Advice to a new member ?

A detailed well written profile definitely helps.

I'll second the bad timing thing. A lot of people simply aren't playing with others right now no matter how good your profile is. It never hurts to put your best foot forward and work on your profile in the meantime. Many people equate the effort you put into that as the effort you'd put into meeting others and/or trying to create a good time for everyone.

@Stag88: The folks on this forum offered valuable advice, it this Lifestyle, some of this advice is worth gold!

Take it from me, someone who has a successful Lifestyle experience as a single guy. From day one in the Lifestyle, I lived by a certain code that still applies today, 7 years into this journey. I will share with you some points, for all it is worth. Still, I would heed the advice of couples and single women on these forums, they are generous with offering them.

1. Respect, respect, respect! I always respect people, before, during and after I meet them. It is specially important to respect those who turn you down for contacting them. I had 4 couples who ended up meeting me months after they said "no", and their 1st impression of me with them made the difference.
2. It is your job to make your profile as clear and informative as possible. Remember, most people will skim through tens of profiles a day, and a confusing or badly constructed profile is the first to be ignored. READ THE BETTER PROFILES THREADS on the forums for amazing suggestions from some of the best couples and single women.
3. Your pics: Profile pics need to be clear without being sleazy or boring. Your pictures represent a visual picture of who you are,, so make them work for you. Selfies shouldn't be used in the public photos. I hired a professional photographer in my 1st year on SLS to take some nice casual pictures, which paid off very nicely (I found the photographer through a web search, and paid $200 for many pictures that were sent to me on a DVD)
4. Although this is subjective, I treat SLS no differently than a dating site. I took the LS potential of meeting couples and single women to also elevate myself to the next level of being a gentleman. I dressed better, spent more time at the gym and living healthy and learned from the way I interacted with others.
5. Lastly, it comes as no surprise that you are swimming in a sea of single men. There are many of us on this site and others. The ones that enjoy a degree of success are the ones who are in for the long term and who view women with positive and respectful lenses.

Stagg, did we talk? Seems you picked a bad time to join the lifestyle. If not anything else you can meet and hang around with us. Let us know if interested. Angel

well he is clean cut and with tight stomach so off to a good start there..

Ditto to RK's post and it is a terrible idea to ask people to cut you some slack with the profile. The more work you put into your profile the better you will do. Keep in mind that there are tons of single guys like yourself and you have to stand out from the crowd. Start a thread in the better profiles section and apply what you learn. No one will be out to put you down, but rather help you out. Taking really good non-selfie photos is huge. It isn't too difficult. You just need to put a little work into it. Good luck.

Welcome Stag..

Buckle up.. for starters your profile is lacking , doesn't show anything really interesting and your selfies immediately would be a NO lets move on. Especailly if taken in a bathroom" . Would you post that on a dating site?.. If you do not place the time and effort into what I mentioned.. many times guys like you are the same in bed.. and YES we have been swinging well over 23 years mainly with single guys and gals. You must have some friends or neighbors or work colleagues that can take some nice classy photos..

Your profile is "your" swinging resume. Your photos should show you can smile, laugh at yourself and have some interesting photos..

Good luck take the advice you are given and most of all have some class, be respectful, take your time in bed and flirting before hand.. and show up .. all our guys get it!

Hello all,
I'm new to this website but have been in the lifestyle for a couple years. I really enjoy mfm threesomes and having a man "share" his wife with me. I have tried reaching out to a few couples who's profile I match with. But with no success, does anyone have any advice for more success. I'm a in shape 26 year old straight guy. Well educated, with a great career. I'm well spoken and respectful. Any help?