Well, the one pic of your wife show's that she is very very cute. You aren't a bad looking guy either. Maybe you should seek out couples where both play. It sounds like she is going after SM's, or studs. Not to get too personal, but have you experienced performance issue is the past? Sometimes these things can hinder a re-visit. My wife will give a guy (2) chances, on different nights. That's it. If his performance left her wanting to change teams, then chances are she is not giving him a third. Perhaps she is out going, and you are shy. Shy can be read as "not interested". Don't be a wall flower. Maybe you should have a chat with her, tell her what you are looking for as well.
In this "hobby" you will likely find what you are looking for. But it WILL take some work, time and patience.
