Hot Dates

We never see any women playing alone listed on the Hot Dates in our area. Most of the Hot Dates that are listed are people coming here for vacation or business and they will be one-time possibilities.

I’m looking through the hot dates in my area and there isn’t a single woman listed. Does anyone know if that’s something unusual.

I’ve received DM’s from women who were out of area before but failed to check if that was something that they were employing.

MissMolly: It would be a very rare circumstance that we would meet someone and then go play. So, if we posted a hot date, it would be for "hope" that there was a connection and that we could plan another get together.

BT: yes, we're concerned about how a single guy would react to us either saying we weren't interested OR saying, "we had a nice time, and we'll have to plan for another get together down the road". We know there are several different groups of people posting hot dates and we definitely vet them. We guess we posted in the forum to hear what others have experienced. The responses have been pretty much what we expected. As always, clear communication is the key.

Absolutely, there are a lot of reasons people are unable to, or chose not to play with one another. Those decisions should never be met with aggression or anger.

Different strokes…or sometimes, none at all.

BT

OP welcome.. so for us be it a single or couple .. we all meet at a mutual restaurant bar. WE have had some meet us who looked NOTHING like the photos a real bait and switch, some we have met and we did not want to play with, etc etc. Just have a nice meal or drink and say at end dont think this will work for us and thank them for meeting.

Honesty is best policy..

Some we have met were just for drinks when we thought we would play or they had to work early in AM .. right BT ! LOL

Euphoria,

It sounds as though you’re concerned with how a SM might react if your meeting doesn’t result in playtime and how that might make you feel uncomfortable or potentially, unsafe…or obligated to play.

First, you should never feel that you’re obligated to, or being coerced,/guilted into playing because someone planned a date with you. That’s more than a red flag. It’s a nonstarter.

While the onus is on the SM to act like an adult when faced with rejection, there are steps that you can take, starting with vetting your potential playmate, communicating expectations clearly, and your choice of a meeting location , that can minimize the potential of an uncomfortable scenario.

Good luck & have fun,

BT

We have posted Hot Dates 2x. Both got us many responses from some we would have liked to meet and others no way. Did we have good luck meeting a couple of people from them? Yes

If you posted a hot date today, would you have expectations or just hopes?

Not really a trick question, but if the answer is anything other than "hopes," then the question shouldn't revolve around hot dates. Instead, you need a sure thing, like a sex worker.

We're not even sure how to ask this question. Most hot dates posted, esp by single guys, state "....no expectations...", but nearly all go on to state that they have arrangements "...should things get that far". We can't help but feel that that if we agreed to meet someone on a hot date that, in spite of the "no expectations" inclusion, if things didn't progress to play, they would be disappointed. Maybe / hopefully we're completely wrong. We're sure many out there have done plenty of hot dates, some of which have worked out & many which haven't. What has been your experiences?