Lifestyle changes???

The lifestyle has not changed. It is still the exchange of bodily fluids. People are lamenting that the methods to get to the point where you can engage in that exchange have changed.

In the 80s, there were no websites. SASE with magazines and word of mouth as well as on-premise clubs.

In the 90s, there were clubs and big events. I miss Lifestyles!

In the 00s, there were websites, clubs, and big events had started to fade.

In the 10s, there were websites, starting to fade, big events replaced by more regional events, but now . . . cruises. Started seeing other mechanisms other than websites for digital-based connections. Started to see whole compound type places.

In the 20s, websites are fading more and more, more cruises, more regional events, more digital-based connections.

In the end, people are still fucking.

We have gotten older. Our methods are what we know. The younger generation . . . they have their methods. They are still fucking as much as we are :)

The ones in my area that also promote here thru SLS have large entry fees..Don't know nutten about your neck of the woods...

Mark, none of the house parties we have been to charge anything, so it is definitely not about $$. While we have been to a few great house parties in the past 2 years, most of them were so bad that we questioned IF the host and attendees were actually in the lifestyle. I am all for getting together with a group of friends and just hanging out, but when we go to a "play" party and no one gets naked or even flashes a tit... well then... We host parties ourselves and most of them have been more of a meet and greet style since we are still fairly new to our area (less than 2 years) and still getting to know people. However even with them being meet and greet types parties we have still had more play than we have seen at some "play" parties or any of the clubs we have been to recently.

Seem house parties are more about money...I wonder how many couples are fake just to add some flavor..

Fockers, that is what we have seen as well. We have had better luck at the local biker bars than the lifestyle clubs. Even the house parties anymore seem a bit off. We are looking to venture out to some new places including lifestyle camping resorts

We have only been in since 2016, but even then when we went to clubs there was always play going on in the playrooms. Now sometimes it’s just us, by ourselves. Lord knows in that first year we saw things in the playrooms that were straight better than porn. Now the clubs have become over glorified meet and greets and even then it’s very much cliquish. We have had more great fun at ‘vanilla’ clubs and bars.

We have been involved with the LS for 25 years, but took many years off when we were having a family. I have noticed many changes since getting back into it. Like several have stated, so many of the clubs seem more like social events rather than swinging functions....most people already come with the people they plan to hook up with. Play rooms are relatively empty.

That is true Goodenough.

FOKKERS.

And a party line!

"I still remember having a rotary phone."

At least you didn't have to turn the crank on the side and then ask for Sarah to get you Floyd the barber.

It’s just sad when you get to be that old…

I still remember having a rotary phone.

HOTLUVRS and FOKKERS

I completely forgot about the good old SASE!

Must be a gray hair thing catching up with me.

LOL, I remember when literally everything you sent away for was SASE…

SASE

If we meet someone who doesn’t know what that means, they are probably too young for us

Yes, swinger events are more of a social function rather than fucking functions..The swing clubs in Phoenix 15-20 years ago were so freaken hot...

Night and freaking day difference.

When I first started,(1984), swinging was on the down low, scorned by most, revered by very few. Other than personal introduction by someone already involved, the only way to get started was to park a couple blocks away from an Adult Book Store, sneak in the back door, and purchase a swinger magazine. You then had to page through the ads, and find the ones you wanted to respond to. To respond, you had to put a letter in a regular envelope, seal it, then put your return address and a stamp on the front. Where you would normally put the recipients name and address, you put the member number of the person you were trying to contact. The member number was posted at the bottom of their add. The next step was to put all of your small envelopes, plus $1 for each person you were writing to, into a larger envelope, addressed to what was normally a PO box the magazine had set up. Then you sat and waited and hoped for a reply. You also wondered if the add was legit, or just something put in the mag to be a fund raiser for the mag company.

Fred Flintstone stuff compared to what goes on today.

As TALLMARK mentioned, the AIDS scare really put a crimp on things for a while. Those who remained active were getting and requiring regular STD testing, Sometimes as recent as 2 weeks from playtime. Condom use also skyrocketed, compared to what was previously normal.

Back when we first started it was easy to go to a swingers club and find others to enjoy the evening with, sometimes just a single couple and sometimes multiples at the same time. Lately it seems that is lost. Most venues we have been to seem more like a social club than a swingers club. Many venues anymore dont even have a play room, so how in the world is anyone going to do more than talk? Is this the new direction of the lifestyle? where more people prefer to sit around and chat rather than find that sexy person or people and have a night filled with living out your wildest fantasies?

Same here, 90's were the best compared to more recent years. maybe age has something to do with it, looks like the 70's would have been fun as well, i would have loved to play with all those hairy pussies...80's had the aids worries, sort of curtailed things but that was before my time. Younger folks now seem to be heavier and enjoy having tattoos...

Curious how long have some of you been in the lifestyle? and what changes have you seen in that time?

We started our adventures back in the mid 90's and enjoyed several years before taking some time away to take care of our business/work, and kids... Have been back now for a little over 4 years and have noticed many things have changed from what it was back in the 90's. While we like many of the changes there are a few thins from swinging in the past that we wish were still part of it all today, or if they are they seem to be much harder to find.