it's not the sorry of thing you ask friends lol.) We've reached out to a few of the couples in the area from SLS that host parties. We're hoping that by going that route, we can start to network while getting our feet more wet.

Hi and welcome. Your profile could use some work, but so long as you're just dipping the tip of one toe into the pool, you're just not going to garner much interest here no matter how many changes you make.

I'll be back later to do a review, but in the meantime, clubs would probably be a better option. Do you have any nearby?

Thank you RK. Your advice is well received. So many more questions, but probably better left for other topics as I don't want this one to stray too far from the original thought process. Lol. We appreciate you taking the time to welcome us and share your profile and advice with us.

Looking for a profile review and some advice for newbies. Have emailed a few, typically get one response, then silence.