Honest feedback

Our feedback in general>>If your a couple show a picture of BOTH. If you are a male SMILE! Nothing turns off this couple more than a scowling male picture. We know what breasts and cock look like, show your personalities, why you would be compatible. One sentence without using spell check, no picture is an immediate block. If you are soooo important to show who you are, maybe you don't belong here. This is being stated by a person who does have a very public persona.

Hi there..looking at your profile. Reading about you, I would elaborate on what you actually like doing. Live music, what type, hiking, outdoors stuff. People usually want to know they have something in common with you to connect. I would put your additional comments section in your about you section. It does make you seem as you say ADHD. Make sure you're not repeating yourself a different way. Your pics are ok, showing different versions of you. But, this is about fantasy, so, the hotter the pic you can post, the more likely the women or couples will message you. If you're not in the shape you would like to be, try to start working out. This lifestyle is about fantasy and the ladies want something they cant get every day. Please don't tell me you are too old. I'm going to be 48 years old this year. It's not too late. Last thing, I would go into the settings and block the Male portion of the interests if that's not what you're into. Have a great day.

You definitely need to find Velma's advice for pictures. I rarely use the cell phone camera but I'm sure there are accessories & functions that will allow pictures that are not selfies. Until you can get together with other people things like timers and mini tripods are your friends. You've got the smile down pat - now you just need to work on composition a bit. The off-kilter backgrounds make me a bit seasick but hopefully that is a result of taking selfies.

MsMolly has covered issues with your text that annoy me - I'll just mention those I feel are most critical. I'm not a fan of repetition in profiles - both within the text and text repeating info in stats and photos. You have both happening so delete some instances and try reworking others. Mentioning a few of your varied interests will give others a chance to think "hey, me too!" and will be a good replacement when you delete info that duplicates your stats. Work on Description and Additional Comments first - Looking For and Fantasies/Experience aren't nearly as bad.

Let us know when your revised profile has been approved if you'd like additional advice.

Good luck and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. I'm going to take you at your word and not soften my criticism. Even though it's what you've asked for, it still might be uncomfortable, so please know my intentions are benign.

So, first, your photos aren't good. It's not just that they're selfies, which would be bad enough, but they're taken at poor angles, one of them makes you look like you're a 65 year old version of PeeWee Herman, and in most you're looking off to the side. Don't do it now unless you have a roommate, but once social distancing is no longer the gold standard, please have other people take your photos. Search other threads for Velma's advice if she doesn't show up for appearance and content advice.

You have an issue that first shows up in your tagline and that issue is word repetition. It's certainly possible to use the same word twice in the same sentence, but unless the way you use language is pretty supple, it induces boredom in the reader. So, start by changing your tagline and edit the rest accordingly.

In Looking For, the word you use too often is "I," with a side of "experiences." My usual advice is to keep personal pronouns to a minimum in this section, because it's meant to be about others and that means you need to leave room for them. However, I'm torn, because your first paragraph shows a significant aspect of your personality. It's just really poorly written if the intent is to leave space for others to see themselves. Like, I can see people being attracted to your seeming openness to everyone and then sheering off due to a barrage of personal pronouns.

See if you can find a way to make the section about who you're looking for and then about what you're looking for, avoiding trite words and phrases like "adult fun." Instead, try to find direct language and clearly express yourself.

In Description, leave out things that are visible in your photos or found in your toggles. And then add some things that say more about who you are as a person. What are some of those interests?

In Fantasies, it's not really meant to be about your philosophy of sex. Maybe lose that second iteration of "bedroom" and move that sentence down to Additional comments, which is kind of a catchall anyway. Also, why is it always bedrooms? I mean I like comfort too, but anyone who uses "bedroom" as a euphemism for fucking has already lost me, because it just indicates missionary in the dark or something similarly banal.

In Additional comments, you might forego that second use of the word professional. You've already signaled the class divide once and there's no need for iteration. The part about being with people who are comfortable in their own skin is probably better recast some and stuck in Looking For. The rest is okay, but can you use fewer personal pronouns?

Other than that, see about acquiring a more enthusiastic cert.

So, collect opinions, make some changes and then please come back for a review. Good luck.

I would greatly appreciate some open, honest, and ruthless feedback on my profile. I really want to put my best foot forward. Thank you in advance.