Suggestion on Slowing a relationship?????

Don't assume her clingy-ness is a sign of wanting more.

The girl I was with when I created this profile was a FWB situation, and when she appeared to get clingy, I got concerned. At first I played along, figuring a little bit of more-than-friends wouldn't hurt, but when it continued to progress, I started backing off. I was set to talk with her about it the next time we met up, but she sent me a dear john email dumping me for ... being hung up on her.

I was floored, how did that get turned around on me?

She said she wanted to be friends w/o the benefits. I told her have a nice life, and she got pissed at me for not having feelings for her.

Never had a fight or even disagreement up to that point, so I was pretty much left with WTF just happened look about me. I assume(d) it was for the best and moved on. Sucks in a way tho, because we did have a lot of fun, and exploring with someone you know and trust in the bedroom beats solo any day.

What Fun said- but if I were you, I'd make sure there are no sharp objects within reach when you do.

Within the friend zone, clingy chicks are one thing; stabby chicks are another.

Yeah, chicks can get clingy (I suppose guys can too).

Is she aware that you're on this site and are not monogamous? Try to simply drop into the conversation something about a date you are having (or recently have had) with another girl or couple. Mention it as you would to a friend. It will let her know that she's not exclusive, but in a nice way.

I kind of felt that the answers were going to be along those lines. Maybe I was just wanting reassurance to go about it that way. It could go either way, but like some of you said don't wait. I appreciate the input.

All women want relationships, its part of their DNA. Men are fine with women using their bodies for sex. If you want this woman as your friend tell her the truth. That you value your friendship so much that you don't want to lose that friendship. "I don't want to get serious because I am afraid that it will not work and I will lose our friendship."

You can also tell her that you are very difficult to live with, its why I am single.

friendships are fluid, things change, she probably really likes you more than a friend now. talk to her about it, ask her if she is looking for a relationship, if your not , be honest with her. if you try to keep it going casual , she will likely get hurt and end up ghosting you.

Bummer situation, it happens to me as well. I have found that honesty works best!! Be prepared to move on though some people don't like the truth. Good luck.

I have a friend and we go to some parties and events together. We said friends from the get go but she seems to be more and more clingy. She’s nice and fun to hang out with but she just isn’t my type for anything more. How the hell do I say that and she be cool???