" FYI "open minded" is a term very often used to describe guys who list as straight but might be bi curious under the right circumstances (bi-curious curious, I guess). So you sort of invited that speculation. "
That reminded me of the picture (of myself holding up a sign that said: I'm open minded, wanna meet?) I had to put up after losing a bet years ago here in the forums when we could pick and choose which photo to use with each response.
Oh yes.. its so much FUN.. happy wife fantastic life! Our favorites is 3sum with guys or ladies and also a pickup bar scene and all go home to have more fun! We love to PartE!!! LOL and smile for days after
Those that dont get what we do its on them... for us we block the idiots!
"The only thing people know about you is in your profile, and if they run across it, things you may have said here in the forums or in chat."
Also remember that not everyone you're interacting with on the forums can see your profile. As a single guy, all I see is what you post on here.
Rdy4Fun1977 - What you're seeing is that online is a WHOLE different ballgame than in person. You don't get to see facial expressions, body language, or have a free flowing conversation.
The only thing people know about you is in your profile, and if they run across it, things you may have said here in the forums or in chat. If it's possible for someone to take something the wrong way, the forums are likely to show that ;-)
Maybe it's a hamster. Or an eel. It's hard to tell when your eyes are closed, but easy to tell if it's an eel once the "fun" begins.
Yeah, don't ask how I know this.
Not the honey badger!
"We’re not into sick things like blood, potty stuff, and nasty bodily fluids.
But, with that being said anything else is fair game."
Then you're gonna love when the couple with the handcuffs and honey badger in the tube asks you to close your eyes and bend over.
Welcome to the Forum, you'll figure out who's who in here after a bit. Most are harmless. Good luck deciding out who isn't. Having a sense of humor helps.
I mean, you came in here and made some very vague statements and just sort of left everyone to speculate as to what you were referring to. So, that's what they did.
FYI "open minded" is a term very often used to describe guys who list as straight but might be bi curious under the right circumstances (bi-curious curious, I guess). So you sort of invited that speculation.
"This is what I was getting at with my post, my husband is laughing his ass off here see the rabbit hole that everyone went down on my little post."
But you're asking a bunch of swingers if they test boundaries when you're not really talking about boundaries a lot of us pay any attention to, except in time duration (and hour is fine, but anyone else's husband is not going to be as much fun as my partner, so more than that is a no go), so you got a lot of clarifying questions trying to figure it out.
Oh, you're not disappointing me. I'm not on here looking for the typical thing. I'm a bit of a misfit on a swinger site.
And I wasn't talking about you in particular, just referring to what a previous commenter talked about. With language not being clear, it's easy for people to interpret in a lot of different ways. I don't have any problem with guys being straight. Not every man can be a fully optimized man. I just have a problem with people expecting that when we look at profiles we should get out our Ouija boards and tarot cards and try to interpret the messages from the aether, instead of just people saying what they want and how they want it.
ion sorry to disappoint you but my husband has no desire to suck dick, but I do. ?? We are fairly new to this site but not the lifestyle, we’ve been in it for over 15 years. The lifestyle has allowed us to make amazing friends that love to try things that in their normal lives they wouldn’t. For example when we travel with friends sometimes we’ve exchanged spouses for a few days, it’s fun to see people’s confused expressions. This is what I was getting at with my post, my husband is laughing his ass off here see the rabbit hole that everyone went down on my little post. RonandKathy you got my post, thanks
"A more specific example that falls under boundary pushing is that the male half lists as straight, so pushing a boundary could be interpreted as, "Maybe he wants to suck cuck?" That may or may not be the case, but you can't leave that much to the imagination and expect people to get it right."
There's a lot of coded language here on a site where people should be able to just be honest and clear about what they're looking for.
I don't do the coded language. I'm too old to pussyfoot around.
"I thought maybe PartE was a new Medicare benefit."
Humor? From a science guy?
Cool.
My first impression of PartE was what VA said too ;-) I did get it, but even the word "party" has different meanings to different people. We know people that go to swinger parties to "party", but to them it means drink, dance, socialize and watch others have sex.
A more specific example that falls under boundary pushing is that the male half lists as straight, so pushing a boundary could be interpreted as, "Maybe he wants to suck cuck?" That may or may not be the case, but you can't leave that much to the imagination and expect people to get it right. Otherwise the next couple you play with could have the guy from that couple reaching for your cock, thinking he's "pushing your boundaries". Some consider the word "open minded" to mean bi play.
Again, perhaps this is the case and there is nothing wrong with that. If it is though, at a minimum consider listing some specific fantasies of things you'd like to do in your profile.
BTW Rdy4Fun1977, welcome to the forums. There is a lot to learn in the lifestyle (LS) and a lot of good info buried into a number of forum topics as well as others that enjoy helping newbies get their feet (and other body parts) wet ;-)
Its what we have been doing with select FWB while swinging over 30 years.. its fun, keeps it new and interesting!
Its why we are swinging and living a great happy life every day!
“ We’re at a stage in our life that we can do, try, and feel whatever we want and be happy with our decisions”
I knew a guy, years ago, that called himself a tri-sexual. Try anything once, twice if he liked it, then a third time to make sure.
wink emoji. ;)
“ I thought maybe PartE was a new Medicare benefit.”
Insert laughing emoji here.
I thought maybe PartE was a new Medicare benefit.
lol…. Parte is NOT code for Meth… We were just changing up the spelling of party to be cute, apparently that went the wrong way. We don’t do anything hard like that.
As for what our boundaries are, well…. We’re not into sick things like blood, potty stuff, and nasty bodily fluids. But, with that being said anything else is fair game. We’re at a stage in our life that we can do, try, and feel whatever we want and be happy with our decisions. I hope we answered some of your questions.
Is partE code for meth ? Not our thing
Well what would those boundaries be?
“ FWIW - I did take a look at your profile and it offered few clues as to exactly what you meant by those terms.”
So many people on these sites don’t fill out their profiles using enough detail. It’s all about marketing.
The terms " open minded" and "enjoy pushing our boundaries " mean different things to different people. It could be anything from make out sessions in the back seat of a car to golden showers, and everything in between (and then some). Without more specifics it's going to be hard for anyone to know exactly what you meant.
FWIW - I did take a look at your profile and it offered few clues as to exactly what you meant by those terms.
We are open minded and enjoy pushing our boundaries every now and then. We’d like to know if there are more couples like us out there, that enjoy testing the waters with like minded couples.
