Help me improve my profile

mayhem8Veteran
Auburn, NH, Us

What would make your profile more "attractive" is to have more actual meaningful content so people can see if they will have common interests with you, besides just sex. So many think that this is only a sex site, so only things related to finding sex partners are needed. With all other things being equal, one is more like to choose someone that they have more common interests with.

Ditto for the advice of reading some of the prior profile help posts because much will apply to you as well. For example, some common advice is that if you have adequate pictures, then there is no need for any physical description text in your profile.

Please understand that the people providing input want to help you, but they're much more inclined to do that if you can meet them halfway by taking some initiative on your own first.

Fort Payne, AL, Us

Yeah - I looked at the profile last night also - and just couldn't deal with it.

Not sure if it was because of the colorful profile photo, the now removed scowling photo, the reference to Ken, the coy fantasies cop-out or just the overwhelming meh-ness. Maybe it was just that I couldn't find new and unique ways of repeating the same advice given to so many previous single gentlemen. It's not as bad as many but I think you could do so much better.

I can't add much to what MsMolly said about your text - read her post again and pretend I've said all the same things. ;-)

And it wouldn't hurt to read a few of the reviews provided to others - most of the common advice is applicable to your profile as well.

As for your public photos - you need at least one well lit photo of your smiling face and one full body photo dressed for a casual first meeting. The colorful photo isn't bad - once I could figure it out. Unfortunately it is overwhemingly dark making it difficult to see you on a small screen (and I'm using a laptop with a 12" screen).

Dick pics are best kept in a separate gallery that you only open upon request or that is well-labeled so it's easy to avoid (some of us prefer a bit of mystery).

Thank you for removing the photo with the scowling/serious expression - no one looks at a photo like that and thinks you'll be fun.

You have a decent base to build on - just need a bit of fine-tuning and a few better photos.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. I saw your profile last night and hoped that some kind person would respond, but no. Instead, you have me.

First, no on sending you the request to open your photos. You have too many galleries for someone whose face is already public and I really don't need to see one more dick that isn't in the same room as me.

Second, your tagline could be shortened to just the last five words. Let others call you handsome.

As far as your text, it's fine. Not particularly revealing or interesting, but workmanlike. Could it be better? Definitely. In Looking For, say more about those couples and singles (of both genders?) that you're looking for. "Open minded" generally is code for same sex play, so at the very least expand that to say more about the people and then what you're looking for, like casual fun, something that lasts long enough to maybe work toward friendship, whatever.

In Description, I'd leave out the shyness thing, because that signals that you take some work. Instead, come prepared to be your most social from the jump, however uncomfortable that might make you. The Ken thing can go as well, and not just because it's a cliche. You have the body you have and if you want to say you're interested in being more fit, that's great. Maybe mix in a little more about the things you like to do.

In Fantasies, I'm glad you've gotten through some of yours, but the whole "I'll tell you later" thing is just unimaginative if your aim is to intrigue people.

In Additional comments, that's not the reassurance you might think, since your test results are only good until you have sex. Maybe just lay out your testing schedule or say you test regularly. If you can host or can think of some way to end on an up note, do that.

Basically, there isn't enough content here.

Anyway, good luck. I hope others swing by to give their take.

I'd appreciate honest feedback to help me make my profile more attractive. Send me a message so I can open my pics. Appreciate your time everyone