Odd Meet Up

Hey Mr TB, we agree with you statement "save water and shower with friends!" Oh and say hi to Mrs. BB

A sidebar not intended to hijack the thread.
While there is no medical reason to bathe daily--there are actually reasons not to--we side with nudists and lifestylers that it's not only polite but also therapeutic.

You bathe/shower before a meetup or party. You make sure you're clean before getting into a hot tub. You rinse the chlorine/bromine off getting out. After hot, sweaty fun at a party, you shower before going back to the common area. Coming back from poolside or beachside or lakeside, you shower to get rid of the sweat and suntan lotion. That might seem to be a lot of water use--save water and shower with friends!

While it has happened, it is rare for us to encounter someone for play time that has poor hygiene. So much so that we don't feel a need to specify that in our profile. It just starts to feel like a begining of a list of "Don'ts" that come off as negative.

Even when playing at a party, we always shower within a couple hours before and we both clean up immediately after playing with someone before potentially playing with anyone else.

It is very obvious to me, if you aren't presentable on a first meet, we are not going to happen. I take care of myself, have good hygiene, and am considered a metr-osexual. I don't expect others to be in shape, or carry themselves well. I have been with people that are overweight but are well kept and that made them sexy and desirable. But I can say that if you are meeting someone for the first time, you have to know that hygiene is paramount. That being said... don't take care of yourself from a hygiene point, don't expect anyone to be interested.

I have to comment on this. When we meet another couple we expect them to be clean and well dressed. I don't mean formal wear but I do mean neat! We usually meet at a restaurant and some couples have been sloppy, dirty, and embarassing. We usually make a short evening of it and send them a message "Thank you for meeting with us but we are not a good match."

It's hard to rationalize what & how people think. You would assume people would try to present as attractive as possible when headed on on a date........

We like to make sure we look "fuckable" when we go out to meet couples or go to a club/party. Even when we go out with couples we've known and played with for years, where we know for certain that the night will end with sex, we want to look clean and attractive.

Was wondering what was going on with this topic because I was sure I commented on it, but then found the OP posted the same thing in the Open Forums topics as well as here. Figured I'd mention it in case anyone else was wondering about that too.

Continuing on TomandDiane's remark, disregard for appearance when "dating for 4" suggests similar or greater disregard when "dating for 2". When the two of us go out for "date night", how we look to -- and for -- each other matters. We will never take each other--and by extension our relationship -- for granted. When we meet another couple, we ask ourselves whether they are of similar mindset: are they equally caring about each other to the point that they care about what the other sees and hears and feels?

We've run into that a few times over the years. Not quite as bad as the OP's situation though. Couple meetings are like dating for 4. You'd think both would want to look presentable if there's a chance of things going further at some point.

That couple sounds like most of America. So many men are clueless. We see it all the time. The women dressed to the nines, while their men go out in flip flops and sports jerseys. We don’t understand men like that, or the women for tolerating it. We are at a resort in Palm Springs, observing this very thing while writing this.

That couple sounds like most of America. So many men are clueless. We see it all the time. The women dressed to the nines, while their men go out in flip flops and sports jerseys. We don’t understand men like that, or the women for tolerating it. We are at a resort in Palm Springs, observing this very thing while writing this.

Had an odd first meetup with a local couple. We met at a restaurant, first impression not good, the hubby did not acknowledge us at the front door just ran in to get a table leaving his wife to say hello.
The guy had on a 2 day old stained work t shirt , 3 days growth of a beard, sweaty from working outside all day , sweat stained ballcap,
He was overweight, giant beer belly , just a slob.
We do know some heavier people that present themselves really well , this guy was not one of them.
We sit down and chat , every subject from him is how he had a confrontation with someone and beating them up, bosses, coworkers, medical professionals ect.
He had nothing good to say about anything.
His wife was nice enough and presentable, but the dude just let himself go.
We are an older couple, We keep fit , look good, dress well are polite and understand this is a date.
We have noticed the guys our age are 70% slobs, . overweight , sloppy, most have ED and wont state that on a profile.
My wife is relatively frustrated , she wants a clean guy who can get it up... Too much to ask?
Sorry about the rant , but guys step up if you want this to work .