PhoebertAndWifeVeteran
Fort Payne, AL, Us
Keep having those discussions often as you experience new situations - feelings have a funny way of surprising you when you least expect it.
Good luck, have fun and stay safe!
mfm vs ffm
update on post
wife and I talked things out and she now understands my side. and I understand her desires. we are looking for couples to play with.
GoodenuffVeteran
Brooklyn Park, MN, Us
It's a bit odd that your profile is open to SFs, but MFM is what you (as a couple) appear to currently be receptive to MFM only.
Your profile also indicates that the Mrs. is Bi which also appears a bit odd that you don't mention a same room MFFM situation/possibility since you've been on this site for 2 years.
Trust and relationship security are issues that always need to be discussed and resolved in advance of meeting others, That takes time, but I would think that after 2 years you would be making some progress on those or being in the LS could be a real problem and you might want to reconsider the LS.
I know, that wasn't any help, but good luck to you both.
CopNkittenVeteran
Phila, PA, Us
yup, what they said. she may be willing to try later on, or she may not ever want to, and you will just have to deal with her decision
goodgollymsmolly98226Veteran
Phoenix, AZ, Us
If your wife is unsure she'd be willing to see you with another woman, your chances for what you're calling equal play are slim. There are couples who are just fine with this MFM-only kind of swinging. If you aren't, then you should stop entirely.
PhoebertAndWifeVeteran
Fort Payne, AL, Us
If she's not ready to see you with another lady then she's not ready; she might not ever be ready.
We played MFM for at least fifteen years before I decided I was comfortable shifting to full swap. We started our journey knowing that MFM might be all we ever experienced.
Trying to keep score or expecting equal play might lead to your disappointment or your wife's resentment.
Might be time for more discussions about expectations, goals and feelings.
So I like seeing my wife with another guy then joining in for mfm play. My wife had said to guy that she prefers only mfm. She’s not sure if she could let me be with another woman . Advice on equal play,