That's actually what got us into the LS. Over the years we had 4 occasions that led to swapping and sharing. They were very hot and totally unplanned.
About 12 years, after a 3 couple spontaneous orgy happened in our hot tub we decided this needed to be a regular part of our life.
When we run into those friends from the hot tub we refer to as the night that didn't happen. Haha!
We only have one friend that we swing with.He is my husband’s best friend for years and years.He is single and he made a comment to my husband that he thought I was a sexy woman and he wished he had her as a FWB.My husband told me what he said so one night we had him over for dinner and drinks and I wore a low cut top no bra and a pair of loose silk shorts and finally he came in the kitchen and told me I was turning him on how I was dressed.So I told him that if he wanted to go to the bedroom let’s go.We went and had a wonderful time just him and me.When we finished we went into the den and got my husband and we all went back to the bedroom and had a awesome time.We all played together and sometimes just him and me for years
We had played with friends it did not end well, we are no longer friends, although we moved away. I would start by asking them if they know what the upside down pineapple meant, tell them you saw a lady at
the market with one in her cart upside down. Check their response, if they say yes she is a swinger, ask them if they have ever thought about it. Keep in mind as others have stated here, if you come out and ask them to swap be prepared to lose them as friends even neighbors. In our "tight ass" neighborhood we may or may not be swingers. We do not inquire even though there may be people we would love to fuck. We can and have been easily shunned by neighbors once they find out we swing. FUCK THEM ALL, but it is an awful feeling when they drive by and do not wave or do knowing how they feel about us. SHIT we are only human and love sex, what is wrong with that. So if the hot sex with them outweighs all the other factors go for it.. Good luck love to hear back how it went for you. Personally I would go for it we hate missed opportunities, and love swinging !!!
we met our friends at a swinger party. We had no idea they were swingers and they had no idea we were. We did not play at the party, but after we all knew the other wife and my wife dated for five years. Just them. The other husband was a douche bag.
We always wonder who
We know and if they would be ok swapping and fucking each other ?
Playing with friends is like loaning money. If you can afford to lose it give the loan. If they pay you back they are good friends.
If you can afford to lose them as friends play. If you all like it they will be good friends.
Don't.
First we have played before with others not this Couple . My friend has hinted to me that they were interested in the lifestyle. They do not know we have been in the lifestyle . He said his wife is in .
@BILS
You still were not clear :)
Did you and your wife play with that woman or is it that you have swung before? Two different interpretations there.
Do you feel that your friend is offering up an encounter with you and your wife? If so, that is a whole can of worms that you have to make a decision on.
Let me assume that is the case. You and your wife are friends with this other couple. They want to fuck you guys. This happened to us. We had been in the lifestyle for half a dozen years and our accountants were just getting into it. It took a HUGE amount of balls for them to talk to us about it. We were in our 30s, they were a dozen years older. We were such good friends that we went to their kids Bar and Bat Mitzvah. We were identified by one of their kids as being influential to them at the Bar Mitzvah. We chose to say no. Our logic was simple: The friendship was worth more than risking the friendship by exchanging bodily fluids. Now, that we are older, if we had some vanilla friends that were +/- 7 years of us, chances are we would say yes. We feel that we are more mature now in how to handle the situation should it get wonky and we feel that because of their age, they could be mature and wise enough as well.
But it also goes back to a statement that I used to make about affairs. Sixty minutes of pleasure is not worth 60 years of hell. So if we had any inclination that it would destroy the friendship, we would pass. Sex is easy to find, friends are harder to come by.
Bilsyl1043 - "We have played before in the past but he doesn’t know that ."
Did you play with her in the past and he doesn't know that? If Yes, that could be a problem if/when he finds out. Until someone experiences swapping that first time, you really don't know for sure if you'll be OK with it. We've seen people first hand that thought they were OK with it, but weren't.
If we had vanilla friends that expressed an interest in swinging we'd probably be OK letting them know we were swingers and answering any questions if they asked, but not sure if we'd look to play. We had what we thought were vanilla friends before we got into swinging that turned out to be swingers. Being that we were vanilla friends for so long, it would just feel weird to be playing with them, if that makes any sense.
I should have been more thorough with my statement. I Have a friend who is thinking of swapping and claims his wife is in . He brought this to my attention and asked what I thought about the swinging lifestyle. . We have played before in the past but he doesn’t know that .
If I were in your shoes, I'd listen to the advice of people in here. I would do something a little different . . . tell your friends of your lifestyle and tell them you are going to XYZ club. Just leave it at that. Then just take it from there. If they want to know more, they will ask. If they don't, they may just be quiet.
I would have to agree with the others. I would not advise this. However If your wife was bisexual and not straight you could start with a little flirting and see if it escalates. I would not advise the wife of this post to flirt with the other husband it's more acceptable the other way around. Or you might run into some serious jealousy issues. Hope this helps :-) good luck
With the willingness to lose your friendship over it.
Be cautious. You may lose the friendship if they are totally against it.
Easy.. invite them over for a nice dinner, set the mood with dim lights, music, and some light adult beverages.. dance with each others wife and begin an open conversation.. it has worked many times for us.
Or.. we meet at a dance venue , change partners and start flirting before you leave .. be sure your wife is on same page and go slow.. it will come naturally if all on same page
Let us know how it goes.. be sure to tell them once the conversation starts its only sex and everyone is going home with their spouse!
We have discussed swinging with friends we find it hott and appealing. We do have one friend couple in mind . How can we approach this .
