Help With Profile

Looks a bit better than it did. I realize you are in the process with pictures, but some women are very particular about facial hair. At least for the ones you show with facial hair, it is well trimmed. If your norm is clean shaven though, you may be better going that route for a wider appeal.

Is there nobody or nothing that can make you smile? Ideally, that is what you want in a picture because a smile makes people look fun and positive.

I do agree with P&Ws comments. Yes, I know you took out the video game stuff but if that is what you do in your spare time for fun, it'll be 50/50 on how that works for you to have it in your profile.

You'd think that since this is a sex site, people would want to focus on that, but being only and all about the sex is a turn-off for many. Most folks we run into want someone that they can have good conversations with about a variety of topics.

Sex is just one of many fun things to do and talk about, and in the end, people just want to have fun. In person is a different ballgame, and online, many people want to know they have common interests besides just sex. You did ask for a wider appeal, and having varied interests can give you that wider appeal.

Still some room for improvement but it's much better - I can at least think of advice to offer this time around! ;-)

The conversational style is better than the bullet list. The list of kinks is probably more detail than you need to start with. And there's no need to explain so much about your preference for no-expectations meeting, face photos earlier than later, hosting at hotel rather than home, etc.

You concentrate way to much on sex. Yeah, I know, it's a swinger site - but many couples are interested in you as a person, not just a sex object. So what makes you unique - what are you writing, what do you do when not writing or at the gym, rock or jazz, mountain climbing or boating?

Rearrange your text a bit after pruning some of the unnecessary explanations, consolidating your kink list into something more generalized and adding some vanilla info so that your sections are somewhat equal in size.

The current default photo has that same scowl we complained about before - you're probably concentrating on getting a decent photo but it's not inviting. The ice cream cone and sitting at the conference table (especially the most zoomed in one) are good. And you need to clean up all the duplicates.

Crafting a decent profile is a process - not a one and done - you've done well but can still make it better!

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Made some changes to the text of my profile. Will work on getting better photos. How does my profile look now?

Hi. Your market for exactly what you want is small and I'm not part of it, so it took me awhile to come up with specifics that are not solely related to content.

Your photos aren't great - there's a grimace in the outdoor one and the indoor shot you're using as your default has a messy mess in the background. Basically, both present things that people have to get past to contact you.

That tagline isn't good. It's too informative, too long, and unlikely to draw anyone. Try short and clever instead.

In Description, I don't know why that last paragraph is in there. It's off putting on multiple fronts, including that it has nothing to do with describing yourself.

Additional comments, the last chance your profile has to make a good impression, is blank. Why give that up?

In the larger sense, as I mostly tamp down my own negative reactions to self proclaimed dominants, I don't think it's an accident that the section about who you're looking for is much shorter than Description which is half the size of Fantasies. Instead, it appears that what you're looking for is only incidentally meant to benefit the couples you're looking for.

I think that puts you out of the running for all but the most masochistic of cuckold couples. Because, just as the submissive is the one truly in charge in D/s, the couple is the boss in cuckoldry, no matter how it looks from the outside.

Regardless, best of luck.

Sorry if this sounds terse. It's meant to help, but may not come across that way.

There are some things that some couples may find off-putting. For example, there are couples intrigued by Dom/sub, but keep in mind that is a niche subset of couples in general. So, when you ask to "make my profile more desirable", the question is to a larger audience or a specific target audience?

As an example, "...asserting my dominant position in the bedroom" is likely to be polarizing, as will "...conditioning her to think about me near-constantly". These might be things bettter left out and discussed in person after you've develeoped a rapport with a couple.

Your tagline doesn't "exercise your creative faculties " as it isn't catchy or creative.

I agree with the prior comment about your pictures.

Some may see "play video games" on the opposite end of the spectrum from "mature". Nothing wrong with video games, but it does conjur a potentially limiting image when combined with your age.

Just a note, but NOBODY wants drama, and mentioning anything about it can backfire into making people think that you will potentially bring it. It's better not to mention it at all.

You left the last section blank. This just means you've punted on an opportunity to tell others more about yoursellf and/or close on a positive note. You could look at other profiles for examples of what to put in this last section. Things like availability or if you can host are just a couple of many things you could put there.

All of that said, if you're attending "Samantha’s Stable, Saints and Sinners, and The Private Affair swinger clubs." on any sort of regular basis, then your success will be less tied to whatever you do to your profile. Good for you in putting yourself out there. You'll likely have WAY more success doing that than anything you do online, though it never hurts to have a good online presence as well.

I'm not going to say anything about your text other than prune it significantly. That level of detail creates a wall-of-text that is off-putting to most people.

The only photo I'd keep is the one of you smiling - you appear to be scowling in the rest, not terribly enticing.

I noticed you commented on Velma's system - single gentlemen only need to focus on the DEB of DEBauCH. Show us what you'll look like for a first meeting, doing something fun and at the beach/pool if you care to show off your body. But the most important thing is to smile.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

I'm looking to make my profile more desirable, so I was wondering if anyone could tell me what in this updated bio needs improving. Any help is greatly appreciated!

New Tag Line: Part-time gym rat, part-time sketch artist looking to exercise my creative faculties in and outside the bedroom
What am I Looking For: Want some long-term friends who I can really connect with. Bull/boyfriend for the wife – someone she can let loose and give up all control to – and a best friend to the husband: someone he can ideally play video games and share his interests with, all while asserting my dominant position in the bedroom.

Describe Yourself: Early 30s, mature, respectful (read: drama-free) man with hotwife experience who just wants to explore the cuckold lifestyle with two people I can call my friends. I enjoy feeling like I’m doing something immoral and will make you feel the same. 420 friendly, but I only smoke socially. I enjoy flirting, kissing, touching, lovemaking – and of course, good hard fucking – everything that makes people feel alive. On a fitness journey for a body I can feel confident in. Also capable of giving damn good massages; the last wife I gave one to said I had welcoming, gentle hands :) Can drive to you if you want.
Vaxxed, don’t do games and expect the same.

I just require exchange of full face photos before meeting and a public coffee meet to see how well we jive. After that we will ONLY proceed on contact if all of us are on board. Your bond is serious business, and I promise to hold it as sacredly as you do. Consent and privacy are musts.

Tell us about your fantasies and real-life experiences: You can find me at Samantha’s Stable, Saints and Sinners, and The Private Affair swinger clubs. If you see me, come and say hi!

Soooo, here are my kinks, none of which are dealbreakers if you’re not into them. This is just so you can look and see if you share any of them.
• Roleplay
• Erotic hypnosis
• Spanking
• Costumes
• Using a remote-controlled vibrator to make the wife cum (doesn’t have to be in public)
• Collars and leashes/pet play
• Domination, like telling the wife what I want her to wear for our dates, pinning her arms down, etc.
• Orgasm control and conditioning: Bringing the wife to the edge several times only to stop and build up again before we have sex, eventually conditioning her to think about me near-constantly
• Cuckolding

Roleplay scenarios I enjoy:
• Breeding
• Power play: Teacher and schoolgirl, boss and secretary, modeling agent and aspiring model, etc.

Some fantasies I have are:
• Beach sex in a tent while hubby stands guard outside
• Having the wife give me a lapdance and grind herself on me until she cums