Bi Curious to Straight - Does it ever happen

Well Bob, that’s because labels, much like stereotypes, provide one with a basis upon which to make judgments pertinent to one’s interests.

I have many, many different engines that I maintain around the house. They all take different oil.
I’m not going to remove the labels and just wing it-if I need 50 weight for a parallel twin well the 20 weight that goes into my wife’s Toyota won’t do.
Same with this, it sorts the wheat from the chaff.

The idea that labels should be thrown out because they aren’t perfectly tailored to every individual is infantile. They serve their purpose well.

Bob.. welcome to forums.. the labels are like in life, some like to play with just women, some both men and women, its your journey and tells us who likes who.. we dont play with BI or Bi Curious guys and thats our choice.. we have been doing this well over 25 years and dont want any surprises in the bedroom.

But do not like those who are on SLS and say they are straight in a profile when in fact they came from CL looking for guys.. its 2025 be honest!

Just our take and our journey.. and we respect all who are honest about what they do! We have many friends on SLS who play for both teams and we get it.. also in vanilla life but they dont hide in a closet setting or away from wife on what they are seeking.. thats why the labels.

Bi, Bi-curious, Straight, what does any of that mean? All labels in the lifestyle are catch-all labels. I am not sure that anyone fits perfectly into any one label.

I’ve had both male and female sexual partners. The lackadaisical approach to health and safety in the LGBT community forced me to decide between playing with the guys or my health, so I no longer seek such relationships and decline them when available.
It sucks, but not as bad as hiv/aids or monkeypox lol.

I'm Bi all the way', and love newbie's and turned a few guys to really like the life. many cum back for more introduction to the enjoyment, and go for more tryout's.

To me, Bisexual does not mean willing to have a relationship with males or females. Its raw sex to me. Willing to have Have Sex with a male or female. I am not and never have been emotionally attracted to men, some of my favorite sexual memories have been with guys. Lost my virginity to a guy both orally and regarding top and bottom. Because I allowed my physical person to decide whether to play or not, it immediately became known that whether it was rubbing, touching or actual any kind of sex, if it were a human adult, it felt good. As far as "reverting to straight," if it is sex, I dont believe its likely. If one finds they enjoy a certain kind of food, I suppose they could tire of it and not eat it anymore and perhaps that could apply to sex. But generally, when a person explores something that physically stimulates their body, it is unlikely they will stop enjoying it. I know I am a little different because I enjoy giving pleasure nearly as much as getting it and I also know I am capable of generating intense orgasms in a male. I will throw this tidbit in for those that think the two are related. The KIND of sex a guy engages in has NO relevance to whether he is gay or not. If you were gay, you would KNOW it. Orgasms are neither gay nor straight.

Labels? we don't need not stinling labels!

@gbinnj…. Too bad there isn’t a label for that!

My swinging 1st ex wife coaxed me to try bi with our male 3some partners. I loved it all and developed mm fantasies that I explored after we permanently separated in 1998. We weren't officially divorced until 2001. In those 3 years I became a solo bi swinger and could never go back to str8 and monogamous sex. Woody Allen famously said in a movie that being bi doubles your chances of getting hot dates LOL That only applies to men and women. Solo swinging bi men, especially older ones like me, have to get very lucky in order to meet swinging couples even if the male half is bi. There doesn't seem to be much of a point in my trying to meet solo swinging women within 20 years of my age. There just aren't any women like that around anymore. So I look primarily for older bi males like myself. I'm very successful at it. To meet a nice but naughty couple with a male half of any ages is still a desire of mine, but not likely to happen. I accept that and find bi male sexual partners instead. It would be icing on the cake to meet a swinging couple.

@gbinnj, great answer, I’d have to agree with you. I don’t go looking for it but if the wife asked me to or the mood is just right…. Sure….

I don’t consider myself bi or bi curious however if requested have no issue with oral , to me it’s just a really big clit! I say that I’m not bi or curious as I did not get any arousal from being played with (touch, kiss-not mouth) I don’t care who is sucking me, that’s not what I consider bi - to me bi is an attraction to the same sex. My goal going into play isn’t to suck a dick but will if requested (I don’t find it unpleasant so it’s not taking one for the team).

Molly is correct. There are lots of men and women who have zero inclination to be in an actual relationship with a person of the same sex, but are open to playing with them. It might be one on one, within a threesome, etc... and to varying degrees/activities. Lots of middle ground a guy who won't even kiss a woman until she's brushed her teeth after giving him head and a lone star gay, who's never even experienced heterosexual contact. lol

&2muchfunclub2, agree wholeheartedly

Labels are better suited to groceries than people.

I think that’s my point, if I have one. Anywhere on the scale that’s not “totally straight” or “gold star gay” is bisexual. Heteroflexible is bi. I think most guys just don’t like the stigma that comes with the label “bisexual.”

"I just don’t know how a guy can be curious about sex with men enough to pull the trigger so to speak, but be able to shut that off after an experience that doesn’t click with them."

Yes, I know this is Men Talk(ing), but I think you're confusing sexual orientation with curiosity and sexual behavior, where all you need is to not be totally straight, which probably covers most of us.

I had a partner who considered himself super-slutty, but he'd never sucked a dick until he met me. He tried it twice and it was fine, just not for him.

There's a category on the Kinsey scale that used to be described as something like 'heterosexual, incidentally homosexual,' which was about behavior. Now it's "predominantly heterosexual but slightly inclined to be attracted to the same sex or engage in homosexual behavior.'

My question would be whether they ceased to be bisexual, or if they just ceased to be cocksuckers. Does that make any sense? There are other ways for two men to have sex that don’t involve sucking cock.

I just don’t know how a guy can be curious about sex with men enough to pull the trigger so to speak, but be able to shut that off after an experience that doesn’t click with them.

There have been a few men that contacted me curious about sucking. They tried it said it wasn't for them

I see guys identify as bicurious, and this always confuses me. I’ve known I was bi basically since I was in college, and there was never a time when I wasn’t attracted to guys, going back to elementary school, long before I had a name for it. Has anyone ever been bicurious, had a sexual experience with a guy, and then thought “this just isn’t for me” and then changed their orientation to “straight?”