Why so hard?

“we think it would be easier meeting at a hotel”

If I’m dropping a Benjamin on a no expectation meet, I’d rather eat/drink on it and go from there.

~Allen

Does anyone else feel awkward meeting for dinner or drinks on the initial meeting? We aren't that into clubs but like meeting new people mostly through sls, sometimes we think it would be easier meeting at a hotel or our home, no expectation of course, it would just be easier to have a conversation. Would that be a turn-off or be considered being too aggressive?

A couple of things that I've said before here, mostly to the other single males:

First, making connections in the LS required the same amount of effort as in the vanilla world. There are no shortcuts.

The other thing is, like any other skill, making friends takes practice. So make it a point to talk to people. All. The. Time. Chat with the cashier at the grocery store. Ask the guy in line ahead of you at the theater about how he likes the hiking boots he's wearing. The subject doesn't matter as much as practicing the art of having a conversation. It doesn't matter if they become friends or not (either LS or vanilla). The practice in being friendly is priceless.

I think you can find friends anywhere. I've certainly found it fairly easy to do so in the swing community, including through SLS.
It does require having space in my life, though, and a willingness to put in some work to make robust connections and then tend them.

Thanks NNJCT, kind of you to say.

Welcome to the forums, GoodCouple.

To your question, a resounding yes, you certainly can make lasting friends here. However, it requires patience. Like many other things it seems sometimes that the harder you look for it the more elusive it becomes.

I encourage you to not pursue that particular aspect too much and just enjoy the journey. Friendships will develop over time on their own, and usually from the most unlikely of sources.

Best wishes

We're a VERY down to earth and energetic couple, why is it so hard to truly find like minds on this site? We gone to some parties and had good experiences. However, I (wife) would really like to find like minded people to enjoy regular life with. My hubs and I are best friends (since 2nd grade ha!) and both are professionals in our careers (Executive), we enjoy anything nature driven, relaxation, retreats, the moon lol, and even get in festivals and street fairs. Sex is great because we both practice the art of sex, but why is it so hard to find ppl really interested? Have you found good lasting friendships on sis? Tips?