Too nervous?

BAM.. MIC DROP!

LOL Pass The Popcorn!

The tighty whitey ones are the worst

Also one other thing.. anyone with a selfie in there underwear.. do you really think you deserve a response from anyone... not classy and speaks volumes!

As we have said many times in Forums.. checking ones profile out means exactly nothing.. some do it to see what the profile reads, some look at the photos, some see what is in a certain area when traveling.. some take a bubble bath and enjoy reading profiles..

If one is that insecure with someone looking at a profile.. here is a suggestion turn OFF the who viewed me feature.. its that simple.

Make it your journey.. not anyone else's!

I think I just depends who the people are perusing your profile. I could say the same thing in regards to single black males. Think the etiquette on this sight, unfortunately, reflects the ethos of the country.

If you were closer we would love to meet good luck

In my case it has nothing to do with nervousness or body type, it is location. Even if I travel much. It is hard unless there is real planning. Hang in there I am sure you will find the right connection.

Your location may be part of the problem. I would also suggest going to munches. People are always vetting new potential play partners at munches. If I can help you with your journey, please let me know.

For us location is the key especially if you are in a dead location but there’s nothing wrong with reaching out who knows who might be traveling to your location

Location too or after reading profile I may not meet all the qualifications of what the couple or female is looking for.

plus location is always a problem. I checked your profile. Hot wife, I would love to see her naked and play

You do know a lot of fakes on here, husband made profile and she don't know about it.
Plus if a date is set for meet & greet, nerves set in can be very nerve racking first step for newbies.
And lets say oh boy a date to play, well before that ya need a plan to go from chatting to naked. I buy the lady a sexy outfit, not shear but nice. Then lets see what it looks like on.
Breaks the ice, hot tub works very well too.
Just saying from experience!

I'd say you should look at profiles and reach out to those that interest you. Will you be successful? It depends if those you contact have similar interests or desires as you have.

It takes time and effort. Being discouraged is not out of the norm but don't lose heart. hHen it finally begins to click it is well worth the effort.

"dont know much about the Rochester area,but maybe there aren't as many people like us in that area."

I'd say it is a pretty good area, and if you include an hour East, West and South, there are numerous opportunities.

Great! Hope y'all can arrange some meetings and fun soon.

Everyone we know is so busy this summer (including us) that scheduling has been more of a nightmare than normal. :-(

Thank you for the responses and encouragement. I reached out to a few couples we had previously been in contact with and they all said it would be great to meet up!

"...people tooting their own horn..."

They asked if couples with a BBW had any success here - I answered.

We went years without success here - it gets frustrating if you think there's no hope. Thankfully I was assured that occasionally people did meet and play despite online being the worst possible way to meet swingers. I try to pay that kindness forward.

Hi Dalmatia. Welcome to SLS.
Sorry you both are having trouble meeting folks.

I dont know much about the Rochester area,but maybe there aren't as many people like us in that area.

Don't be discouraged and don't be afraid to contact people you might think might be a match.

You may see if you can find a "meet and greet" in your area at a bar or restaurant as they are usually less pressure than say a club.

If you are ever in the DC area, let me know.
Happy to meet for a drink, some conversation and maybe some fun.

B

Hi Delmania, send out a hello to those that have looked at your profile. Bet you didn't think you'd be getting comments from people tooting their own horn. That's pretty much the norm here.

I don't know if I qualify as BBW but we're sometimes a little too successful with single gentlemen and reasonably successful with couples.

And we cannot travel at all so we're limited to those that can visit us - Fort Payne is not exactly on the beaten path.

"Should I be reaching out more?"

Don't reach out "more" unless more profiles interest you. You might give a second look at profiles that have viewed you but didn't reach out - they could be interested but hesitant, they could be wanna-be swingers or they could have decided you didn't suit.

But some look at profiles that are nearby, some look at profiles that post in forums, some look at profiles with catchy tag-lines - just because they looked doesn't mean there's any interest in meeting/playing.

This is an odd place. ;-)

I don't think I'd decide lack of contact means lack of interest, if what you mean is a specific lack of interest in the two of you. It's really more that there are a lot of people who are on here to look and their engagement stops there. They used to swing, they wish they could swing, they have an active fantasy life and are looking for images for that, whatever.

Don't let lack of messages affect you and do reach out to couples where you think there might be some attraction.

We have quite a few people who check out profile, but rarely does anyone reach out. I think it’s because most people aren’t interested. Am I wrong? Should I be reaching out more? Are people with bbw spouses successful here?