Sitting one out

When I first started swinging as a couple, it was always MFM. Later, I was single, so being the third, it was MFM. Then, later with a new partner, I quickly became a spectator. I found that I thoroughly enjoyed watching her. Her thing was two men at a time, so we planned for two. After they were finished, it was my turn. I found that to be my favorite thing. I never had a desire to fuck other women, I mean my wife was the very best, so if I am spending time and energy fucking, it will be her.

My wife prefers my presence when she's playing with another man. I'll lay on one side of her while he's on the other. We both play with her tits and alternate feeling her pussy. When he's ready to move things along and moves down to lick her pussy. I stay by her side kissing her, playing with her tits, and encouraging her to cum while he eats. Sometimes the man will reach over to fondle my dick while eating her pussy - seems to turn on some men to have my disk in their hand while licking her pussy. That's a normal process for us. Not that there aren't times when it's more appropriate to step aside, like if he wants to fuck her missionary. I might still lay there watching and listening. Sometimes I step out of the bedroom for a glass of water to let them get fully involved, watch them a bit, then return to the bed with a towel as they finish.

I've sat back & watched at times.....I once left the room for a while to allow some private time..

WeRCurious: We have a trusted male FWB that is orally bi with us (me). This was the first time she was without my company but with him.

Can you clarify how you enjoy MFM, have a FWB coming to service the wife, but this is the first time in 30 years she has been with anyone but you? Thanks

OK, looking for input from anyone who went from an MFM to a non-participating role.

Due to a medical issue I am out of commission for a while... several weeks, likely. Prostate finally got the best of me, and now have to self catheterize in order to pee, which really has nearly eliminated any sexual thoughts. Followup testing isn't for a few weeks...

Made arrangements with our FWB to come service my wife. I am going to stay out of the room, not wanting to distract her. He seems OK with either me watching or not but she's concerned that my presence without my participation would mess with her. I totally get that. I am fully supportive, no jealousy issues. How can I make her feel more comfortable in order for her to actually enjoy herself? Would like to hear from anyone in a similar or previously similar situation. Thanks.

PS this is the very first time for her having sex with anyone but me in over thirty years....