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Fort Payne, AL, Us

Not sure if you've read other reviews - remember that everything said is about your profile, not you personally.

You've obviously done something right - you have wonderful certs.

But your profile is currently a wall of text that is hard to read and a bit off-putting. You've spent way too much time talking about negatives and you don't seem to have a grip about matching your text to the section headers.

Looking For should be about others - do you like outdoorsy types that hike or go boating, party animals that enjoy the dance floor or someone laid back that enjoys a picnic in the park? Do you prefer one-time NSA encounters or on-going FWB relationships? Description is all about you - more vanilla than sexy to give us an idea of the type of guy you are. Fantasies/Experiences is all about the sexy you - what you have tried and enjoyed as well as what you'd like to try. Add'l Comments shouldn't be left blank - hosting or traveling can be mentioned here if you can't think of anything else.

My usual suggestion is to copy all your text into a word processor and start editing. Examine every sentence - don't repeat information that's in your stats section, phrase things in a positive manner, decide if it's in the correct section. Then group information in a logical manner, add blank spaces to separate into paragraphs (if necessary) and run spell check and grammar check before copying the text to SLS.

None of the sections needs to be very long - your profile is an advertisement to entice others. Keep your profile fairly general and save the details for messages and meetings with others.

I assume that cell phone cameras have a timer function - prop your phone somewhere and use it to take pictures if you can't find anyone to take pictures for you. I'm sure you are proud of your physique but we don't need to see it in every photo - photos of you nicely dressed or doing something fun are always good. Be sure to smile even if you crop out or obscure your face - it affects everything in a good way.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi there. I don't have a ton of time, which means my usual lack of diplomacy will be dialed up. Sorry about that, but my intentions are kind.

First, you say you're not a muscle head, but all three of your public photos emphasize your muscles. Your disclaimer would be a ton more believable if your pics had some variety. Try adding a couple of full length non-selfie shots of you in well fitting but not overly snug clothes.

Your tagline is good.

Looking For isn't meant to elicit your philosophy of life or that you like oral. Stick to the point. What are you looking for and who are you looking for? It's a great place to put your love of women's bodies of all types. You can mention massage in Fantasies, I suppose, or if you're good with words, wind it into this section, but right now it's just part of the word vomit that you need to clean up.

Description is... not precisely your friend right now. Somewhere in the deluge of words throughout your profile, I'm getting the idea that you're a personable, smart guy, but that's more because I'm good at looking underneath things than because you've done a great job of displaying those attributes. Clean this section up without repeating things that are in your stats and be a little more rounded the way you are (but shouldn't be, because that's not what the section is about) in Looking For.

Fantasies is currently pointless. It's really a good thing to be focused on the pleasure of your partners, but give people reading your profile an idea of your experience and of yourself. You're more than a sex toy there just for the pleasure of others.

In Additional comments, you have the opportunity to charm one last time, so end on a positive note.

Other than that, I like your tagline and your certs are great. Also, you should just excise all that kiss and tell/gossip/not ruin family stuff. That's not a good look for a lot of reasons, mostly having to do with your looking anxious about your role in swinging. You've been doing this long enough to be comfortable with the dynamic, so let that stuff go.

Please make some changes and then come back for another whack or two.

Nashville, TN, Us

Can I have some help critiquing and editing my profile. It is just terrible